I have had issues with my FILs before, but things have started to get better. FMIL wanted to sit down and talk with my parents and get to know them so they did that this past weekend. It went pretty well besides a few bumps here and there, but she had said something that FI just don't know how to deal with.
First, she supports the wedding, but she doesn't. I'm not talking financially, just she wants to support it but she doesn't agree with and then doesn't support it. I understand if that is confusing. Second, she wants to be involved in the planning. This is where FI and I just don't know what to do. Because she doesn't support it, she doesn't agree with just about any decision we make in regards to it and all of her comments have a passive-aggressive remarks.
Basically, we don't know how to involve her without hearing her complain about it. Or she wants to kind of pretend the wedding doesn't exist and so we don't bring it up so we don't hurt her. So we feel like if we involve her, it will hurt her. If we don't involve her, it will hurt her. Any advice?