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NER: Tacky graduation party thing

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So, some of our friends both gradutated college recently and this past weekend they had a joint graduation party. On the invite flyer they had one of the tackiest things I ever saw and it just screams in my head - especially since I started lurking on e-board.

The invite told people to 'bring extra cash for raffle tickets with proceeds going to bob and jane".

WHAT!!?!? 

You are having a graduation party and telling people to bring money for a raffle. I couldn't beileve it!

I just needed to complaign about it to someone, because no one else understood the travesty of it. Maybe i'm overreacting, but I thought that was pretty rude.
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  • [Deleted User][Deleted User] member
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    Uhhhh..... that's basically screaming "GIVE US MONEY" everyone knows you're a broke college graduate. That's life. But... "buy a raffle ticket"? What are the prizes? Dollar store toys and candy? Now, if they're giving away awesome things like, a trip to somewhere or a hotel stay for two, maybe I'd flinch a little less. Maybe.
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  • SewInLoveWithDMBSewInLoveWithDMB member
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    Yikes.

    I can see why you find it weird, but I'm guessing the best way to "protest" is to just not buy a raffle ticket when at the party.  It's pretty rude, but if no one will appreciate your opinion (except us), just let it go and don't participate.

    I was also thinking - say it's a 50/50 (instead of Dollar Store prizes, as mentioned above - which is probably true. I'm giving them a lot of credit with a 50/50, lol) Presume others feel the same way as you. There are 40 people at the party, and 25 of them buy raffle tickets - say $10 worth (which would be high IMO). That's $250. In a 50/50, the prize would then be $125 - for the winner and for Bob and Jane. 

    Bob and Jane would then split it (even if they are a couple) - to $62.50 each.

    It would not be worth it to me for $62.50 to alienate friends! After writing that on the flyer, guests may also now give less for an actual graduation gift knowing they will need to shell out money on a raffle (and only 50% of it will go to the graduates). It just appears to be a bad idea overall.

    (And I work at a lot of non-profit groups and run 50/50s. Even with very large groups, most people put in $1 or $5. It's the volume of people in attendance that get the pot/kitty/whatever you want to call it higher - not the amount of money put in.)

    And to get even more technical - I don't think you can "gamble" without a license. Clearly this is small potatoes, but it still is probably not legal...
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  • Stina51286Stina51286 member
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    I honestly never understood college graduation parties and I really don't understand why they'd be doing a raffle. I would just skip out on the raffle part of it and not say anything to anyone else.

     

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  • hardlyhannahhardlyhannah member
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    Yea it was things like a cake and they put together date nights and stuff like that and you entered to win what prize specifically you wanted. (I didn't go because it was this past weekend and I was OOT but I read ALLL about it on facebook)
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  • hardlyhannahhardlyhannah member
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    And I said something to Scott but wasn't planning on saying anything to anyone else other then here - they just don't understand! ;-)
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  • Ro041Ro041 member
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    Whoa.  That is so rude!  The only time it's ok to solicit money is at a fundraiser for a charity or non-profit!  Unbelievable. 

    If I had gone, I just wouldn't have participated.  Good thing you were able to avoid that whoel thing!

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  • ironmom5ironmom5
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    That is horrifying.  But it only gets worse.  Wait until you enter the land of The Bump and are subjected to the horrors of baby showers and what people think is appropriate.

    Can you all please promise me right now that you will never, ever have a diaper raffle?
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_october-2013-weddings_ner-tacky-graduation-party-thing?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:1925524f-fa8b-432f-a7b5-be486ce756efDiscussion:c5f61258-ab1b-44cf-9ac9-4c128064ded4Post:46160820-1086-47ed-9787-4e48a1abbd3a">Re: NER: Tacky graduation party thing</a>:
    [QUOTE]That is horrifying.  But it only gets worse.  Wait until you enter the land of The Bump and are subjected to the horrors of baby showers and what people think is appropriate. Can you all please promise me right now that you will never, ever have a diaper raffle?
    Posted by ironmom5[/QUOTE]

    <div>Pshhh - I have never heard of a diaper raffle, but after doing some research, it makes me wanna puke.  I did go to a shower recently where they put where the mom-to-be was registered on the invitation (no big deal), and had an insert with a cutsie poem about buying the baby a book also.  I was like, WTF, I have to buy a gift and a book??  </div>

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  • ironmom5ironmom5
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_october-2013-weddings_ner-tacky-graduation-party-thing?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:1925524f-fa8b-432f-a7b5-be486ce756efDiscussion:c5f61258-ab1b-44cf-9ac9-4c128064ded4Post:1cbf82d0-2c53-489b-bedc-4c4183cd81d1">Re: NER: Tacky graduation party thing</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: NER: Tacky graduation party thing : Pshhh - I have never heard of a diaper raffle, but after doing some research, it makes me wanna puke.  I did go to a shower recently where they put where the mom-to-be was registered on the invitation (no big deal), and had an insert with a cutsie poem about <strong>buying the baby a book also</strong>.  I was like, WTF, I have to buy a gift and a book??  
    Posted by Rochelle041[/QUOTE]

    That's super common now.  My shower was a complete surprise (like, no one even asked me if they could host kind of surprise), which was super sweet, but then I found out that was done and I was so embarrassed.  It's cute, but no.  Very gift grabby IMO and if I had known, I would have vetoed.

    I also just went to a bridal shower where I had to address my own thank you envelope.  What?
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_october-2013-weddings_ner-tacky-graduation-party-thing?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:1925524f-fa8b-432f-a7b5-be486ce756efDiscussion:c5f61258-ab1b-44cf-9ac9-4c128064ded4Post:fe67a14f-2ee6-4d5c-8028-480ab98b396b">Re: NER: Tacky graduation party thing</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: NER: Tacky graduation party thing : That's super common now.  My shower was a complete surprise (like, no one even asked me if they could host kind of surprise), which was super sweet, but then I found out that was done and I was so embarrassed.  It's cute, but no.  Very gift grabby IMO and if I had known, I would have vetoed. I also just went to a bridal shower <strong>where I had to address my own thank you envelope</strong>.  What?
    Posted by ironmom5[/QUOTE]

    <div>Yup.  This exact same thing happened to me at that same baby shower.  It was odd to see my own handwriting on an envelope a few weeks later.  </div>

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