Hi ladies.

XoLuceyoX · August 2011

Apparently I broke three rules with my first post....so here goes my introduction.
I'm Chrissy; I was born and raised in Rome, where the wedding will be held at the Delta Lake Inn, and I am 18. I don't need to hear anybody tell me I'm making the wrong decision by marrying young, as I am well aware of my decisions. My fiance is Trace. He is originally from Grand Prairie, TX, is 19-almost 20, and is a Spc. in the U.S. Army. He is stationed at Ft. Drum, where we will be living after the wedding. However, right now his is currently deployed to Afghanistan. The last year has been rough with him being deployed, but the end is approaching very quickly and I'm just happy to have my best friend coming home to me soon. We've been together for nearly 3 years, and we met through my cousin, and her boyfriend who is in the same unit as Trace. That's basically me in a nutshell. Oh, and the wedding is November 6th of this year.

Happily9 · August 2011

Thanks for the intro...like Monica said...it's easier to give advice to you if we know a little background first. Don't worry...we've all broken at least one knottie rule along the way! Welcome and glad to have you on our board!

kevinandmonica2011 · August 2011

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[QUOTE]Apparently I broke three rules with my first post....so here goes my introduction. I'm Chrissy; I was born and raised in Rome, where the wedding will be held at the Delta Lake Inn, and I am 18. I don't need to hear anybody tell me I'm making the wrong decision by marrying young, as I am well aware of my decisions. My fiance is Trace Timmons. He is originally from Grand Prairie, TX, is 19-almost 20, and is a Spc. in the U.S. Army. He is stationed at Ft. Drum, where we will be living after the wedding. However, right now his is currently deployed to Afghanistan. The last year has been rough with him being deployed, but the end is approaching very quickly and I'm just happy to have my best friend coming home to me soon. We've been together for nearly 3 years, and we met through my cousin, and her boyfriend who is in the same unit as Trace. That's basically me in a nutshell. Oh, and the wedding is November 6th of this year. =)
Posted by XoLuceyoX[/QUOTE]

Wow. You're a real peach already. There is no need to make snippy comments about "rules" and what you do or don't need to hear. As for the rules, I simply made you aware of etiquette... it's actually a pretty common thing and no so much a "rule" but rather just being polite. As for your bolded comment, no one on this board made any comments about your age and/or your decision to marry... you might want to check your attitude sweetheart. For the record, this is a public forum and anyone on here can comment in any way they choose, provided that it is within the terms of service.

I would have never thought for a second about making any comments on your age or your decision to marry, but since you felt the need to make your first post so... well... snotty, I think it's only appropriate that I respond similarly. Getting married at 18 to someone in the Army is pretty well... you know what... I'll let you figure it out. Then again, since at 18, you clearly know everything already... I guess it's a mute point.

Good luck to you and your fi... If you approach all things in life the way you have approached this board, you've got a long road.

XoLuceyoX · August 2011

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[QUOTE]In Response to Hi ladies. : Wow. You're a real peach already. There is no need to make snippy comments about "rules" and what you do or don't need to hear. As for the rules, I simply made you aware of etiquette... it's actually a pretty common thing and no so much a "rule" but rather just being polite. As for your bolded comment, no one on this board made any comments about your age and/or your decision to marry... you might want to check your attitude sweetheart. For the record, this is a public forum and anyone on here can comment in any way they choose, provided that it is within the terms of service. I would have never thought for a second about making any comments on your age or your decision to marry, but since you felt the need to make your first post so... well... snotty, I think it's only appropriate that I respond similarly. Getting married at 18 to someone in the Army is pretty well... you know what... I'll let you figure it out. Then again, since at 18, you clearly know everything already... I guess it's a mute point. Good luck to you and your fi... If you approach all things in life the way you have approached this board, you've got a long road.
Posted by kevinandmonica2011[/QUOTE]

Wow. Never once did I say anything about anybody on THIS board calling me stupid (though you just did), however I have run into it every other place I've been, including the main boards on this site. Thank you for being a b-well I'll let you figure that out-. I'm on this site trying to get advice for my wedding, not get attacked for the way I word things, so I'm very sorry if you read it with a snippy tone as it was not meant that way. I was simply stating a fact. As for the comment about breaking rules? It was a simple joke, with me trying to make light of the situation. So thank you for practically picking apart my post and attacking me, and judging me based on my age. If this is the way everybody on the board acts, I'll be leaving.

