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Friend is Officiant - Gift/Payment??

sinatragal1sinatragal1
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One of my friends was ordained so she could perform my wedding ceremony.  Should I buy her a gift like if she were in the wedding party, or should I pay her like if she were a professional?  If payment - how much is acceptable?

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Re: Friend is Officiant - Gift/Payment??

  • CA2MT4EveRCA2MT4EveR member
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    If you ask, she will probably say no. But if you gave her $100 or a nice gift/gift card, she would probably not decline.
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  • betrothed123betrothed123
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    My officiant was prohibited by the state to accept payment for officiating wedding ceremonies (apparently in my state any town clerk/mayor/etc is allowed to officiate, but not allowed to accept payment for doing so).  So we got him and his wife a gift card to a local upscale restaurant.  I wouldn't have felt right getting him any less, because my husband would not be my husband if it wasn't for him.
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  • squirrlysquirrly member
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    Gift.  A friend of ours is doing the same thing for us, and we'll be giving him a nice gift.  I don't know what it is yet, but nice.
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  • pooh8402pooh8402
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    FI's brother is our officiant. we're giving him a gift, there is no way in hell he would accept payment.
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  • JanoBean75JanoBean75
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    Ours asked that we just cover his travel expenses (he's driving down from NYC and the tolls are a b!tch), but we're paying him and giving him a gift.
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  • PsyDet 2155PsyDet 2155
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    I think I would give a little of both- a nice gift with some money in a card.
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