Are you freaking kidding me??! VENT

brittandjp · February 2012

JP just forwarded me an email from his dad. In it he gave us the names of three couples he wants us to send invites to for the wedding. He said he'd pay, which I would obviously expect since we have NO clue who these people are. However, our RSVP date is tomorrow. Yes, I just said TOMORROW.

This makes us look horrible. They will all get the invitation AFTER the RSVP date. JP suggested we white it out or cut it off. Again, are you freaking kidding me??!? Then he said he would scan it in, change the RSVP date, and print it on cardstock. None of these options will work because A) the font wouldn't be raised if we printed another = not okay in my book

they're not idiots, they'll know they weren't on the original list because who sends invites 3 weeks (by the time they get it) before they're due or C) who doesn't include an RSVP card in their wedding invitation?

Omg. I seriously can't even believe it. So, now we're apparently sending these invitations to people I don't know, after the RSVP deadline, which means I'm waiting to create my seating chart. They'll have to call in their RSVPs I think, because I only gave myself a week to call people back before having to give the venue our final headcount. So, by next Thursday these three couples will have had to receive their invitation with an already past RSVP date and call in their answer. Fanfuckingtastic.

I seriously can't believe it. AHHH! People want me to have a nervous breakdown!

ETA: Oh and to top it off, my RSVP date is tomorrow and I'm still waiting on 71 people to confirm.

w+c3 · February 2012

NO WAY!! Why are they important now? I think I would put my foot down. That looks sooooo tacky. And I know your FFIL won't be worried about that. but I agree. ridiculous.

arrestclementine · February 2012

Do you have a pdf of the file? Or the actual file of the RSVP? Because then you could edit it and then have it printed at a Kinkos and then send them off? Just an idea....

But completely agree with Whitney about how are these people important... AND 71 people have not RSVP'd yet!!! OMG that sucks!

HobokensFury · February 2012

I'd put my foot down and say no.

rachel801231 · February 2012

Would totally be putting my foot down. Like p's said, why are they all of a sudden so important. Just politely tell ffil that you appreciate him offering to pay but this late in the game you just cannot add any more to your list. Your RSVP date is tomorrow and you don't want to insult any guest by making them look like last minute choices or B listers. He is just going to have to understand.

cmac3504 · February 2012

As much as it's frustrating that you're going to have to wait for their responses, if you don't know them, I wouldn't really care what they think about your invitations... they can come or not come... it won't be any extra expense on you & I don't think it's worth adding extra stress on yourself for 6 strangers that your FFIL forgot to invite ahead of time.

bethmerchant · February 2012

My FI did this to me this weekend! Luckily our RSVP isn't until 3/1, but I still think it looks tacky, so I'm making him address it and send it.

I just want to draw the line and all this be done. All of it. I'm to the point that I don't even care about all the "extra" stufff anymore. Favors & programs can assemble themselves.

People need to help us out or leave us alone!

mrsmustard12 · February 2012

Can you play it off like their invitation got lost in the mail?

brittandjp · February 2012

The verdict is in, they're getting invitations. His dad is going to hand deliver two of the invites tomorrow. The other one is in California and will have to be sent out. He will need to contact them this weekend and determine their responses. I've decided it looks bad on him. These people know we wouldn't be inviting them, that it's my FFIL that wants them there, he looks like crap. Not us.

Can I just say, though, that I've completely had it. This has drawn the line. I'm DONE DONE DONE DONE DONE wedding planning. I'm over all of it. I just want my perfect day to be here already and for everyone and their mom to leave me the F alone and let me go about my business of daydreaming. While we're at it, I sort of want to kick all 69 procrastinators invited to our wedding to the curb. Oh, and they can finish all of my last minute tasks while they're there as well. Thanks, the end.

southerncharm24 · February 2012

britt you crack me up. While this is not funny, just the way your write makes me giggle.

If a parent asks, and they handle it and pay for it then fine. We are so over our intented numbers that I just dont care.

bethmerchant · February 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_march-2012-weddings_freaking-kidding-vent?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:955e4823-0be1-44ef-9ee7-99a63794e103Discussion:61d551ca-d3b1-4d0f-b7a1-78b75654dcabPost:6459ea81-b146-4c6c-ba9e-af306ea691c3">Re: Are you freaking kidding me??! VENT</a>:
[QUOTE]I've decided it looks bad on him. These people know we wouldn't be inviting them, that it's my FFIL that wants them there, he looks like crap. Not us. Can I just say, though, that I've completely had it. This has drawn the line. I'm DONE DONE DONE DONE DONE wedding planning. I'm over all of it. I just want my perfect day to be here already and for everyone and their mom to leave me the F alone and let me go about my business of daydreaming. While we're at it, I sort of want to kick all 69 procrastinators invited to our wedding to the curb. Oh, and they can finish all of my last minute tasks while they're there as well. Thanks, the end.
Posted by brittandjp[/QUOTE]

THIS!!! AMEN! Totally feel this way! Glad you aren't taking it to heart because it's not your fault! Onward & upward!

ashley925 · February 2012

Wow. I totally agree with the PPs about putting your foot down! My FI's mom wanted to add soooooo many people to the guest list, making it WAY over our limit and budget. So we just didn't invite them. Especially, we felt, people we don't know. I'd politely decline and just let him know that you can't fit anymore people into your seating.

brittandjp · February 2012

JP didn't have the balls to say no to his dad. He really doesn't think it's that big of a deal, he clearly doesn't understand the etiquette of the whole situation. I'm choosing to pick my battle and let it go. We have a little bit of time before we have to tell the venue our final head count (10 days), and his dad is paying for it, so whatever. Not much I can do now. They just better reply immediately or JP will be making more calls, not me.

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