ChelseaB425 · August 2011

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[QUOTE]In Response to Hi ladies. : Wow. You're a real peach already. There is no need to make snippy comments about "rules" and what you do or don't need to hear. As for the rules, I simply made you aware of etiquette... it's actually a pretty common thing and no so much a "rule" but rather just being polite.
Posted by kevinandmonica2011[/QUOTE]

I can see where she's coming from. You probably mean well, but the way you expect people to provide a full bio all the time is a tad off-putting.

kevinandmonica2011 · August 2011

Thanks Chelsea, but I actually never ask anyone for a full bio. Just a simple intro. Name, wedding date, location... mostly so when people ask for recommendations the answers they get are pertinent. This is not a general international board to talk about colors and ideas and other generic things, but a local board to talk about local vendors and recommendations. If we know nothing at all about the poster, we could be throwing out rec's left and right from Syracuse, when they are in Buffalo or rec's in the $$$ range when they are trying to save money. Pointless and annoying on both sides.

I see it as a two way street... and maybe I'm off here. The more info the OP is willing to share, chances are the better responses they will get. I don't think my post was snarky at all (the first one to the OP)... the second one... well... I think I explained that quite well.

OP- like I said in my post, no one made any comments about your age. You judged us (assuming that we would immediately jump all over you about that), much the same that the previous boards judged you for your age. See? Works both ways;.

XoLuceyoX · August 2011

Well I'm sorry...but when literally EVERYBODY jumps down your throat, it's just a natural response to assume and state things before they're even mentioned.

As for local vendors? In my original post I said Rome. I just had 1 simple question about a baker, and was referred here from the actual generic wedding cake board. I was un aware I needed to give background information just to get information on a cake. I typically don't lurk on boards to know the "guidlines" before I post, so I just went for it.

kevinandmonica2011 · August 2011

Fair enough? Start fresh?

We really are a pretty great group of girls and are not here to judge... but when you start off judging us... I'm sure you can see where that goes.

I am from Syracuse and my reception was in the Finger Lakes, so I will be no help with your cake situation... but if you stick around I may come in handy for any other issues. I actually spent 8 years in the Marine Corps and am married to a Marine... so I know lots about deployments, millitary life and being a military wife.

I apologize if we got off on the wrong foot, but I don't like being judged any more than you.

DondadaTimes2 · August 2011

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Hi ladies. : I can see where she's coming from. You probably mean well, but the way you expect people to provide a full bio all the time is a tad off-putting.
Posted by ChelseaB425[/QUOTE]

We dont expect your life story but we do expect a "hi my name is... my wedding is... Im having my wedding in..." This board ranges from Buffalo to Syracuse. Not sure if you Jersey folk get how big an area that is, but its pretty big. I can give most people on this board all the info I gathered from my wedding but it isnt going to do chit as most of you are getting married 45 min to an hour away. Get it sweetie? If you dont like our ettiquite style youre more than welcome to find advice elsewhere

As for Lucie...nobody called you stupid. She simply suggested that at 18, army girlfriend or not, you dont know all there is to know about life and while he may be "the one" it may be a little soon to tell. At 18 I thought my bf was "the one" I know MUCH better now. Get to know Monica a bit, her and her DH are military too. But they didnt jump to marry the guy they were with at 18 simply cuz she was deployed. But hey like Monica said, no one would have commented without your little snark about not caring what people think. If you have to make it known that you dont care...you do and it obviously bothers you.

Welcome to the board

XoLuceyoX · August 2011

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[QUOTE]In Response to Hi ladies. : Is this your FIs full name? If so please edit your post and remove his name for your own Internet safety.
Posted by libordke22[/QUOTE]

No, it's not. It's not the name the Army knows him by. It's his nickname, that his family gave him, and the name I met his as.

kks4471 · August 2011

Whoaaa ladies! I can defintely see both sides of the stories, lets take a second to clear the air. Chrissy, it is nice to have a little background. Just helps us all have an idea of what you're looking for, and how we can help. Some of the girls here are from Utica, so they may have better ideas than the rest of us. Now, none of us thought anything bad about you being 18... until you posted it that way. Even I was surprised at how you worded that, and I don't recommend you repeat that sentence. We're not here to judge, we're here to help.

So after all that, welcome to the board, and I really hope you have a great time planning your wedding!

ChelseaB425 · August 2011

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Hi ladies. : We dont expect your life story but we do expect a "hi my name is... my wedding is... Im having my wedding in..." This board ranges from Buffalo to Syracuse. Not sure if you Jersey folk get how big an area that is, but its pretty big. I can give most people on this board all the info I gathered from my wedding but it isnt going to do chit as most of you are getting married 45 min to an hour away. Get it sweetie? If you dont like our ettiquite style youre more than welcome to find advice elsewhere
Posted by DondadaTimes2[/QUOTE]

I'm from Rochester. I get how big the area is and I appreciate the need for details. Unfortunately, there are a few posters who are obnoxious about it. Some girls just come here looking for input or, like me, vendor reviews. On more than one occasion, I've seen those girls get snotty, sarcastic responses. It's silly.

