Newly engaged & don't know where to start planning!!!

Re: Newly engaged & don't know where to start planning!!!

• redheadfsu member

  

  December 2010

  First sit down with your FI and talk about the big picture. Ask each other what are the three most important things in your wedding. (Location, amount of guests, family, food, a certain month, etc). Then talk about those choices. That should help you both get on the same page. Then start talking budget & date. What are you and your FI comfortable spending on your wedding? (Don't ask family to help pay. If they offer great, but do not ask.)
  
  Once you have an idea of what you want & a budget start looking at venues.

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• jerseydevil member

  

  December 2010

  Agree with PP... I would say once you agree on a budget pick a tentative date and start looking at ceremony/reception sites. All of your vendors will want to know where you are getting married and when.

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• pinktulips2012 member

  

  December 2010

  II would start with whatever is most important to you. we knew we wanted to get married in April and that it was important to FI to get married in his church, so we started by seeing when in April his church was available and worked from there. It meant we had to put things off by a year, but it means we get first pick of everything

  

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• michellep1 member

  

  December 2010

  I agree with pinktulips.  The one thing I knew was non-negotiable was that I got married in the church I grew up in, so that will be the first thing I secure. 
  I just got engaged last Saturday, I think its amazing how people start asking when you'll get married so soon after the engagement!  It was the first thing I heard from more than a few family members when I called to tell them the news.

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• Ballars2 member

  

  December 2010

  First off congratulations! The first  thing I did after I got over the inital excitement of being in newly engaged was grab a couple of bridal magazines, the Knot and brides are my favorites start looking at timelines, and start gathering ideas. The second big thing my fiance and I did was begin talking about overall themes and dates.
  
  Congrats and Good Luck!
  

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• strasbjl member

  

  December 2010

  Congratulations!  Agee with pinktulips too.  My FI and I talked about our wedding the very night we got engaged (10/29/10).  He wanted August or September, which I was fine with and then we had to decide west coast or east coast (we live in Los Angeles and he if from here, but I am originally from northern VA).  After we knew the time frame and location...plus any religious requirements from either of you (does it have to be in a church, outside, etc.) then you two need to sort of know the number of people you want to attend, his friends, yours, both families.  (only because certain venues can only hold a certain number of people).  And a budget in mind.
  
  I know a lot already, huh?  Once you have an idea of when, where, how many people, and how much you want to spend...then you can start looking for venues and see if they have your chosen months available.  Just a word of advice from experience.  Less that 1 year of time might be a problem..I say might, because i found some locations were completely booked and I was looking 9 months out.  I did find one, but was surprised that thers were already completely booked.  Good luck! 
  
  btw...at least you were only asked when you were getting married...my FI and I were asked when we were planning to start having babies!  um...I just got engaged...babies!?

  

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• [Deleted User] member

  

  December 2010

  Congrats!
  
  Tell them you are just enjoying your engagement right now and will start planning and deciding details when you are ready. We got that, too. Then sit down with your FI and start brainstorming and talking about your ideas and vision. TK is a great place to start. I also checked a lot of wedding books out of the library to help me. Good luck!
  

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• RoMy215 member

  

  December 2010

  Let me start by saying CONGRATULATIONS!!!
  The best advice I got the night I got engaged (2-15-10) was to take time and enjoy being engaged. I decided to wait for a week before getting involved in ANY planning. During that week, I got some magazines, looked at pictures online (and really tried to avoid doing actual "research"). I also took some time to just enjoy showing off my ring --and the GIANT smile that came with it-- and telling my engagement story.
  People will continue to ask you a thousand questions, but unless you're getting married next week and people need to buy plane tickets- they don't NEED to know anything until you are ready. 
  It really is fun and exciting to jump into the planning, and there will be plenty of time for that. But really - take a moment and enjoy now. Enjoy being engaged and get used to referring to your boyfriend as your fiance!!!
  After that, what PP's said...

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• Kelli Christine

  

  December 2010

  Congratulations!!! I just got engaged a week ago and i am just enjoying being engaged. I have my date set and am looking but not really planning...i think that is the best thing to so...Envision what you want in the very begiinning int\stead of getting in over your head right away which is what i am trying to so!! best of luck!

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• chrissyjake member

  

  December 2010

  Personally, I would start with talking about budget. 

  

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