Who did your parents sit with?

Ballet513 · June 2012

I'm just curious how other people did this. My parents are together, married for over 30 years and are "hosting" my wedding. They are paying for most of it and their names were listed on my invite. FI and I are sitting at a sweet heart table and we aren't having any sort of WP seating, we have 5 BM's and 5 GM's and they are all split up throughout the room at tables that make sense for them. (ex. my brother a GM will sit with our cousins, my best friend a BM will sit at a table w her hubby and other college friends etc). So who should my parents sit with? Should they sit with my moms sisters/brothers and spouses or my dads sisters/brothers and spouses? They would prefer not to split up their families (as in they won't sit at a table of half her family and half his). My mom is afraid to offend either side of the family so wasn't sure if there was any sort of etiquette on this?

brilibby4 · June 2012

Can you just do a table with parents and grandparents?

crash2729 · June 2012

I sat my family at their own tables. However, it made more sense for me because my parents are divorced. So, my Dad sat with his family and my Mom with hers.

If you are worried about aunts and uncles being offended, I would do your parents, siblings, grandparents at a table and then give your Mom's siblings a table, and your Dad's siblings a table.

[Deleted User] · June 2012

My parents are also hosting and are together for nearly 35 years. They are having a table close to the front with my mom's brothers and my dad's sister. My FI family will also have their own table on the opposite side of the dance floor, up front.

Ballet513 · June 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_who-did-your-parents-sit-with?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:3331cf56-31f0-4f93-a28a-b90e3ba7d7d4Post:7bb25dbc-9bb4-412d-b21a-b1b661e7dc14">Re: Who did your parents sit with?</a>:
[QUOTE]Can you just do a table with parents and grandparents?
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</div><div>No :( That would be a small table.

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Ballet513 · June 2012

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[QUOTE]I sat my family at their own tables. However, it made more sense for me because my parents are divorced. So, my Dad sat with his family and my Mom with hers. If you are worried about aunts and uncles being offended, I would do your parents, siblings, grandparents at a table and then give your Mom's siblings a table, and your Dad's siblings a table.
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</div><div>This is a good idea however, I only have one sibling and he would be miserable at a table with our parents and our one grandparent. Plus it would be a 4 person table lol, my grandmother and brother are both coming solo to the wedding. Both of my parents have too many siblings plus spouses to all fit at one table together. Ughh...

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gailpete · June 2012

At DD's wedding DH and I sat with my dad, my sisters and their SOs and kids (small family). DH's mom and siblings, SOs, etc were at two tables right next to us. It really depends on how many people you are talking about and what works best at the tables. Since we were only sitting at the table for the meal, and up mingling for the rest of the night, I don't think anyone was offended. An additional factor in our arrangement is that all of my family is from OOT so we don't see them often, whereas DH's family is relatively local so we can see them more frequently.

mica178 · June 2012

My parents sat with my aunt, my uncle and his wife, my grandmother and her "boyfriend," my sister and her BF, and my MOH and her husband.

H's parents sat with MIL's cousin and her husband, MIL's brother and his wife, and a few of their dearest friends. H's grandmother sat at another relative table.

ootmother2 · June 2012

I (MOB) had my 4 siblings w/ SOs and one special couple (sorta family) = 10 at table.

FOB had his own table with half of his siblings & SOs (10 at table)

There were no grandparents

Lolagirl2012 · June 2012

I would ask them who they would like to sit with, based on who they have the best chemistry with. I don't think anyone would get offended, but I looked at my seating and based on who would have the easiest conversation and have the most fun together. If they are closer to one side or the other, have them sit with that side.

When I asked my parents, they actually chose to have 3 couples they are good friends with verses sitting with our extended family which I had figured they would want to sit with (aunts and uncles, being that my grandparents have passed away). They wanted to spend the time with their closest friends, not force conversation with extended family. But I'm aware that this isen't always the case with all families.

willywally5 · June 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_who-did-your-parents-sit-with?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:3331cf56-31f0-4f93-a28a-b90e3ba7d7d4Post:2e34c30e-820e-4f19-8993-4a5142a4bf97">Re: Who did your parents sit with?</a>:
[QUOTE]<strong>For my wedding I want my parents in two different cities, but that is another story.</strong> I know for some people that put the grooms parents (if they still get along) and all the sets of grandparents at the table together.
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<div>I worry my DD thinks this ... her Dad and I (I'm stepmom) are hosting; her bio mom will be there. But I am determined to be the ever-gracious one and bite my tongue to the point of bleeding if needed to keep the peace. </div><div>
</div><div>I hope your parents behave for you!</div>

Summer2011Bride · June 2012

We let our parents decide who they wanted to sit with and worked out the rest of our seating chart around that. Each set of parents had their own table towards the front. My parents sat with my maternal grandparents, my mom's brother, my mom's cousin, and my paternal grandmother (her husband passed away).

The in-laws sat with both pairs of grandparents on his side, the officiant and his wife, and a close family friend and his wife.

Basically, it was just whoever they wanted to sit with!

midgetthemighty · June 2012

Well we didn't have assigned seating but we had two tables closest to us for both of our parents reserved. My parents wound up sitting with grandma, my dad's brother and his wife and I'm honestly not sure who else. His parents wound up ignoring the reserved sign and sitting with old friends of FIL's and MIL's sister/her husband.

I think it would be best if you just asked your parents whom they would like to sit with.

Carrie81677 · June 2012

My mom told me who she wanted at her table...her best friend of the last 30 years, BF's husband, my great-aunt, and the great-aunt's son and daugher-in-law. Each of my parents' siblings were at their own table with some or all of their children. There wasn't enough room for all the aunts and uncles at one table, and my mom didn't want to sit with them anyway. And there were no grandparents in the mix on my side.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown · June 2012

Family friends? My mom and her husband sat with some of my friends my mom knew, my dad sat with his girlfriend, my brother, my cousin, my cousin's son and my aunt.

Ballet513 · June 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_who-did-your-parents-sit-with?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:3331cf56-31f0-4f93-a28a-b90e3ba7d7d4Post:1935c72a-930d-4328-903a-91991f58acc9">Re: Who did your parents sit with?</a>:
[QUOTE]I would ask them who they would like to sit with, based on who they have the best chemistry with. I don't think anyone would get offended, but I looked at my seating and based on who would have the easiest conversation and have the most fun together. If they are closer to one side or the other, have them sit with that side. When I asked my parents, they actually chose to have 3 couples they are good friends with verses sitting with our extended family which I had figured they would want to sit with (aunts and uncles, being that my grandparents have passed away). They wanted to spend the time with their closest friends, not force conversation with extended family. But I'm aware that this isen't always the case with all families.
Posted by Lolagirl2012[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>Thanks for your reply. My parents actually aren't close with EITHER side and would prefer to sit with their friends but my mom thought this would be rude. Is it? The friends they are thinking of are people who have been close with us for years, I actually asked my moms childhood best friend to do a reading during my ceremony over asking any of my aunts and my dads close friend is my Godfather even though both of my parents have brothers. Maybe I should just seat them with their friends since thats what they want....my mom thought it looked rude though, however she could always blame the seating on me and pretend she had nothing to do with it!

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willywally5 · June 2012

I would just seat the with friends, esp if one if doing a reading. If your parents' sibliings aren't that close to them, they probably won't think twice about it.

scstar17 · June 2012

Aww we are sitting with ours! Both are contributing to our wedding and subsequent party in his home state. I would hate to not sit with our awesome moms and dad that day (my dad passed).

Our table will be my mom and brother, his parents and brother, my godmother and FI and I.

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