Lucey said she was looking for a bakery in Rome. How much more information could possibly be needed? Certainly not enough to warrent a seperate thread.

DondadaTimes2 · August 2011

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Hi ladies. : I'm from Rochester. I get how big the area is and I appreciate the need for details. Unfortunately, there are a few posters who are obnoxious about it. Some girls just come here looking for input or, like me, vendor reviews. On more than one occasion, I've seen those girls get snotty, sarcastic responses. It's silly. Lucey said she was looking for a bakery in Rome. How much more information could possibly be needed? Certainly not enough to warrent a seperate thread.
Posted by ChelseaB425[/QUOTE]

Some of us have been on here a while...I was engaged 2 years and have been on that whole time. Theres a way we do things here. We find its easiest for us to help if we know a little bit. If you dont like it, you dont need to stick around. Im sorry you have to type a little extra, but if its that big of a task, find another place to get your info.

And youre from Roch. Got it, But when you dont tell us anything and your profile says Jersey...you get questioned. Again, I apologize that you had to endure the extra few words

XoLuceyoX · August 2011

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[QUOTE]Fair enough? Start fresh? We really are a pretty great group of girls and are not here to judge... but when you start off judging us... I'm sure you can see where that goes. I am from Syracuse and my reception was in the Finger Lakes, so I will be no help with your cake situation... but if you stick around I may come in handy for any other issues. I actually spent 8 years in the Marine Corps and am married to a Marine... so I know lots about deployments, millitary life and being a military wife. I apologize if we got off on the wrong foot, but I don't like being judged any more than you.
Posted by kevinandmonica2011[/QUOTE]

Starting fresh sounds great. Trace and I started talking while he was in BCT, and I've been with him through AIT, and him luckily getting stationed in Ft. Drum. I count my blessings everyday that he got stationed this close to me. Even though I've been with him every step of his military career, I'm still learning how things work everyday. Prior to this lovely cake issue, everything about the wedding was perfectly planned and set it stone, all I needed was Trace's safe return home.

DondadaTimes2 · August 2011

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Hi ladies. : No, it's not. It's not the name the Army knows him by. It's his nickname, that his family gave him, and the name I met his as.
Posted by XoLuceyoX[/QUOTE]

I just searched that name on fb and found his profile. I suggest you edit the post and take his name out as well. If you think were psycho, you know nothing. People will do some crazy chit when they get your info.

kevinandmonica2011 · August 2011

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Hi ladies. : Starting fresh sounds great. Trace and I started talking while he was in BCT, and I've been with him through AIT, and him luckily getting stationed in Ft. Drum. I count my blessings everyday that he got stationed this close to me. Even though I've been with him every step of his military career, I'm still learning how things work everyday. Prior to this lovely cake issue, everything about the wedding was perfectly planned and set it stone, all I needed was Trace's safe return home.
Posted by XoLuceyoX[/QUOTE]

Prayers and positive thoughts for you both. I hope everything turns out well. Please know that he may be very different when he comes home. I have deployed 4 times and DH once (and my brother twice)... so I am speaking with a pretty good deal of experience. If you ever need help or to talk, let me know... or talk to someone on the base or at the VA (I work at the VA in Syracuse)... wedding planning is fun, but please be prepared for the reality of post-deployment. It can be rough. I don't mean to scare you, but just want to make sure you are prepared. There are lots of resources out there if you need anything... just so you know.... and there are lots of girls on here to chat with and/or vent to. Heck... we vent daily about something.

Welcome again

DondadaTimes2 · August 2011

**Lucey** for what its worth, hes cute! And I bet he's a great guy.

Welcome to CNY TK. Im the arguer.

