We're planning a destination wedding for Feb 2014. I'm not sure if we should ask our friends to be in the wedding party before or after they say they can attend.
I don't want to ask when we send out invites or before they rsvp, becuase I don't want to pressure anyone into going (our families think we're selfish enough! lol)
I don't know if we should after because I'm worried these friends might feel as though it's going to be just family and might not want to come.
I'm so torn! What is the thing to do here?