Bridal Goggles

Re: Bridal Goggles

• dewingedpixie member

  

  December 2012

  I looked at wedding costs and when nothing fit my budget that I wanted I realised I was stressing myself needlessly. I realised what mattered to me was a house not the wedding and thats why I was so frustrated. So I realised I was stressing to please other people and decided destination wedding instead.

  

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• SimplyME22 member

  

  December 2012

  I highly recommend making a list of priorities and spending more money on the things that mean the most to you than the things that mean the least.
  
  FI and I are big on the photographer- so we're willing to apportion more of our budget that way, it's still difficult to look at such a major part of our budget allocated to one thing, but in the end I know it will be worth it. 
  
  You can always try to cut costs wherever possible to see if you can fit it into the budget, a lot of things are unecessary at a wedding and if it wouldn't break your heart to not have those items as part of your day, then cut, cut, cut!  We're not doing favors, I'm making a fake styrofoam cake for pictures and serving sheet cakes to guests, and we picked a venue that was BYOB so that we could utilize discounts in procuring alcohol. 
  
  While I don't totally give in to the "it's the only time you'll ever get married, it should be everything you ever wanted" you need to honestly assess whether you'd regret having or not having something at your wedding, whatever it may be.
  
  
  

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• GoldenCityDreamer

  

  December 2012

  I hate to be the creater of dreams but maybe there's something less important in your budget that can be foregone for your dream band?
  
  I thought I wanted a fancy "memorable" wedding cake to wow our guests but I don't care about that sort of stuff. Oh and keepsake bouquets for my bridemaids and self, but real flowers are so much cheaper than hand painted clay ones and I'm actually a anti-clutter queen so I'd probobly throw it away anyway at our next move.
  
  With getting so much inspiration and visiting these wedding sites so often I started wanting (and booking) things I never actually cared for. We are in the process of turning our wedding from what magazine, television, and books and our wedding planner say we & our guests should want back to the wedding that we actually wanted in the first place.
  
  Allll of that to say maybe there are some things in your wedding that don't mean as much to you as having that band.  I'd nix it all in a heartbeat.
  

  

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• PearlyPanda member

  

  December 2012

  The most important thing for Fi and me is the caterer. We've been wanting a certain one for the longest time, but he's a bit pricy. I also want a good photographer because these pictures will be around forever. I can't have both, so I really need to decide whether I'll get our dream caterer and settle for a photographer, or ditch the catererer and get a super good photographer. What to do..what to do..

  

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• 09McSteph03 member

  

  December 2012

  All good points ladies.  All good points.  I may take another look at the budget and see if theres room.   We did really good with the cake and photographer.  Our invitations should come in less too.  Maybe all those small cuts will add up to booking a band?  Then I won't ever say "I wish I had splurged!"  

  
  

  Both of us work with numbers for a living and it has impacted many areas of our lives.  Budgeting, weighing all options and excel spreadsheets are a way of life around my house. those habit cut fantasies before they even bloom.  

  
  

  Thanks for the input - I never really sat to consider what was important and what isn't.  Probably a really good idea before we get much further

  S'mores. Just S'mores please.

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• dewingedpixie member

  

  December 2012

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_october-2013-weddings_bridal-goggles?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:1925524f-fa8b-432f-a7b5-be486ce756efDiscussion:b2b1881e-d398-42a0-a788-f18b74ca89a2Post:46c9a963-6bd8-44ee-ac7f-b2ec03944992">Re: Bridal Goggles</a>:
  [QUOTE]I hate to be the creater of dreams but maybe there's something less important in your budget that can be foregone for your dream band? I thought I wanted a fancy "memorable" wedding cake to wow our guests but I don't care about that sort of stuff. Oh and keepsake bouquets for my bridemaids and self, but real flowers are so much cheaper than hand painted clay ones and I'm actually a anti-clutter queen so I'd probobly throw it away anyway at our next move. With getting so much inspiration and visiting these wedding sites so often I started wanting (and booking) things I never actually cared for. We are in the process of turning our wedding from what magazine, television, and books and our wedding planner say we & our guests should want back to the wedding that we actually wanted in the first place. Allll of that to say maybe there are some things in your wedding that don't mean as much to you as having that band.  I'd nix it all in a heartbeat.
  Posted by GoldenCityDreamer[/QUOTE]
  
  This! I never wanted 100 people, or drinking, or a dj! I wanted a few close friends for a few days at disney. I wanted a nice simple short ceremony a fancy dinner and fireworks. I cant dance due to RA, or drink due to the meds. Stress makes me hurt. Why would I do that to myself? I wanted a day of memories for me and the family we are creating between my FI, daughter, friends and family. That didnt need 5 bridesmaids, a dj, huge over the top party.
  
  Find what is important to you Steph and go from there. This is your day not your guests.

  

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