How can I tactfully tell someone that she isn't going to be a bridesmaid? My wedding is still a few years out and despite that come the holiday time, my fiance and I will start asking various friends and family members to be apart of our wedding. Right now, if we ask everyone we both want, our wedding party will be 8 girls and 8 guys plus ushers and personal attendants. I have one friend who has made it known, she expects to be asked to be a bridesmaid in the wedding and when things were first being discussed, I felt put on the spot and didn't know what to say to her. My fiance wanted to meet her first before he gave any type of input and when he met her he said that he felt she would be the bridesmaid that would do anything to ruin the wedding. I have since stopped all wedding talks with her. I know talking to her in person over lunch or coffee would be a good idea but we live in different states(about 2 hrs apart) and actually never see each other and really only talk over FB. I don't even have her phone number! Any help is appreciated!
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