Thank You Question

Purple&7 · March 2012

My mom and I were talking the other day about the thank you cards. I told her that I needed to buy more because I didn't have enough for the wedding. She said that I didn't need any more because you give thank you cards for the people who bring you a gift to the wedding. I thought that everybody who attended the wedding got a thank you card even if they didn't bring a gift. Who's right?

jaime10285 · March 2012

I think it's only people who bring a gift/cash. That's all I was planning on doing anyway...

Ash61612 · March 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_june-2012-weddings_thank-you-question?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:3ae4d68d-f10a-4dec-8810-da13c14a7b86Discussion:121ec29c-56c8-46bd-93ad-461e645f05c1Post:87af736f-b9e4-4d69-abcf-aa30e1e43675">Re:Thank You Question</a>:
[QUOTE]I think it's only people who bring a gift/cash. That's all I was planning on doing anyway...
Posted by jaime10285[/QUOTE]
this is also what I plan on doing as well

Purple&7 · March 2012

Thanks ladies!

kks4471 · March 2012

I actually think a card should go to all guests, because you can thank them for spending time with you to celebrate your wedding. Maybe that's just me though.

melntaitt · March 2012

I'm stalking your question....I never even thought of it. I've been sending thank you's to everyone as presents came in. Never considered sending one to everyone...

Zimsgirl · March 2012

In Response to Re:Thank You Question:[QUOTE]I think it's only people who bring a gift/cash. That's all I was planning on doing anyway... Posted by jaime10285[/QUOTE]
Same here

Melissa603 · March 2012

You should really send a thank you to every guest for spending the day with you. They still spent a considerable amount of time and money to share you day with you. And the wedding is not just for getting gifts/cash. It is to share the day with your loved ones.

MMRoberts11 · March 2012

I've seen it done both ways. I think it just depends on your circle and what they typically do. I'll just be sending thank yous to those who bring a gift/card because the reception is a thank you for coming.

[Deleted User] · March 2012

Personally, I would also send one to everyone, even those that did not bring a gift. They have honored me with their presence and I would be thankful that they did come to this important occasion for me. A gift is not required for me to let me know how thankful I am.

I don't think there's answer for "who's right" but it sounds like more of a personal choice.

diamondx423 · March 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_june-2012-weddings_thank-you-question?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:3ae4d68d-f10a-4dec-8810-da13c14a7b86Discussion:121ec29c-56c8-46bd-93ad-461e645f05c1Post:74270962-0492-4f7f-bda8-166bad036de1">Re: Thank You Question</a>:
[QUOTE]You should really send a thank you to every guest for spending the day with you. They still spent a considerable amount of time and money to share you day with you. And the wedding is not just for getting gifts/cash. It is to share the day with your loved ones.
Posted by Melissa603[/QUOTE]

This. Everyone that comes to the wedding should get a thank you. Emily Post says you have a year to give a wedding gift, so one still might come your way. Even if it doesn't, I'm not having a wedding to rack up gifts, I'm having it to spend time with my friends and loved ones.

sweet_melissa81 · March 2012

I have never gone to a wedding and not brought a card with a check in it for the bride and groom, so I am not sure how the thank you thing works when people don't bring a gift.

On a side note, I have gone to weddings where I have given a gift and never received a thank you card. I think it's very rude to not send one at all.

A couple got married 3 weeks before Christmas and they ended up receiving very little from some people. I think it was tought on the families to give out extra money during the holidays when they're already strapped on cash. I think with the down economy some people just don't have the money or resources to give, but if they could still make it to my wedding (like an aunt or cousin) I would still want them to be there. Some people are just extremely cheap or have terrible etiquette.

DrPB2b13 · March 2012

I think etiquette only dictates that you ate required to send a thank you to the people who bring a gift. However, sometimes gifts lose cards, or giftgivers forget to put their names down altogether. I think it's just kind to send a thank you to everyone. That way you definitely haven't missed anyone, especially if some people pitched in to buy a gift together. It's better than nothing.

kelsey+brandon · March 2012

I'm only sending a thank you card to the people who give us a present/card. I don't think it's necessay to send an additonal thank you if they just attended. That's what the favors at the wedding (and the food and alcohol and band) are for.

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