Quite the predicament

Re: Quite the predicament

• Avion22 member

  

  November 2012

  First of all, I'm so sorry about your fiance's grandmother.  My husband's grandmother is 96, and there were a few weeks there where she was in the hospital and we thought we might have to speed things up in order for her to see us get married. Fortnately she pulled through.   

  
  

  A lot of people plan weddings in a hurry.  I would recommend you shoot for something more like 3 months away, so you're not cutting it close if she takes a turn for the worse.   Your first step is setting a budget, and your second is finding a venue.   You may have better luck finding a venue in the winter, especially if you're open to getting married on a Friday or Sunday (and you may even save money!).  

  
  

  Then, start looking for dresses ASAP.  Your best bet is to find a dress that can be bought off the rack or ordered in your size (not custom-made to your measurements), then altered to fit.   David's Bridal does this (you can buy off the rack in a lot of sizes), but a lot of other places will rush a dress, especially if you explain the situation.   

  
  

  Finally, let people do their job. Instead of obsessing over your flowers, just give your florist a budget and tell him/her what you want, and let everything happen.  Same thing with your caterer, DJ, or whatever else.  These people do hundreds of weddings a year -- this is your first.  They know better than you what will work and how to save money, so let them do their jobs:-)  They will love you for it, and you will be WAY less stressed out:-)

  

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• ksblumb member

  

  November 2012

  I didn't read the entire thread, so excuse me if I'm duplicating info, but this is totally doable.
  
  My FI and I were engaged on June 7, 2012 and were also planning on a 2014 wedding. However, my dad has renal cancer that is progressing quickly and we want him to be there. On October 10th we decided firmly that we would have our wedding on January 31st, 2013.
  
  So, from first hand experience, 7 months is totally workable. The only thing is that you will need to buy your dress off the rack, as there won't be time to order.
  
  If you need any advice let me know! Good luck! You can definitely have the wedding of your dreams

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• tally7 member

  

  November 2012

  you can definitely do it - pick a date and then set aside time to work on the wedding - it is very doable

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• ootmother2 member

  

  November 2012

  You can absolutely do it!
  
  I planned my wedding in 10 days.  Took tons of organization and helpful family but it can be done!
  
  
  Good luck!

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• DramaGeek member

  

  November 2012

  I'm so sorry about your fiance's grandmother.

  
  

  A wedding in 7 months or less is totally doable.  And, given that 7 months is an estimate, I would shoot for more like 3-4 months or less.

  
  

  We did my SIL's wedding in 3 weeks.  Some things we found  - keep it small, the fewer peole you invite, the more options you have on space.  Find a non-traditional venue - SIL and BIL actually got married in my IL's house.  Be open to whatever time is available.  For budget, having your ceremony at a non meal time will help; for instance, do a 2 pm ceremony and then have appetizers and cake afterward, or do an 8 pm ceremony with dessert and coffee.

  
  

  
  

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• cwaggoner07 member

  

  November 2012

  We had a 7 month engagement and during that time I worked a busy tax season with 70 hour weeks.
  I agree with pushing it to 3-4 months, but it is SO doable. Keep it simple, and it will save you a lot of stress.

  It was a fairytale.

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• itzMS member

  

  November 2012 edited November 2012

  This is truly a personal decision only you as a couple can make since you only get one wedding day.
  
  In my honest opinion, I would keep with the date you and FI originally wanted.
  
  While it would be sad not having Grandma there, wouldn't it even be more sad to move up your wedding date and to (let's hope not, but potentially) have her too ill to even attend?
  
  Why not just enjoy every moment you can with Grandma and leave the stress of wedding planning out of it?
  

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• mcda04 member

  

  November 2012

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_ceremony-ideas_quite-the-predicament?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:10Discussion:079a3ef2-4746-4a9f-91a4-2c6949f44b3cPost:185a4e4e-e82a-466b-b323-f827d9311197">Quite the predicament</a>:
  [QUOTE]Hey ladies, As my post title presents, I am in quite the predicament. My fiancé and I got engaged on June 15 th 2012. With the intentions of our engagement being a long one – not planning on being married until 2104 – we have not planned any wedding details AT ALL. In a sad turn of events, my fiancés grandmother was recently diagnosed with terminal cervical cancer. She was told just last week that she had at the most 7 months to live. This woman has been a huge part of his life and is like a second mother to him. While visiting her over the weekend, she told him that one thing she would love is to be able to see us marry. I love my fiancé more than anything and would love to do this for him and his family. That being said, I am having a hard time imagining pulling together a wedding with less than 7 months. I need help! Where do I start? We are looking to have something very budget friendly in San Diego that can still look elegant and beautiful. I would love some input, advice, or guidance. Thank you for reading :)
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  I'm sorry you and your FI are going through this with his dear G-ma. Enjoy her to the fullest.
  
  planning a wedding in 7-8 months can be done. It took me 6 months to plan mine this year. Good luck. i found this site with several inexpensive San Diego venues.
  
  <a href="http://www.wedcheaper.com/San-Diego-Inexpensive-Wedding-Venues.html" rel="nofollow">http://www.wedcheaper.com/San-Diego-Inexpensive-Wedding-Venues.html</a>

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• Kmueller272 member

  

  November 2012

  I am pulling off my wedding in 5-6 months. It's still enough time for most designers to make your dress. I just bought one last week and they said it would ship at the end of Feb/early March and my wedding is on April 20. Everything is doable, however you might have to compromise on the venue. I don't want to sound harsh, but those 7 months the doctor told her are a ballpark figure. If I were you, I would go dress shopping asap and try to get a venue for March/April.

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• vexie member

  

  November 2012

  I'm so sorry to hear about the grandmother.  That must be so sad for the family.
  That said... absolutely you can plan a wonderful wedding in 7 months! We did!  You just need some heavy duty planning in the next month.
  
  1. Decide on your budget and how many guests you can afford
  2. start looking at possible venues immediately.  Be open to ideas outside of the traditional church/reception hall ideas.... outdoor ceremony and afternoon tea? later evening ceremony with just cocktails/appetizers etc.   We held ours in an old church that was converted into a restaurant. It was awesome!
  2. once you know the venue/style start dress shopping!  There may be some dresses that won't be an option for you because of the time frame you need them in, however if you let the salon know, they'll point you in the direction of dresses that have a shorter turn around time.... and you can get amazing deals 'off the rack'!! 
  3. Make sure you have an officiant, inviations (can be done quickly and easily through online sites) and book a florist.  If you need a DJ, book them.
  
  -we got all these details completed in under a month which left tons of time for all the other little details!
  
  Good luck!  It's never fun to plan such a big day under such emotional circumstances but in the end it will be worth it if she can attend the ceremony too

  84 73 11 Wedding date: June 11, 2011

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