XoLuceyoX · August 2011

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[QUOTE]**Lucey** for what its worth, hes cute! And I bet he's a great guy. Welcome to CNY TK. Im the arguer. :)
Posted by DondadaTimes2[/QUOTE]

Thank you! He's a crazy old fashioned romantic, and a true southern gentleman. He arranged a skype date with my technologically challenged father to ask his permission for my hand in marriage, since he didn't want to do it over the phone and was planning on proposing while he was on R&R and I was in TX meeting his family.

kevinandmonica2011 · August 2011

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[QUOTE]And not for nothing, if anyone reads the newbie read this first sticky, It says we love an introduction
Posted by libordke22[/QUOTE]

psssh.... Kara... geeez.... NO ONE ever reads that. pfffff <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-tongue-out.gif" border="0" alt="Tongue out" title="Tongue out" />

::head desk:: ::head desk::

XoLuceyoX · August 2011

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Hi ladies. : Prayers and positive thoughts for you both. I hope everything turns out well. Please know that he may be very different when he comes home. I have deployed 4 times and DH once (and my brother twice)... so I am speaking with a pretty good deal of experience. If you ever need help or to talk, let me know... or talk to someone on the base or at the VA (I work at the VA in Syracuse)... wedding planning is fun, but please be prepared for the reality of post-deployment. It can be rough. I don't mean to scare you, but just want to make sure you are prepared. There are lots of resources out there if you need anything... just so you know.... and there are lots of girls on here to chat with and/or vent to. Heck... we vent daily about something. Welcome again
Posted by kevinandmonica2011[/QUOTE]

I'm prepared for him to be completely different. However, the only thing we've experienced as of right now is that he's just kinda blah so to speak and trying to make time faster to get home. Most of the time he's still the same goof ball I fell in love with. His MOS isn't really a "dangerous" one. He's an avionics mechanic on the Apache Longbow, so he's not actually in combat. The only thing he's dealt with is the death of a few pilots in his unit, and a mortar attack on the base.

With all that said, we're both willing to go to counseling if need be, and I'll do everything in my power to support him and get him back to "normal".

kevinandmonica2011 · August 2011

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Hi ladies. : Thank you! He's a crazy old fashioned romantic, and a true southern gentleman. He arranged a skype date with my technologically challenged father to ask his permission for my hand in marriage, since he didn't want to do it over the phone and was planning on proposing while he was on R&R and I was in TX meeting his family.
Posted by XoLuceyoX[/QUOTE]

That's really sweet!?!?! See... why wouldn't you want to share that with everyone??? We LOVE mushy stories!!!

kevinandmonica2011 · August 2011

OP (didn't feel like copying and pasting your last... lazy)... good for you both that you understand and accept what may lie ahead. That's awesome! I hope it never gets to that point, but if it does, it's great that you are prepared. I have seen so many of my friends make big mistakes because they were too proud/stubborn to ask for help.

As for his MOS... he's got a good civilian career ahead with a job like that. Good for him! And lucky for you both that he isn't really in a hot zone. They always send us Marines right smack into the middle of the crap, lol.

XoLuceyoX · August 2011

Okay, so mushy story of how he proposed:

I just posted how he asked my father. Now for the actual proposal. First of all- he was supposed to take his r&r in June, got screwed over, and had to take it in February.

Now, he took me to Oklahoma to meet the rest of his Aunts and Uncles while he was on leave. They live in Seminole, which if you've ever been there is a whole lot of nothing. He planned a little midnight picnic, since we love just looking at the stars whenever it's nice out. He handed me a small-ish box, and told me to open it. Inside was a map of the sky, pointing to the star he had bought and had named for me, with a little handwritten note that said "This star, like our love, will last beyond our lives. When ever you miss me, look up at your star and know I'm thinking of you every minute of everyday." I already had tears in my eyes, and turned to look at him. He was sitting there with the ring, shaking like a leaf trying to mumble out something along the lines of will you marry me, but couldn't get it out. I instantly started bawling like a baby, shook my head yes, and flung myself into his arms.

DondadaTimes2 · August 2011

Awww thats real sweet. He sounds like a keeper. Not too many young romantics out there these days

kevinandmonica2011 · August 2011

Awwww!!!! How sweet!!! Love the star thing!

sbolger17 · August 2011

Such a sweet story!! That made me tear up just reading it.

I'm late to the party, but welcome to the board! And congrats to you -- Nov is coming up fast! (But not so fast that you don't have time to take care of the cake!)

XoLuceyoX · August 2011

Thanks. It was originally supposed to be next June, but my cousin decided to go plan her wedding the same day, knowing full well that's the date we had been planning. Not wanting to deal with the drama of most of my family, we just moved the date up and are keeping the guest list exclusive. It's a small intimate wedding.

DondadaTimes2 · August 2011

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[QUOTE]Thanks. It was originally supposed to be next June, but my cousin decided to go plan her wedding the same day, knowing full well that's the date we had been planning. Not wanting to deal with the drama of most of my family, we just moved the date up and are keeping the guest list exclusive. It's a small intimate wedding. =)
Posted by XoLuceyoX[/QUOTE]

Oh yeah you fit in here. So many of us dealt with a$$hole family like that

Hi ladies.

Re: Hi ladies.

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