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Don't want to offend anyone...

odustudent22odustudent22
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in August 2012 Weddings
My Aunt made my bouquet for me, and it's exactly what I wanted, with the exception of it is pretty big.  I'll post a picture when I can.  I don't want to change anything on it because I don't want to offend her.  I'm thinking I only carry it down the aisle and hold it for a few pictures, so it's not that big of a deal....right??????
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  • eseney82eseney82 member
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    Good rule of thumb is that your bouquet shouldnt be bigger than your head.  Sounds crazy, I know, but if its too big it doesnt look proportional.
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  • odustudent22odustudent22
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    even for a teardrop shapped one?  i'd say mine is a bit gigger than my head, that's for sure.

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  • eseney82eseney82 member
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    Circumference.  Tear-drop is okay, just not wider than your head.  At least this is what florists I have met with are telling me.

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  • rungirl12rungirl12 member
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    Can your bouquet be "undone" easily to remove some flowers?  I made mine and all I would need to do is rip off the ribbon around the stems and the wire around them if I wanted to change it.  If she can do something like that, I would just nicely tell her it's a bit large and ask her to remove a few of the flowers. You could volunteer to stick around while she does it so you can give her the a-ok when it's the correct size.

    I actually just pointed out some wedding pics on FB to my FI last night because I thought the flowers were unproportionally large!  (Not to scare you!)  It's all personal preference anyway!
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  • odustudent22odustudent22
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    I am at work right now and don't have access to the picture of the bouquet ( I have a great one of me trying on my dress with the flowers-because she made the bouquet before she'd seen the dress in person-we live in different states)
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  • eseney82eseney82 member
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    I think it looks ok.  You want to hold it much lower when you walk down the aisle.  All weddings I have been in, they tell you to hold it just past your belly button.
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  • odustudent22odustudent22
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    you don't think it's to big?  that makes me feel much better =D
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  • msowenamsowena
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    I hope this isn't rude as you seems like your looking for honest opinions, I personally think it's a little too big. However, what we think isn't what matters. I think if YOUR un-happy with it enough to post about it here, and it is obviously stressing you out, you should try to take some out yourself if possible (only a few so she wouldnt notice...it's not like she's gunna be counting the flowers the day of the wedding!) or just nicely let her know that you LOVE it but it would be absolutley perfect if it was just a little smaller. I doubt she wants you to be unhappy with it! If it were me I wouldn't be offended at all...it's not like you don't like the bouquet, you just don't want it that large.

     If it's an easy fix, then I would fix it or have her fix it.
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  • odustudent22odustudent22
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_august-2012-weddings_dont-want-to-offend-anyone?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:1fb748ee-7a4e-40eb-b4b4-e553486f4cacDiscussion:fb0e06e5-2e34-4224-80ac-52271c45a59cPost:f542abfa-7a33-47d6-aa21-23608802a526">Re: Don't want to offend anyone...</a>:
    [QUOTE]Are your flowers silk?
    Posted by mtishawt[/QUOTE]
     yes, they are silk flowers
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  • eseney82eseney82 member
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    It didnt look too big until you posted the zoomed in picture.  I would maybe try just removing the outer ring of flowers and see if that helps at all
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  • gymbugmj2kgymbugmj2k member
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    its just the slightest bit too big.  I agree with PP, if you can do it, remove a few of the flowers.  If not, its not a huge deal.  Also, yes. hold the bouquet a little lower.  You want to see the detail in the top of your dress anyway =)

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  • odustudent22odustudent22
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    I was thinking that if I can find a way to remove the outer flowers and my aunt says anything, I can tell her I wanted to use the same flowers for the toss, and I couldnt find matching silk flowers at the craft store here (which I cant) so maybe it wouldn't offend her. Thanks everyone
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  • LibbyC730LibbyC730 member
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    I love the sprayed look of your bouquet.  I think if you removed the top part of the outer circle it would keep the draped feel and take a lot off the volume.  I think your aunt will be glad to help change the size and know that she created something you LOVE!!
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