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MOH Speech

alexanne89alexanne89
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My sister is one of my best friends and she's my maid of honor, but she refuses to do a speech for my wedding.  Now I understand why she doesn't want to do it.  We are quiet people and don't do well with public speaking.  Is there anything else she could do instead?  Any ideas or suggestions?  Should I ask another bridesmaid to do it?  Should we just skip my side of the speeches?  Help?  lol!
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Re: MOH Speech

  • alexanne89alexanne89
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    Ok!  Thanks guys!  I already told her she didn't have to do it.  I wouldn't want to be forced to do a speech!  :)  So we'll be skipping them!  Whew!  Next crisis!  lol!  :P
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  • Lisa50Lisa50 member
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    Do you have another close friend who would like to give a toast (calling those few words a speech can be off-putting to some)?
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  • Kristin789Kristin789 member
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    There are no speeches / orations given at a wedding reception.

    The reception begins with the FOB giving a toast to the guests, thanking them for coming to the wedding.

    Then the Best Man gives a toast to the newlyweds.

    Sometimes the MOH also gives a toast to the newlyweds, but that's pretty uncommon and unnecessary since the Best Man already did it.
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  • Kristin4911Kristin4911 member
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    Speeches (or toasts) are not required at all, but I also don't feel that allowing a couple members of the bridal party (or parents of the bride/groom) to speak a few minutes about the couple should put such a burden on your guests.

    Your guests are there to celebrate you two as a couple and I think they should expect a couple specific people to speak about that. I'm not saying the speeches should last 2 hours, not at all, but I think a few minutes is perfectly acceptable. Nice, even.
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  • alexanne89alexanne89
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    Thanks for all the advice everyone!  We've decided not to ask anyone to make a speech or toast.  If anyone wants to, they are free to.  I guess it's just tradition in my area for the BM and MOH to make a toast but I don't want to force anyone to make a toast.  I wouldn't want to be forced or expected to!  Thanks everyone!  :)
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  • FutureMrsR5711FutureMrsR5711
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    We have a MOH and BM who are both soft spoken. In lieu of them making toats, etc. we have asked 2 other friends if they wanted to speak on our behalf. They happen to be the couple that introduced us. We let them know they were under no obligation, but if they wanted to they could. We felt it better to have 2 people who expereinced the full story of us, and who are outspoken to take this on if they chose rather than 2 individuals who dislike public speaking, etc. To my excitement they have agreed so i can't wait to hear how they describe our journey, etc.
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  • OwningAHome1981OwningAHome1981 member
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    edited August 2012
    Nothing is required or not required... it's your day and you're free to run it however you'd like.

    With that said, I do think that if the best man or a groomsman makes a speech, someone on your side should as well. I'm making an MOH speech at my sister's wedding next weekend. Most of the weddings I have been to the MOH speech was mostly about the bride and some small excerpt about her new husband. It's nice to have both parties represented... plus I love hearing stories about them when they were little. That is something really only an MOH would know, especially if she was a sister. Brings a more personal touch :)

    good luck with whatever you choose!
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