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serious food allergy accomidations and lots of them

metalotakumetalotaku member
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this is my food allergen list for me and my guests

NUTS +
YELLOW FOOD DYE
PATATOS + * mine
TOMATOS +
SHELLFISH +
MANGOS
PINEAPPLE # +
BANNANAS
PEPPERS # +

i'm a bit concerned for poeple with food allergiens at my wedding. we are doing a buffet style because of this long list and several picky eaters.

somethings i don't want to leave out for everyone, but i'm terrified of cross contamination. all those with + can send people to the e.r. if something else even touches it. and those with a # the people can't even get the oils or anything on their hands or skin.

only 3 am i thinking of having and that's spegehtti for kids so tomatos but we think an alfredo might make up for that.

yellow dye would be one cakes frosted characters on it. but another cake would be yellow free.

and the 3rd is i'm pretty sure people would die of starvation if i don't have potatos.

my biggest fear is leaving my own recepition in an ambulance. because i've experinced several times how people don't take my allergy seriously. they think i'm making it up cause it's rare. and this has caused me to have many issues at resturants. (not ordering fries, they put it on the plate anyway, tell them i need my food remade cause of it. and they just push the fries off and bring me the food back that's contaminated and i have an attack)

when looking at venues i even brought this list with me. and said if you can't accomidate these issues i'm ready to leave. i plan the same for when i pick a cake maker. our venue said they can work with the allergies when planning a menu but is there anything i need to do or can do to make sure my food is safe? or should i fight to remove the potatos from my menu despite an uproar for saftey and comfort and piece of mind?
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Re: serious food allergy accomidations and lots of them

  • ChristineNBChristineNB
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    Since you are doing buffet style, I would definitely have your food labeled (ie warning contains potatoes, etc), since with some dishes people might not realize there is an allergen in it until it is too late.

    Some foods I had at my wedding that might work for you:
    artichoke and veggie pasta
    wings (obviously ask/control about what is in the sauce, but we had garlic parm)
    spaghetti with tomato sauce and meatballs on the side
    Kielbasa kabobs with sourkraut
    Cheese/veggie platters during cocktail hour

    For desert we had homemade cookies, and I know that none of them had food dye, and you could definitely be able to control if any have nuts.
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  • jessicabessicajessicabessica member
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    Frankly, I don't think any of those foods you listed would be terribly missed at the reception.  If you have such severe allergies to them, then I would go over them with your caterer and decide on a menu that will not incorporate any of them.  

    You can have a wedding cake without yellow dye.  Potatoes are just a starch--there are so many other starches you could choose and provide plenty to eat for your guests without having to worry about your safety.  I'm thinking rice pilaf, risotto, pasta (so many options--ravioli, lasagna w/bechamel sauce, scampi, alfredo), or couscous.
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  • lyndausvilyndausvi mod
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    I don't know Stage,  I think I may be the biggest potato eaterTongue out


    I agree people will not starve without have potatoes on the menu.  It's starch, there are tons of other starches to choose from.  Actually, nothing on your list people are going to flat out miss.  I would seriously side-eye anyone who complains about no patotoes or tomatoes on a menu

    I think you are overthinking this.

    ** not overthinking your allergy, but overthinking people's need for potato or mango. 






    What differentiates an average host and a great host is anticipating unexpressed needs and wants of their guests.  Just because the want/need is not expressed, doesn't mean it wouldn't be appreciated. 
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  • reppunzelreppunzel member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_food-cakes_serious-food-allergy-accomidations-and-lots-of-them?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:23Discussion:7fc90aff-5522-4b63-9908-dd10d952b9a4Post:2a83e509-9ffa-497a-8ee3-05c005e20d17">Re:serious food allergy accomidations and lots of them</a>:
    [QUOTE] I would just avoid all the foods on your list. It will be easy to offer a wide variety without any of those things and it's not worth the risk of cross contamination.
    Posted by StageManager14[/QUOTE]

    I completely agree with this.  Given how serious most of those allergies are for you/your guests, I would not have any of them as an option on the buffet or on the ingredient list for anything served.  It's too easy for a serving spoon to get used in the wrong dish or for food to drip/splatter from one serving tray to another, and as PP have said, nothing on the danger list is going to make or break a meal. 

