Is anyone else having a problem with this?

Re: Is anyone else having a problem with this?

• vk2204 member

  

  June 2012

  Yeah, I am feeling the same way. From the time we got engaged to our wedding day is 2 years exactly. The first year flew by, and the second one is going even faster. I feel like I learn about something new each week that I have to add to the 'to do' list and I am starting to freak out a little bit. I still live at home, I don't have a lot of personal space so getting all of my projects done has gotten to be a pain because I am running out of room. Just take a deep breath and everything will work out perfectly! (that is what I try to tell myself, haha!)

   

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• Sue-n-Kevin member

  

  June 2012

  Megannie: I think you feel this way possibly because you have kids. I too had kids, but older, when we were planning our wedding. It was my first, my hubby's 3rd wedding.
  
  Yes, it goes fast, but you DO have plenty of time.
  
  For both of you: if you haven't, make a spreadsheet. Organize it backward from your wedding day. You wll be fine.

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• Meegles4 member

  

  June 2012

  You'll get it all done...I promise. I second Sue's idea of a spreadsheet. In my case, I used the checklist The Knot provides, and just added a few personalized items. I also bought a book of checklists at B&N.
  
  If you REALLY haven't started yet, the first things you should do are set a budget and a guest list. Doesn't even have to be a firm guest list, but you need to have an idea of how many heads you're covering. Then, you can find the venue. The ladies here are great with venue options. Once that's covered, you can get the "big" vendors: photog, DJ, flowers, etc. As for picking vendors, don't overwhelm yourself with too many options. Check out the sticky at the top of the board or do some research. Narrow each vendor category down to 2-3 that you've heard good things about and that fall within your budget. Then, if you want to meet with them, narrow it down to a final one. Don't meet with a ton of people, and don't research a ton of people. Keep the pool small so you don't have big decisions to make. Shoot, for most of our vendors, I just met with one person who was highly recommended and booked them. These are not life or death decisions :-) 
  
  And once those "big" vendors are nailed down, the rest falls into place. You'll end up DIYing the things you truly want to do, and if you don't get something done, it's no big deal. Your wedding will still look great and you and your FI will still be married.
  
  I spent the majority of our engagement worried about how the wedding would look and completely unsure of my vision (or lack thereof). And I still can't believe how gorgeous it was. It all works out in the end.
  
  Good luck!

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• AmyNoelle

  

  June 2012

  It seems overwhelming if you look at the big picture.  It's much more manageable when you break it down into small tasks.  You don't have to worry about every detail right now.  You only have to deal with one thing at a time because you have plenty of time.
  
  What helped me was finding an all encompassing checklist online, kind of like this one:
  http://www.littleweddingguide.com/checklist/
  
  I can't remember where I found mine, but mine was even more detailed.  Just do a google search and I'm sure you can find several.  The idea is that every detail you can imagine and more are on the list broken down by month working backward from what you should do 12 months out, then 11 months out, etc, all the way to the week before the big day.  It made it SO much easier for me.  If it was 11 months out, I knew I only had to worry about what was on that short list and not stress about things that didn't need to be done that far ahead.
  
  As planning went on, I added my own items also where they belonged timewise.
  
  Now I'm three days out and voila, no stress!

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