I may be being overly sensitive.
So the wife of one our groomsmen(my fi brother) emails me to find out if we will change the clothing for the groomsmen because her husbands vest is tight it will button but is too tight. I found the vest was too small while cooking Easter Dinner was not going to deal with it then but was planning on sensitively addressing this issue.
Before I have a chance to address the issue with my FI or his brother, I go into work the next morning and have an email asking me to change everyone's clothingbecause the vest is too small and he does not want to stick out and she is asking he is too embarrassed to say something to us. There is also a link to a horrible replacement that she thinks will be "perfect" for our wedding.-which it would be if our theme was tacky and cheap.
Already knowing that I hated this option. I emailed both back to let her know that I would figure this out and not worry that if needed I would look into changing clothing but do not think this would be necessary and would only do so if the rest of the party would not lose money.
Later that night I emaled again to let know what she emailed me would not work and to take the vest to a tailor to see if they could recut the vest, add fabric under the arms and re sew the seams. This probably the wrong wording but they should have gotten the gist. I even offered to find a tailor who could do this.
I got another email saying could we please change the outfits. So I again suggested taking to the tailor and that this is what I would like done.
Today I got an email saying they tried( which I believe is not true) and it cannot be let out. So I emailed back and included my FI this time letting all know that next time we see them to give me the vest and I will try to find an exact or close enough match in his size and if I could not do this check the tailors I have received reference for to see if they can do anything and recreate vest all that he would need to do is go and either buy or get measured. I did ask where they went becuase I did not waste my time going to the same place.
Through all of this I never heard from the groomsman only his wife.
Is it me or did you finds this way too forward asking me to change the outfits for the wedding party. On top of this they have not helped with anything, I had to order her dress, pick up both there clothing and have not gotten paid fo any of this. I did not mention this to my FI because I do not want him to think I am being hard on them but I am so angry at her for asking this. I would never have dared too and would be offering to help. For there wedding I agreed to be in the wedding two weeks before because one of the bridesmaids dropped out( I had not even been dating my FI for a year) ,spent money on their reception decorations because they did not have any and spent 10 hours helping them decorate the day before. Where she has the nerve to ask this and to let me know we need to have the rehearsal after 7pm because that is convenient for them, I let that go because we are planning on 7 because that works for my family coming from 2 hour away.
Sorry for my long rant and vent