Engaged w/ out ring

FutureWifey4Him · May 2012

Anyone here engaged without a ring?

To you, is an engagment ring necessary if you'll be receiving a wedding band?

FutureWifey4Him · May 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_just-engaged-proposals_engaged-w-out-ring?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:683Discussion:0c8a7288-69e6-4f76-af8b-9412730ea332Post:e62aebd4-6264-419d-aeeb-e7a140c60784">Re: Engaged w/ out ring</a>:
[QUOTE]Engagement rings aren't necessary in order to be engaged. If the two of you have agreed that you intend to marry each other and have started thinking about wedding planning, you're engaged.
Posted by LucyHC[/QUOTE]

Yeah, we have been together for years & years and we've recently to get married this year. My FI wasn;t planning on getting me an engagement ring because he doesn't see the point. He feels that the actual wedding band is the most important thing.

JaniV123 · May 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Engaged w/ out ring : Yeah, we have been together for years & years and we've recently to get married this year. My FI wasn;t planning on getting me an engagement ring because he doesn't see the point.<strong> He feels that the actual wedding band is the most important thing</strong>.
Posted by FutureWifey4Him[/QUOTE]

<div>my FI feel the same way</div><div>
</div><div>I am currently engaged without a ring. we are at the researching stage of planning since we have set our date for 2015 </div><div>
</div><div>so a ring is not really necessary, its "typical" if you want to look at the technicality </div><div>
</div><div>congrats btw</div>

librababy · May 2012

No ring here either. We've been together 13 years, 3 kids and a house later and we finally decided to get married this year. We talked about marriage before but decided (I strongly suggested this year LOL) to do it this year on our 14 year anniversary. I've been looking at engagement rings but can't find anything I love...however whatever he gives me I will be happy with. I dont want him to spend an insane amount on a ring.

FutureWifey4Him · May 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Engaged w/ out ring : And what do YOU feel about that? It should be important to him to consider the things that are important to you.
Posted by LucyHC[/QUOTE]

We talked about it today acutally. He knows that I would like an engagement ring, so he says if he can afford it, he will get it. We do not have much disposable income, so def. he will be purchasing the wedding bands.

If he gets it after the wedding, I wonder if that would be okay. What do you think? (Once again, just because we don't have much money)

FutureWifey4Him · May 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_just-engaged-proposals_engaged-w-out-ring?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:683Discussion:0c8a7288-69e6-4f76-af8b-9412730ea332Post:6090359c-a7fd-4897-8a8d-9b4039a0b4e3">Re: Engaged w/ out ring</a>:
[QUOTE]It's perfectly ok to not have an engagement ring. In fact, you don't even really need wedding bands when you get right down to it. They are a symbol of the vows you make to each other, but that's all they are -- a symbol. If your fiance should wait and get you an "engagement ring" after you're married, that's fine too. Whatever the two of you decide will be fine. Keep in mind that an engagement ring doesn't necessarily have to be diamond(s) and gold or platinum. These days, lots of brides are going for colored gemstones, moissanite, pearls or imitation stones. Kate Middleton (and Princess Diana before her) has a sapphire engagement ring. Jessica Simpson has a ruby engagement ring. If you look through the "show off your rings" thread on this board, you'll see a wide variety of rings. My husband and I considered ourselves engaged for two years before he actually did the proposal and ring thing. I called him my fiance, he referred to me as his fiancee, but we had no immediate plans to get married. Once it became feasible for us, he proposed with a ring. However, when we actually got married I didn't have my wedding band yet. It was being sized, and we had to change our wedding date unexpectedly, so my ring wasn't available on our wedding day. No biggie...I took off my engagement ring and gave it to him, and that's the ring he put on my finger when we married. My wedding band wasn't ready for another week. It wasn't the ring that was important; what really mattered was that we were married.
Posted by LucyHC[/QUOTE]

I love everything you said! It is so true. Thank you so much for your feedback!!! I truly appreciate it.

dewingedpixie · May 2012

My best friend is married she didnt want a ring and doesnt even wear a wedding band!

As to me we havent officially announced it outside our circle because we have a ring in motion and my Fiance wants to do an official proposal first, but we have a date set an we're paying for our venue this weekend.

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peachykeen26 · May 2012

I was engaged without "the ring" for a while. But, I did have my promise ring that I just switched hands.
You don't need a ring to be engaged, and don't let anyone tell you otherwise.

ladyvaill · May 2012

Money is tight for my FI as well. I had mentioned to him that it was the symbol of the ring that I cared about, not the price or the size of the ring. He proposed this past Sunday with his grandma's ring. She really wanted it passed onto me, which means a lot. It is more beautiful than anything I can imagine him getting from a store.

If you are wanting a ring for your engagement, is there a family heirloom he could propose with? I have a friend who had that and when money got better for them, her husband bought her an engagement ring of her own.

I don't think it's necessary to have an engagement ring. I have a friend who only wanted her wedding band.

It's really up to the both of you.

~d

lilfaeriebrat · May 2012

FI and I decided last weekend to get married. He didn't get me a ring because like many others money is tight. I told him I didn't care about the size and if he really wanted to get me a bigger ringer later when money is better he could. His first marriage he didn't "do it right", so he wants to do it right this time with me. So we're engaged narrowing down dates but we're not telling our family until after he gets the ring and officially proposes. We looked at Walmart last night for rings and I found a few that I like that were less than $75. I told him as long as it's not yellow gold I don't care. We're both born in September so a Saphire would make a great stone instead of a diamond.

runpipparun · May 2012

Consider getting your wedding bands before the wedding and wearing them on your right hands, then switching them over for on your wedding day. I believe that is the custom in Brazil.

Personally, I wanted to do that, because I am not a huge fan of the diamond trade and I think the practice of engagement ring wearing for the woman is antiquated in the age of the liberated woman. (If you do some research, you will find out that it has its roots in making a commodity out of your viriginity.) My fiance, on the other hand, is very traditional and has always envisioned proposing with a ring. We compromised with a sapphire.

Talk to your fiance and come to a compromise. But I really like the Brazilian custom. My folks went to our exchange students' wedding in Brazil and said it was gorgeous.

semplesarah · May 2012

You don't have to have a ring. My brother and sister in law had there's tattooed never actually bought a band of any kind.

spiment · May 2012

One of my best friends is married and simply decided she didn't want an engagement ring (but she does have a wedding ring). She also lives abroad where the engagement culture isn't as crazy as it is in the States. But her Mother in Law finally broke down and is "embarassed" that her son didn't buy my friend an engagement ring and bought my friend a diamond ring for her to wear when they visit the MIL in Texas--so bizarre. My point is, if you dont want one or don't feel the need for one--dont let culture and society pressure you into feeling like you do.

CowgirlUp515 · May 2012

I dont have a ring yet either. Im not a very "traditional" type of girl and its just not that important to me right now.
We plan to openly announce our engagement in August and he will be buying me a new claddagh ring (its about $30 at walmart). I will turn my claddagh ring around when we get married, but we will also have traditional wedding bands.

bogne1cm · May 2012

My boyfriend and I have talked about getting engaged soon. He wants to pop the question, but doesn't have the money for a ring. I told him that I could care less because the ring doesn't matter to me. It's just something more. I said that he could use one of the rings I haven't worn a lot, or we could continue to use our promise ring, if he really felt bad about it. I don't know what he's planning but he seems okay with the idea.

If you really feel bad about the ring, find one in your collection that you both like, or find a ring you both like (doesn't have to be labeled engagement).

I have a celtic ring with a light blue jewel in it that he has been looking at. Our promise rings have the infinity knot going around the band. We plan to use these for our wedding bands.

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