Would you be pissed at your H for this?

NuggetBrain · June 2012

So last night Noodle & I were in the parking lot of the grocery store. It was raining, and I slipping and fell. Pretty hard - scraped up my arm a bit, but mainly twisted my hip and my knee (I have a trick knee that dislocates sometimes if I twist it the wrong way). It hurt like a b*tch. I dropped my purse too and my phone fell out into a little bit of water. Like, a little bit - not a puddle, but the equivalent of spilling some water on the floor from the sink.

The very first thing Noodle did after I fell was yell "Oh my God get your phone! It's in the water! Quick, get it!!" and then grab up my phone and purse. As I'm sprawled out on the asphalt. Like, I'm sorry I didn't grab my phone right away, I was too busy trying to catch my breath and figure out how hurt I was. I literally said "Are you fucking kidding me right now?" He didn't ask me if I was okay until we got back to the car, because he was too busy defending his reaction with "well I guess I would have done things differently than you, I would have been more concerned with my phone."

I would think that if you watched someone take a fall your first reaction would be "are you okay??" and not "SAVE THE PHONE!" I was pissed. I'm STILL pissed. I woke up this morning with a sore hip and a twinge in my shoulder. He's trying to act like everything is fine but I want an apology. He really doesn't think he did anything wrong and I think that's what I'm most pissed off about - how can you not understand that your wife might be a little peeved that you were more concerned with a phone than helping her up off the throughfare in a parking lot???

For the record, this isn't the new iPhone4 or anything, and I'm not that attached to it. And I have insurance on it, so if something happened we'd pay $79 bucks and have it replaced.

Also, I was super-embarassed at falling in front of a bunch of people in a parking lot, in a skirt, and kind of wanted someone to fuss over me rather than squawk about my stupid phone.

allisong23 · June 2012

I would be pissed to. I would kick H's ass for that.

Matty143 · June 2012

I would be mad, and embarrassed like you said.

ETA: Actually, I probably would have yelled eff the phone! Help me up you ass!

acaponi87 · June 2012

I'd be annoyed, especially if he didn't ask if you were okay until you were back to the car.

Though I'm pretty sure my H will do something like this at some point. He gets really upset if any of our goods gets damaged in any way. If he saw they were in jeopardy I could totally see him reacting to the phone/car/whatever before he realizes I'm hurt.

overcomefame · June 2012

Yeah, I would be upset. Especially if I actually had hurt myself. My h is like that with phones too, and it's super annoying. I hope you feel better!

Denise91980 · June 2012

I would be pissed too. I think that sometimes they don't think about what they want to say and the impulse is to react about the object. When I got into a car accident a while back, my H asked how bad the car was before asking if I was OK. I was so pissed.

celticmyss · June 2012

I'd be pissed as well. I get that people can react weird in situation but he should have apologized right away and certainly should have asked immediately if you were ok.

FH passed a big test when I fell over on one of his beloved bicycles and he asked how I was first before asking about the bike.

Girlie1030 · June 2012

I would have been pissed - big time actually. Unless that phone is diamond crusted and contains the CIA's super secret files on who really killed JFK and the cure for cancer then his first reaction should have been "Oh honey, are you ok? Can I help you up?".

LesPaul · June 2012

I'd be angry. Hell with the phone - I'm hurt!

Nebb · June 2012

I'd be fuming. I probably wouldn't have let it go this long without an apology though. If I feel like I deserve one I say as such with an explanation as to why that was effed up.

NuggetBrain · June 2012

Thanks. I'm sure I'll be fine, I told my mom and she was like "Is he that clueless?"

AllAboutTheBenjamin · June 2012

I think Noodle should have apologized profusely!! Yes. I'd be pissed rightthefuckoff.

lbarr088 · June 2012

Mobile just gave me an error to my reply and I'm wondering if it has anything to do with swears. Anyways, I'd be ticked...bad. I also would have flipped out right then and there because I'm incredibly mature like that.

kd.joseph · June 2012

Sorry Noodle, you were wrong, and need to apologize!

You have every right to be pissed Nuggs. Not only could you be seriously injured physically, but I'm sure my pride would have been hurt a bit as well.

baystateapple · June 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_would-you-be-pissed-at-your-h-for-this?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:2fd613ed-3ec9-4daa-a26b-ea54b554a519Post:a8e329f5-8779-4a04-a155-0c8a99aa7970">Re: Would you be pissed at your H for this?</a>:
[QUOTE]I would be pissed too. I think that sometimes they don't think about what they want to say and the impulse is to react about the object. <strong>When I got into a car accident a while back, my H asked how bad the car was before asking if I was OK. I was so pissed</strong>.
Posted by Denise91980[/QUOTE]
My dad did that after I got into an accident. When I asked him why, he said that since I had called and sounded calm and rational (not crying), he assumed I was okay. But apologized anyway.

Yeah, I would be hurt, Nuggs.

kmmssg · June 2012

In all honesty, H wouldn't do that and HE thinks your H was dead wrong!