    Even though you've already talked with the venue, I'd suggest another conversation with both your venue contact and the chef/kitchen manager to be sure they understand how serious the risks are for cross-contamination with preparation utensils/surfaces.
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  • theelusive1theelusive1
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    We too have severe food allergies.  There are many but the two that are the biggest with the guests we are just not having in the building. Seafood and nuts.  Now for the others since we are making our own food their food will be labelled and only handled by me or them.  We are having a make your own fruit bowl.  I am always very careful to never cross contaminate.  No reuse of knives in cutting fruit etc. 
    We have spoken to everyone with allergies that we know of. We have put it on the website to contact us if the person has any special food needs.
    We have vegan food choices. Vegetarian food choices and Gluten free.  There will be nothing with dye.
    I know it is a pain to have to deal with the dietary needs for allergies.  I can't eat out because of them so I know how other people feel when trying to eat some place other than home.
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  • Burtonbaby145Burtonbaby145 member
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    Here's a thought since you are super allergic to potatoes instead of having them there at all substitute mashed potatoes with mashed cauliflower. I know it sounds weird at first but when done right it has almost the same texture and a very similar flavor. Trust me, people won't even miss potato in that case! If I think of anything else that will work for any of the other issues I will post again. Best of luck!
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  • metalotakumetalotaku member
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    the biggest call for a need of potatos is actually my parents. my mom seems to think we have to have potatos. and she's paying for the wedding. despite my initial refusal. since she doubled my guest list we couldn't have it at the venue i wanted nor could we afford it.
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  • itzMSitzMS member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_food-cakes_serious-food-allergy-accomidations-and-lots-of-them?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:23Discussion:7fc90aff-5522-4b63-9908-dd10d952b9a4Post:c70aae1f-dbf1-4295-9a3a-a0e8aaad051e">Re: serious food allergy accomidations and lots of them</a>:
    [QUOTE]the biggest call for a need of potatos is actually my parents. my mom seems to think we have to have potatos. and she's paying for the wedding. despite my initial refusal. since she doubled my guest list we couldn't have it at the venue i wanted nor could we afford it.
    Posted by metalotaku[/QUOTE]

    Something's gotta give here when your own mother won't respect your food allergy.  <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-undecided.gif" border="0" alt="Undecided" title="Undecided" />

    Rice or pasta or (yummy!) mashed cauliflower will be more than acceptable.
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  • metalotakumetalotaku member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_food-cakes_serious-food-allergy-accomidations-and-lots-of-them?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:23Discussion:7fc90aff-5522-4b63-9908-dd10d952b9a4Post:4d78a6ae-4f70-4792-aa1b-4fc1b1187c5f">Re: serious food allergy accomidations and lots of them</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: serious food allergy accomidations and lots of them : Something's gotta give here when your own mother won't respect your food allergy.
    Posted by itzMS[/QUOTE]
    she's allergic to peppers too. my dad can't even have them and then kiss her, because of how bad hers is.
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  • jessicabessicajessicabessica member
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    Do you have your caterer yet?  Could you show your mom some sample menus that do not include potatoes, and see if she actually misses them?
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  • metalotakumetalotaku member
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    we have to use the venues. and we have gotten sample menus from them. but there is not a single thing on their list we can use as is almost. her thing was i can get rice as a side and a potato side. but it's so easy for someone to swap spoons or the kitchen to use a knife on something else.
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  • ElisabethJoanneElisabethJoanne member
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    Don't know how to deal with your mother. Our list of allergens in my family was longer. Because one is a family tradition (liver and onions), we incorporated it into the hors d'ouvers, but worked out a menu that avoids it with dinner. (Yes, we also have more "normal" hors d'ouvers, like fruit and cheese and crackers.) We put the list of allergens in our contract, next to the menu items that can't contain the allergens.

    I also put our allergy precautions on our wedding website. None of our guests have brought up allergies.
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  • metalotakumetalotaku member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_food-cakes_serious-food-allergy-accomidations-and-lots-of-them?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:23Discussion:7fc90aff-5522-4b63-9908-dd10d952b9a4Post:94ca9880-7681-4dbc-ab36-2fca6c1f5e67">Re: serious food allergy accomidations and lots of them</a>:
    [QUOTE]Don't know how to deal with your mother. Our list of allergens in my family was longer. Because one is a family tradition (liver and onions), we incorporated it into the hors d'ouvers, but worked out a menu that avoids it with dinner. (Yes, we also have more "normal" hors d'ouvers, like fruit and cheese and crackers.) We put the list of allergens in our contract, next to the menu items that can't contain the allergens. I also put our allergy precautions on our wedding website. None of our guests have brought up allergies.
    Posted by ElisabethJoanne[/QUOTE]
    I actually went through and asked everyone theirs. cause i knew a handful off the top of my head and knew others had them, but weren't sure what. but i'll def have them put it in the contract when we go back for the food stuff and set all that up. thanks for that info.
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