engagement party question

Re: engagement party question

• marissa_claire member

  

  November 2010 edited December 2011

  I wouldn't register anywhere.  There's a chance people will give you gifts, but I certainly wouldn't expect it.  

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• greenturtlelove

  

  November 2010 edited December 2011

  I would go register at least so people have the option to get you something you'll actually want.

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• ECI1151 member

  

  November 2010 edited December 2011

  Yea we definetly arn't expecting gifts! Honestly, we don't even have that much room for any gifts in the 1 bedroom apartment we live in now. (We are moving to a larger apartment before we get married though!)
  
  And I kinda wanted to wait till a little closer to the wedding to register (We are getting married May 2012) because I'm sure new stuff will come out by then and I'm sure we will purchase things on our own in between now and then and that way the registery will be more up to date. Does that sound reasonable or should we go ahead and register now?

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• marissa_claire member

  

  November 2010 edited December 2011

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_pre-wedding-parties_engagement-party-question-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:32Discussion:c0526d8f-a3fc-41f2-ba0a-5ae7d68f7bfdPost:8171396c-4df4-4187-8c58-0e740477ea42">Re: engagement party question</a>:
  [QUOTE]Yea we definetly arn't expecting gifts! Honestly, we don't even have that much room for any gifts in the 1 bedroom apartment we live in now. (We are moving to a larger apartment before we get married though!) And I kinda wanted to wait till a little closer to the wedding to register (We are getting married May 2012) because I'm sure new stuff will come out by then and I'm sure we will purchase things on our own in between now and then and that way the registery will be more up to date. Does that sound reasonable or should we go ahead and register now?
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  </div><div>Totally reasonable.  The whole thing with registering, as you'll find, is that styles change and your tastes might even change between now and then.  In the event you do decide to register, I would recommend going for "needs" that don't involve taste - cooking utensils, small appliances, that sort of thing.  Save things like bedding and serving ware until later.  
  
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• NillaWafer10 member

  

  November 2010 edited December 2011

  How would you let people know about the registry without sounding like you expect gifts?

  
  

  I think you should just graciously accept any gifts your guests wish to give you.

  

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• jeanna85 member

  

  November 2010 edited December 2011

  This is totally dependent on your social circle and your part of the country. Where I live, people spend about $75 to $200 on engagement party gifts. Definitely not just a frame or a bottle of wine. For our e-party, we registered but didn't tell anyone about it. People still figured it out and to my surprise, my entire Macy's registry and most of my BBB one were completely purchased. If I hadn't registered, I can imagine the random unmatched stuff I would have received. Bc it was 2 years before the wedding, we did not register for things with high turnover (like bedding). We registered for our china, silverware, and crystal that we knew would be available in 2 years and also put on most of our small appliances figuring that we could swap them out if they weren't purchased and became discontinued.

  

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• ourwedding111111

  

  November 2010 edited December 2011

  I don't think you need to register for an engagement party.  My parents threw us an engagement party 2 weeks ago.  We didn't register, some people didn't give any gifts or cards... we got cards from some people, some people gave checks or cash, some other people gave photo frames or albums and a few gave very thoughtful useful in everyday life gifts.  No one really gave us anything that we couldn't use.  But like someone else said, the party was such a wonderful gift in and of itself. NillaWafer is right, I think the best thing is to graciously accept any gift you might be given.  

  The one thing that we did do is send a thank you card to every person or couple that came to celebrate our engagement,, if they gave a gift or not, it didn't matter to us.  We were truly grateful that they were so happy for us and came together to celebrate our engagement.  

  

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• LiaAli

  

  November 2010 edited December 2011

  We had an engagement party and at that time it was a year and half before our wedding so we hadn't even thought about registering. We also didn't know people gave gifts at engagement parties either! But everyone who came brought us a gift which was a great surprise! We mostly got cash and checks while some gave bottles of wine and gift cards. We were just glad that everyone came so the gifts were a bonus. Our wedding is 11 months away and I'm not going to register till about 6 months before ...people say to do around then so the stuff you pick out doesn't go out of stock.

  "Came but for friendship and took away love"

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• Soon2BMrsClay member

  

  November 2010 edited December 2011

  Definitely register.  we told our parents that we registered so that if family/friends ask our parents can pass the info along.

  

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