AllAboutTheBenjamin · June 2012

My mom put my dad's Tornado in a friggen slough shortly after they were married and the first thing he did when she told him about it was ask if she was okay. That floored her. But really - that's what should happen. You can replace cars and phones but if someone you love is injured I mean... that sucks.

Bkseller13 · June 2012

Yep, Noodle was a douche. DoucheNoodle.

Glad you're ok, hope the soreness works itself out.

MrsMack10612 · June 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_would-you-be-pissed-at-your-h-for-this?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:17Discussion:2fd613ed-3ec9-4daa-a26b-ea54b554a519Post:a4b1b2bc-f9ae-4a3d-8128-19d3449e5aa6">Re: Would you be pissed at your H for this?</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Would you be pissed at your H for this? : My dad did that after I got into an accident. When I asked him why, he said that since I had called and sounded calm and rational (not crying), he assumed I was okay. But apologized anyway. Yeah, I would be hurt, Nuggs.
Posted by baystateapple[/QUOTE]

I would absolutely be pissed. He owes you an apology.

Bay - my dad did the same thing - about 18 years ago I flipped my car; my dad had cosigned the loan for me. I called him from the ER - first thing he asks? Is the car alright?

Edit to fix puncuation and take out dad bashing

dmiller9274 · June 2012

I would be mad as hell. I'm a hot head, too. The first thing I would have done when I picked my ass up off the ground would have been ripped the phone out of his hand and shattered it on the ground. I have a terrible temper, I don't react well to things like that.

brilibby4 · June 2012

I'm late because theknot just randomly decided to show me all of today's posts at once.

I agree with PPs. I would definitely be mad! It makes me wonder how my fiance would react in a similar situation.

Lethinagrl5 · June 2012

I would be pissed if my FI did that to me, lucky he never has. When I was pregnant with my first born (my son) I was walking around our house (5 acres in the mountains, so ground is unlevel in certain areas) at night and using my phone as a flashlight looking for my FI and cousin who were talking to there grandpa. Well I found them and started walking toward them when I fell! My FI and his cousin came running to me when they saw me fall. My phone went flying into oblivion but my FI didn't care about my phone. I'm sure that me being 7 1/2 months pregnant helped him not care about my phone, he would have normally flipped a lid. Noodles you NEED to apologize.

marriedfilingjointly · June 2012

I'd be pissed. PISSED. I'm surprised you told your mom though.

NuggetBrain · June 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_would-you-be-pissed-at-your-h-for-this?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:17Discussion:2fd613ed-3ec9-4daa-a26b-ea54b554a519Post:8856e9ae-4cd2-4931-86cc-e41894c6de37">Re: Would you be pissed at your H for this?</a>:
[QUOTE]I'd be pissed. PISSED. <strong>I'm surprised you told your mom though.</strong>
Posted by marriedfilingjointly[/QUOTE]

I made sure to phrase it in a "can you believe that knucklehead" instead of a "your son-in-law is a douchecanoe" way. She laughed about it and was all "he's special, isn't he." One thing I learned the hard way a while ago was anything bad (or that can be interpreted in a bad way) I tell my mom about Noodle will never ever ever be forgotten.

She's like a walking TK/TN.

JenGin74 · June 2012

I think you're completely justified in being pissed off, but I'm also wondering if maybe that's how he handles pressure/crisis?

When I was about 19 I was in a car accident with a friend of mine (her car). We were both ok, but the car was all sorts of messed up. When I got out of the car I just started laughing uncontrollably. I tried to stop laughing because there was nothing funny about it, but I just couldn't. Maybe Noodle's mouth diarrhea was something like that?

Anyway, I hope you feel better and that you get your apology.

marriedfilingjointly · June 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_would-you-be-pissed-at-your-h-for-this?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:2fd613ed-3ec9-4daa-a26b-ea54b554a519Post:978e4f2d-6758-4442-9dea-1b42a8252772">Re: Would you be pissed at your H for this?</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Would you be pissed at your H for this? : I made sure to phrase it in a "can you believe that knucklehead" instead of a "your son-in-law is a douchecanoe" way. She laughed about it and was all "he's special, isn't he." One thing I learned the hard way a while ago was anything bad (or that can be interpreted in a bad way) I tell my mom about Noodle will never ever ever be forgotten. She's like a walking TK/TN.
Posted by NuggetBrain[/QUOTE]

<div>YES. Moms are like that. I get ultra defensive if I find out that DH said something to his mom about me/us. </div>

Psych819 · June 2012

I would be pissed too. I hope your feeling better.

NeedWeddingFavors · June 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_would-you-be-pissed-at-your-h-for-this?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:2fd613ed-3ec9-4daa-a26b-ea54b554a519Post:a8e329f5-8779-4a04-a155-0c8a99aa7970">Re: Would you be pissed at your H for this?</a>:
[QUOTE]IWhen I got into a car accident a while back, my H asked how bad the car was before asking if I was OK. I was so pissed.
Posted by Denise91980[/QUOTE]

Yup, this happened to me as well, it shows what they are truly concerned about.

adfoster77 · June 2012

YES.
A phone is a hunk of crap. It's not the person you love most n your life. That's no way to react.

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