Cash registry?

ashleycameron9 · March 2012

I need to set up a cash registry today and have no idea which one to use. I'm wondering if any of you brides have found a reliable and trustworthy cash registry?

MNVegas · March 2012

No, asking for cash is rude. Why do you need some gimmicky website that charges fees to collect cash gifts from your guests. If your guest want to give you cash they will put it in a card. Pretty simple!

ashleycameron9 · March 2012

ok well thats one opinion. i'm doing as honeymoon registry, cash registry, and bed bath and beyond. but my bridemaids want some kindof registry set up for the engagment party just in case people want to do a gift. cash registries are actually acceptable these days if the bride and groom already live together and have the things we need. the cash registry is for the photography for the wedding. i normally avoid these forums cause the brides can be bitchy but i kinda need help here. if you're not gonna give me an actual answer, you don't need to respond. easy as that.

MNVegas · March 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_registering-gifts_cash-registry-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:34Discussion:de50e276-651e-4c37-acc7-a205a1f5b009Post:8f35eade-a8fd-47f7-ac07-268156cf950d">Re: Cash registry?</a>:
[QUOTE]ok well thats one opinion. i'm doing as honeymoon registry, cash registry, and bed bath and beyond. but my bridemaids want some kindof registry set up for the engagment party just in case people want to do a gift. <strong>cash registries are actually acceptable these days </strong>if the bride and groom already live together and have the things we need. the cash registry is for the photography for the wedding. i normally avoid these forums cause the brides can be bitchy but i kinda need help here. if you're not gonna give me an actual answer, you don't need to respond. easy as that.
Posted by ashleycameron9[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>Well you can fool yourself into believing this if you want, but you will find out that asking for cash even when disguised as a registry is STILL very much a breach of etiquette. If you don't care about deceiving and offending your guests well that is your choice.</div><div>
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ashleycameron9 · March 2012

i'm not deceiving anyone. the cash registry is for the photography package. i would set up a photography registry but the photographer i want dose not have that yet. i'm not trying to be rude. i'm being practical. i'm also not asking if it's rude or not. i'm asking for a suggestion on a reliable registry. my friends and family know i'm not trying to be rude.

amymaysa · March 2012

It is rude to ask for cash.

You should plan a wedding you can afford and not ask your guests to offset your photography costs.

Create a small registry at BB&B and people will either buy off that, get something else, or give cash. Everyone already knows cash is an excellent git. You aren't and won't be the last person who already lives with their significant others and do this very thing.

MNVegas · March 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_registering-gifts_cash-registry-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:34Discussion:de50e276-651e-4c37-acc7-a205a1f5b009Post:b51f05c6-e540-49d4-8008-2b6edae0f616">Re: Cash registry?</a>:
[QUOTE]i'm not deceiving anyone. <strong>the cash registry is for the photography package</strong>. i would set up a photography registry but the photographer i want dose not have that yet. i'm not trying to be rude. <strong>i'm being practical.</strong> i'm also not asking if it's rude or not. i'm asking for a suggestion on a reliable registry. my friends and family know i'm not trying to be rude.
Posted by ashleycameron9[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>So you want your guests to pay for your wedding expenses?!? Being practical is planning a wedding you can afford and not expect your guests to pay.</div><div>
</div><div>This should be fun. Is it too early to get the popcorn out?

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ashleycameron9 · March 2012

never mind, i will figure it out on my own. but thanks for being the typical knot brides. i needed that reminder to stay off these forums.

ashleycameron9 · March 2012

we obviously would make up the difference. it is just to help out. we don't need things for the home really. so my family and friends suggested this. i thought it was a good idea. i figured it out on my own.

msowena · March 2012

In answer to your question, honeyfund.com will be your best bet. You can do a honeymoon registry or a "anything registry" which you can list the photography on. You can read further on the site.

Here is an informative sticky on the knot about honeymoon registry's:

http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_registering-gifts_thinking-of-honeymoon-registry-2

Grits8812 · March 2012

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[QUOTE]never mind, i will figure it out on my own. but thanks for being the typical knot brides. i needed that reminder to stay off these forums.
Posted by ashleycameron9[/QUOTE]
Go to WeddingBee. <div>
</div><div>They will tell you what you want to hear ;)</div>

MyNameIsNot · March 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_registering-gifts_cash-registry-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:34Discussion:de50e276-651e-4c37-acc7-a205a1f5b009Post:88a0b78f-cb97-401c-a0f1-be6407396bda">Re: Cash registry?</a>:
[QUOTE]never mind, i will figure it out on my own. but thanks for being the typical knot brides. i needed that reminder to stay off these forums.
Posted by ashleycameron9[/QUOTE]

