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Registering //// Bridal Shower

eiermacdeiermacd
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Hi! So My fiance and I are not going to register for the wedding in hopes people will just give us money b/c we are poor college students. (: Anyways I was wondering do  I register for Bridal Shower even if im not registering for the wedding??? 
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Re: Registering //// Bridal Shower

  • MairePoppyMairePoppy mod
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    Guests will bring gifts, not money, to your shower. If you don't register, they will guess at what you want. Not saying guests are obligated to purchase off your registry, but most will. Others will be creative, maybe even crochet toilet paper covers. How many of those can you use?
                       
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  • melntaittmelntaitt member
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    I agree with the PPs and it is kinda rude to expect people to bring you cash instead of things you genuinely need.

    Because you are poor college students, you will likely need some stuff for your home.

    Beware - register or be prepared to have a bunch of cheap, mismatched items you don't need. A wedding is not an opportunity to collect money; that's just not ok.
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  • eiermacdeiermacd
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    We already live together and have EVERYTHING we need. asking right out for money is rude yes, but i think people overreact when it comes to the whole money thing. 
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  • waltzingmatilda13waltzingmatilda13 member
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    If you want money then don't register. You also shouldn't have a bridal shower because it won't be as much fun and sort of awkward to watch you open a bunch of cards with cash in them. If you don't have a registry most people will assume you don't want anything and will give you cash anyways. 


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  • banana468banana468 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_pre-wedding-parties_registering-bridal-shower?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:32Discussion:77738deb-d177-45c0-a74f-6adee8db566aPost:a08f2f55-b459-485f-905e-5fade31ad7f1">Re: Registering //// Bridal Shower</a>:
    [QUOTE]We already live together and have EVERYTHING we need. asking right out for money is rude yes, but i think people overreact when it comes to the whole money thing. 
    Posted by eiermacd[/QUOTE]

    I think some brides act rather entitled when it comes to weddings.  So there's that.

    Seriously?  You have EVERYTHING you need?  You two are "poor college students" and there's NOTHING that you two can use to upgrade?

    My husband and I each lived on our own for years and then lived together for a year before we were married and yet we still managed to find plenty of things to put on a registry.   I don't buy it.

    If you don't want "stuff" then you don't get a shower.  I just wouldn't attend the shower of someone who only wanted cash.  I don't know many people who would either.  They'd either show up with a present or they'd just decline.
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  • lenergyrlahlenergyrlah member
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    A shower is for gifts, traditionally lingerie or something for the house.  If you ever wanted a nice set of dishes, new cookware, etc. then you should register for that.  If you have a shower but no registry, you will get a dozen toasters.

    There are lots of creative kitchen/houseware stuff at stores like Bed Bath and Beyond that you could register for if you really have everything you need.  Deviled egg plates, heart-shaped silicone cake pan, decorative wall art, etc.  Also think about whether you'll ever host a nice party (for Christmas or something).  Do you have a cake plate, punch bowl, nice dessert dishes?  Nobody needs these, but they're worth asking for if you don't "need" anything else.
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  • eiermacdeiermacd
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    maybe you misunderstood my post. i am not against registering for the shower. but when it comes to the wedding and gifts we do really need cash that is all im saying iv already posted before that i could find a couple of things to register for the shower. so dont get ur panties in a bunch 
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  • jae919jae919
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    You could register at a place that has a great return policy, let people buy you gifts, and return them for cash.
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  • eiermacdeiermacd
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    thanks for the advice but 1 im pretty sure no place will just let you return a gift off ur registry for money and 2 i would just be worried how rude that would be. 

    anyways we decided to register at target and bed bath and beyond. so we will see. thanks everybody even if some of you were a little more rude than you should have been (:
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