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I want to spend more than my mom expects!

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I'm getting frustrated because i am finding that that wedding dresses i like are a little more money than my mom expects. she is assuming i am going to find something at david's for less than 1,000 and not that i am not open to that and there are dresses i really like there...but there is one dress that is closer to $2,000 that i really like and want to try on at a trunk show. how can i make her see that dresses cost more than she thinks...everything costs more than she thinks...than when she got married in 1971. Any suggestions? I want her to come dress shopping with me but i don't want her to reject a dress just on price.
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  • mbcdefgmbcdefg member
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    If you're paying, she needs to get over it.

    If SHE is payikng, respect her budget and choose a dress in her price range. Or pony up the difference yourself.
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  • MISSCOURTNEY20MISSCOURTNEY20 member
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    I agree with PP. If you are paying, then she needs to stay off of the price tag. But if she is paying, you have to respect her budget. And seriously, why pay thousands of dollars for a dress that you are going to wear ONCE!?!

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    Dresses don't cost more than she thinks, dresses that YOU happen to like apparantely do. I agree with PP that it depends on who is paying. If she is then, you really need to find something in that budget (and there are TONS of dreses that cost less than $1,000.). If you are paying then get whatever dress you like.

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    I agree with the other two as well.  It all depends on who's paying for it. However I orginally thought that I wouldn't care as much because you only wear it once but I came to find that it's the dress you wear once and get millions of pictures in that are going to last forever. You should have what you love on in those pictures.
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  • glam70sglam70s member
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    I'm willing to bet that you could find a dress very similar to the one that you love for less than $1000.
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  • akulajiakulaji
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    I agree with both PPs...
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  • repjrrepjr member
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    What is the brand?  Have you tried looking at less expensive brands?  I got my dress from Maggie Sottero and hers don't run more than 1500 USD.  A lot of these designers have similar styles, anyway, so I would just go and find some of the less spendy ones and THEN try on the more expensive dress.

    But, yes, as PP state, if she is paying, gotta go with her budget or give the difference.
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  • ChelseaBFHChelseaBFH
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    If there are any dresses you love, sign up for the email lists for the designer and any bridal stores in your area that carries the designer.  You might be able to get the dress you want for much, much cheaper at a sample sale.

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  • AmandalovesAlAmandalovesAl member
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    Try and find the dress you want online or from another bride who is selling hers.
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  • Ishaba11Ishaba11 member
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    Agreed with PPs. If she is paying either respect her budget or pay the difference.
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  • kristi-jikristi-ji
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    It depends on who is paying. If your mother is paying, you need to respect her budget. Who doesn't want to walk down the isle in their dream dress? The big shocker, your dream dress doesn't need to be above a certain amount of money to make you feel and look beautiful! Cutting costs does not mean cutting corners and if you look beyond the big name boutiques, you will certainly find it. Look at smaller, local shops, explore trunk sales, and smaller, more upcoming designers. Know what you like, what you want, what you are unwilling to compromise on and do your research. Your dress is out there at the price you can afford to pay.
    That being said, if you try on a dress and you have that "wow" moment, and you simply must must have it, you need to pay for the difference yourself and be prepared to sacrifice part of your budget for it.
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  • morainemommorainemom member
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    I'm a Mom -- and if you are paying for the dress, feel free to spend any amount for your dream dress.

    But if your parents are paying, please respect their budget and find a dress that is within their price point.   If they are paying, your parents are being VERY generous in giving you any money and help for your wedding.

    And for the record - we bought our daughter's wedding gown.  We had a budget of $1,500.  The wedding salon consultant kept bringing in gorgeous gowns with price tags of $3,000, $4,000 and $5,000!  They were beautiful and my daughter was lovely in them.

    But we couldn't afford them!  My daughter walked out of that shop and we went somewhere else and found a very similar gown to the $5,000 -- for $850.00.  The kicker?  The $850 gown was very more beautiful than the pricey, designer gown!

    She bought a silk, beaded Allure gown for $850.00 on sale.

    Shop around -- you can find a beautiful gown at an affordable price.  :)
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  • debbie313debbie313 member
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    Thanks for all the help everyone! I appreciate. I think my head is clearer about the whole situation.

    just to clarify...she is paying for more than half of the wedding and personally has about $700 for the dress. I am more than able and willing to give the rest for the dress. 

    my concern was just that she was not going to have an open mind for dresses that are more than 500 - 700.

    Thank you for everything.
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