<div>Yes, it is typical of knot brides to try to help you avoid embarrassing yourself with something so obviously rude. People here actually care, and actually want to help you.</div><div>
</div><div>But if you are so determined to make an ass of yourself, you can handle that on your own. Just don't be surprised when you find out that your friends and family are shocked by this blatant display of greed. </div>

daria24 · March 2012

I just don't understand why you need to set up a "Registry" to do this. People know how to stuff cash in an envelope. Or write your name on a check. You don't have to set up a website for this that is going to take out a fee.

dori851 · March 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_registering-gifts_cash-registry-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:34Discussion:de50e276-651e-4c37-acc7-a205a1f5b009Post:52d84207-8e97-4509-8f75-be7b34cf3366">Cash registry?</a>:
[QUOTE]I need to set up a cash registry today and have no idea which one to use. I'm wondering if any of you brides have found a reliable and trustworthy cash registry?
Posted by ashleycameron9[/QUOTE]

Oiy.

YorkieLove4 · March 2012

To answer your question and not get caught up in the slander. I do agree that you should not set up an online cash registry due to the fees. The fees the registry company takes out is money that should be in your pocket. My husband and I just got married three weeks ago. We registered at Target and BBB, and registered for very few items, as we have a lot already from living together for 4 years. Hence, we got a lot of cash, gift cards, and checks:)

HobokensFury · March 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_registering-gifts_cash-registry-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:34Discussion:de50e276-651e-4c37-acc7-a205a1f5b009Post:88a0b78f-cb97-401c-a0f1-be6407396bda">Re: Cash registry?</a>:
[QUOTE]never mind, i will figure it out on my own. but thanks for being the typical knot brides. i needed that reminder to stay off these forums.
Posted by ashleycameron9[/QUOTE]

I'm proud to be a typical knot bride that doesn't expect my guests to pay for my wedding.

sparent2010 · March 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_registering-gifts_cash-registry-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:34Discussion:de50e276-651e-4c37-acc7-a205a1f5b009Post:71c7af95-904b-45c1-8ee2-1b2b88c6f7bc">Re: Cash registry?</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Cash registry? : I'd rather be a typical knot bride than a bride who expected her guests to pay for her photography. Good luck!
Posted by rachers1017[/QUOTE]

True fact. I like that you are planning a photographer registry and a HM registry cool beans.

Cortney1982 · March 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_registering-gifts_cash-registry-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:34Discussion:de50e276-651e-4c37-acc7-a205a1f5b009Post:93f9bc6c-3aa7-4681-beaa-40ffd60ce7af">Re: Cash registry?</a>:
[QUOTE]we obviously would make up the difference. it is just to help out. we don't need things for the home really. so my family and friends suggested this. i thought it was a good idea. i figured it out on my own.
Posted by ashleycameron9[/QUOTE]

This is a bad plan. What if nobody sent cash to this registry? How are you paying for the photographer?

Princessvera4712 · March 2012

n Response to <a style="text-decoration:none;font-weight:normal;color:#1f1f1f;" href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_registering-gifts_cash-registry-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:34Discussion:de50e276-651e-4c37-acc7-a205a1f5b009Post:88a0b78f-cb97-401c-a0f1-be6407396bda">Re: Cash registry?</a>:
[QUOTE]never mind, i will figure it out on my own. but thanks for being the typical knot brides. <strong>i needed that reminder to stay off these forums.</strong>
Posted by ashleycameron9[/QUOTE]

<div>I feel your pain. On another board on this site, some brides went off on me (and called me a "troll") for not sharing the same opinion and actually saying something different from all the other girls. It amazes me how rude some people can be when they are hiding behind their computer screens. </div>

MiksChick23 · March 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_registering-gifts_cash-registry-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:34Discussion:de50e276-651e-4c37-acc7-a205a1f5b009Post:a96c16d7-cd63-44f5-ba1e-e5c5fc285cb6">Re: Cash registry?</a>:
[QUOTE]n Response to Re: Cash registry? : I feel your pain. On another board on this site, some brides went off on me (and called me a "troll") for not sharing the same opinion and actually saying something different from all the other girls. It amazes me how rude some people can be when they are hiding behind their computer screens.
Posted by Princessvera4712[/QUOTE]

A LOT of women find it fun to be rude on these boards. However, for this particular thread, no one was! A cash registry is horribly tacky and wasteful since fees would be deducted.

There are some things in wedding planning that are always rude, no matter your region, circle or type of wedding: asking for cash is one of them.

