Father just passed away wedding in 2 months......

jessicahines · March 2013

My father just passed away last week and my wedding is May 25th 2013, my dad was so excited and I know he will still be there but I am going to have my brother and gma walk me down the aisle but I want to talk down to a song about my dad being in heaven. I am only 22 and his death was a complete shock so I am having to deal with all this just a couple months before my wedding..... and ideas on songs and how to get through this

aquari0216 · March 2013

Im so sorry........I doubt your dad would really want you sadly focused on him during such a joyful occasion, i however love the idea of him being attached to you as you walk down the aisle...i did however have a friend do the walk to one of her daddys faorite songs....Ive also heard of "remembrance" like ceremonies during a wedding......and i have one song off the top of my head a friend dedicated to her brother...."you are my friend" by Patti Labelle

OwningAHome1981 · March 2013

So sorry for your loss. My sister's husband's mom had passed a few months before their wedding. She had a pin with the moms picture pinned onto her bouquet and they also had a chair decorated with flowers at the ceremony in her honor. I do agree subtlety is the best way so as to not make it a memorial service. A wedding should be a happy occasion and like any parent, your dad just wants to see you happy on your wedding day. It would also be nice to include a blurb about him in your program. I hope you have a wonderful wedding.

Knottie_22382102 · March 2013

I am so sorry for your loss, truly.

LincolnElizabethH · March 2013

I am very sorry hear of your loss. My thoughts go out to you.

Pookieson · March 2013

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[QUOTE]In Response to Father just passed away wedding in 2 months...... : I am so so sorry for your loss. I'd talk to your family about how to best honor the memory and legacy of your father. I assume funeral arrangements have been made (or have already happened). That is the best time to honor your dad, to be honest. I don't think your wedding should be the sequel to the funeral. Also, think about what your dad would want you to do. Few fathers would want their daughter to focus on him during her wedding. This is a time to celebrate you and your FI. I saw something great on Pinterest about having a small charm with his picture attached to your shoes. <strong>That way, he is walking down the aisle with you. Or you could have a memento of his in your bouquet. I think it would be best to honor him in a subtle way instead of the song for your entrance.</strong> I really am sorry to hear about your loss.
Posted by TXKristan[/QUOTE]

I agree with the whole post, especially the bolded part! I've never heard of this and I think it is a very thoughtful thing to do. I am truly sorry for your loss OP.

MrsGandthebeag · March 2013

I am very sorry for your loss. Please don't do the song tribute thing. It will most likely make you sad as well as other guests. I had a picture of my dad in a locket that was attached to my bouquet.

Jen4948 · March 2013

I'm very sorry for your loss.

But I have to agree with PPs that even as sad as you feel, you shouldn't make your wedding, or any part of it, about your grief. Wanting to remember your father is perfectly fine and reasonable, but I'd do it in a non-sad way. You can give him a tribute in a wedding program, have food, drink, music, decorations, etc. that he liked, and wear or carry something that belonged to him. These things don't call attention to the reason he isn't there to celebrate with you in person. But I think walking to a song about your father being in Heaven does, so this is something I would not do.

lovefuzzies · March 2013

I'm very sorry for your loss. I also just lost my father unexpectedly not that long ago and was wrestling with wanting to honor him in some way. TXKristan gave great advice. I'll be having a memorial pendant and single white rose in my bouquet for my father. Anything beyond that (empty chair, memorial candles/lanterns, songs, etc.) would have upset my mother to the point that she would have been a mess that day. Find out what works for your family and go with it. I hope you have a lovely wedding.

erinlin25 · March 2013

big hug to you OP! Its going to be an emotional day no matter what and especially with this all happening so close it will be even more emotional. Talk to your family and do what is best for all of you. Your wedding should be a happy day, and happiness is just what your family needs. There are many beautiful songs that could work but be sure you are prepared for those sort of emotions. There was just a video on you tube where a bride recently lost her dad and so for the dad/daughter dance she danced with her FIL, grandfather and brother plus her other brother sang "butterfly kisses." It was beautiful but the bride was a mess (as would anybody in that situation--video looked like it was a surprise to her) and pretty much all of the guests were in tears, not to mention I was even bawling at my desk watching the video.

Knottie_22387726 · March 2013

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[QUOTE]My father just passed away last week and my wedding is May 25th 2013, my dad was so excited and I know he will still be there but I am going to have my brother and gma walk me down the aisle but I want to talk down to a song about my dad being in heaven. I am only 22 and his death was a complete shock so I am having to deal with all this just a couple months before my wedding..... and ideas on songs and how to get through this
Posted by jessicahines[/QUOTE]

So sorry for your loss...

A friend of mine lost her father several years before her wedding and she opted to walk down the aisle by herself and as she was doing so her fiance walked towards her. They met at the front row and placed a single rose in the empty chair beside her mother and he then escorted her to the stage. It was very emotional but very, very sweet and thoughtful.

hockeywife10 · March 2013

I am very sorry to hear about your father. I lost mine three years ago, and never thought I'd be walking down the aisle again. I know for sure that I will be getting some sort of bouquet charm and putting it in my bouquet, and my brother is walking me down the aisle. I am toying with the idea of having the father/daughter dance, and dancing with my new H to the song I Loved Her First by Heartland...

Daizy106 · March 2013

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[QUOTE]My father just passed away last week and my wedding is May 25th 2013, my dad was so excited and I know he will still be there but I am going to have my brother and gma walk me down the aisle but I want to talk down to a song about my dad being in heaven. I am only 22 and his death was a complete shock so I am having to deal with all this just a couple months before my wedding..... and ideas on songs and how to get through this
Posted by jessicahines[/QUOTE]

i am very sorry for your loss. I lost my dad when i was 13, and I am getting married in Sept. and I am still upset that he won't be there. I don't know if this is too short notice, but what I am having my DJ do is a memorial collage. I got together a bunch of pictures of my dad with me, my sister, my mom and I am having "Isn't she Lovely" playing in the background. I didn't want a sad song because my dad was a very happy go lucky guy-so I wanted something upbeat.

A song for you to walk down the aisle to that sounds beautiful instrumental but you won't have a dry eye in the house is Angel by Sarah McLachlan- I will Remember You also by Sarah McLachlan. November Rain by Guns n Roses is also beautiful instrumental.

Its been 15 years for me, and it is still a struggle. I feel terrible for you because your wedding is so close. Try to enjoy your wedding day knowing that your dad is looking down on you and how proud he is of you. I know its not the same, and words don't mean much right now, and the pain is unbearable. If you need to PM me, please do.

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