FutureMrsPaulG · March 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_registering-gifts_cash-registry-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:34Discussion:de50e276-651e-4c37-acc7-a205a1f5b009Post:4ef2ee6a-3ae4-43b5-bae5-494ec069da86">Re: Cash registry?</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Cash registry? : A<strong> LOT of women find it fun to be rude on these boards. However, for this particular thread, no one was! </strong>A cash registry is horribly tacky and wasteful since fees would be deducted. There are some things in wedding planning that are always rude, no matter your region, circle or type of wedding: asking for cash is one of them.
Posted by MiksChick23[/QUOTE]

<div>I don't get why that would be fun. That being said, I agree with everyone else that most people side-eye a cash registry or honeymoon registry. I guess if everyone in your social circle does them, they may not care but it still seems slightly inappropriate. Especially to the older members of a family who may be more traditional.</div>

MiksChick23 · March 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Cash registry? : I don't get why that would be fun. That being said, I agree with everyone else that most people side-eye a cash registry or honeymoon registry. I guess if everyone in your social circle does them, they may not care but it still seems slightly inappropriate. Especially to the older members of a family who may be more traditional.
Posted by FutureMrsPaulG[/QUOTE]

Don't know. But it happens enough that I would have to assume they are enjoying themselves.

AdeleDazeem · March 2012

A cash registry to pay for the photography... Why not just send out tickets and tell people the price of admission to your wedding while you're at it?

And while I agree that things can get out of hand around here, this is not one of those cases. OP's idea to have a cash registry to pay for a wedding vendor is completely hideous. Anyone who thinks otherwise has lost their sense of manners.

Manners are a dying art these days, but some of us still do think about other people before ourselves. In this case, we think "Asking our guests to pay for our vendors is not being a good host" and "We should steer other brides from making large mistakes in front of their loved ones."

Ali092011 · March 2012

Aside from all the excellent points made my PPs, I just want to say that if I attended a wedding where I knew that the guests had contributed to the photography package, I would feel extremely awkward. I'd feel weird even being there. It would make me feel uncomfortable knowing that my hosts couldn't actually afford the wedding, and that I'm putting them out by eating and drinking and enjoying myself.

It's just one of the worst WR ideas I've ever heard of.

[Deleted User] · April 2012

what about people out of town? they may not want to send cash by mail or even a check, or last minute? you can setup a cash registry ONLINE like using PayPal and have that accessible right away... also it doesn't mean you are desperate for money, might just be what is easy for your guests, we registered at many places that all do online + Brick & Mortar to allow our guests a wide variety of options and locations to shop (also glad for GiftRegistry360 that links most of the sites for easier browsing & buying)

Also we listed links to coupon codes and discounts to try to save our guests money. I would rather someone bought a $50 knife set online, and got $10 off + free shipping than just bought us $10 bathmat at the store because that was the next cheapest thing on the registry. unless they want to be different :-) we like to buy friends board games and toliet paper for their wedding. they will need both, and maybe fun on their honeymoon. they can play checkers or TP the pastor's house

cynf · June 2012

I wish I saw this a few months ago!! Really ladies...you are all just about the nastiest bridezilla's I have ever come across... Talk about etiquette if someone is asking advice even if you don't agree with it, you can still address them in a nice and compassionate way. How about just keep your opinions to yourself. I think the cash registry is right for some people and not for others. She wasn't asking you idiots whether or not she should sign up for one. She was asking whether anyone one had used one and what their experience was with it. She was at least being real and practical unlike the rest of you. I feel really bad for your husbands to be.... people like you always get it back in spades. Trust me on this one... in about a year when your husbands are cheating on you ( if they are not already cheating) because you are all judgmental bitches I hope you remember my post!!! Compassion and understanding is the most important thing in life. Unfortunately, you will all learn that the hard way. To the Cash Registry Bride..I wish you the best. Do what makes you happy and what works for you and you hubby. Remember when people are mean and judgmental its because they are miserable.

cladizzle · July 2012

I had just spoke with my in-laws and they say it's Arabic tradition to give cash amounts... I was baffled by their culture and being that I have coworkers that agree to do a fund to help out... In my culture (Filipino) we typically ask to have sponsors for our wedding to help out.. the usual sponsors would be like God parents... but anyhow, another coworker had suggested the honeyfund.com and you can opt out on paying fees on Pay Pal but just asking for cash and checks only... when your guests do use the registry a coupon prints out on their behalf and they insert their money and cash amount in an envelope according to my coworker that had recently used it. The registry itself just keeps track of who's giving what amount and gives an idea to your guests. But I truly advise you to be truthful on why you're setting up the registry for. It really is up to you as a bride and how well you know your guests. I say go for it if you know the people you invite are there to help out

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