Um, I may have made my RSVP date way too early...am I in for it?

daflaminga · March 2010

My wedding is May 30th and my RSVP date is April 12th. I have no clue why I made it so earlier, I guess I just didn't know any better and didn't do my research. My invitations are right now ready to go out but I think I'm going to wait until mid-March for sure. Are people going to get their invitations and wonder why the heck they have to respond so early or do they not even look at the date?

squirrly · March 2010

They'll look. And they'll be irritated. At least, some of them will. If you can't re-print that part, I wouldn't wait more than about 10 days to send them out, to give people at LEAST a month to request off, etc.

daflaminga · March 2010

Irritated? I wouldn't go that far! I did send save the dates...

saisongbird · March 2010

You asked for opinions. You're getting them. Irritated is the correct word. My FI has trouble getting off of work that far in advance. Many week-to-week companies won't let you request time off that early. You may have some irritated guests. They'll deal. And so will you.

squirrly · March 2010

About needing to RSVP 6 weeks before your wedding? Some people will be. Not everyone can even request vacation that far in advance, much less find out if they get it 6 weeks before an event.

brantina · March 2010

You're not that far off, some people respond late anyways. I think you will be okay!

Simply Fated · March 2010

Some people don't know if they can take off from work that early in advance while others need further advance to take off from work.

You sent STDs, so the date shouldn't be too big of a surprise for most people.

Worse comes to worse, if there is a change of plans and it turns out they can't come, they can always call you and send their regrets.

banana468 · March 2010

This shouldn't be too big of a surprise but it also IS one of the first impressions people are getting of your event. Why have it be a potentially bad one?

I'd reprint the response cards asap to fix this. You have a distinct window of opportunity now to do the right thing. Why not do it?

janedoe1113a · March 2010

I would recommend reprinting them if at all possible.

Your guests will probably be pretty irritated having to RSVP for an event that far in advance. Shoot. My wedding is in 3 weeks and some of my guests don't know whether they're going to be able to get off work yet or not.

mandybear7 · March 2010

I don't think anyone would call you screaming, but instead be irritated, yes. Since it's Memorial Day weekend, I'm sure some people may understand why they're early.

I would probably reprint them if you can, though.

aerinpegadrak · March 2010

I would just reprint them, even if you have to do it on your home printer and on different paper. You may get a higher decline rate with the earlier date, because people who can't commit that early may just say no. (That's probably what I would do if I were one of your guests.)

Even if you send them out with the current date, I wouldn't start following up with any non-responders until 2 weeks or so before the wedding.

MyNameIsNot · March 2010

I would be irritated if you needed an answer that early. That's really far for people to need to make a decision.

You're probably going to have a lot of people saying one thing, and then calling to change it when it gets to a more reasonable time for them to make a decision. You should reprint these.

daflaminga · March 2010

I'm going to reprint the response cards I've decided...I can't do any later than April 30th though because we DO have a b list!

SarahPLiz · March 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_invites-paper_um-made-rsvp-date-waaaaaaay-earlyam?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:cd062f89-8272-496a-b0ab-225e1f87acecDiscussion:45bdacca-7e8c-4edd-8f67-fc6a551c3e39Post:5b87d11e-677e-402c-a75f-284091ff8ffa">Re: Um, I may have made my RSVP date way too early...am I in for it?</a>:
[QUOTE]I'm going to reprint the response cards I've decided...I can't do any later than April 30th though because we DO have a b list!
Posted by daflaminga[/QUOTE]
and you seem proud of that. hm.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown · March 2010

Oh jeez. Get rid of the b-list too, please.

aerinpegadrak · March 2010

Yeah, that's the other thing: when people see an RSVP date that is either really early or really late, they know you're doing the B-list trick, and that's a really good way to make a lot of people very hurt and/or uncomfortable.

WayOhElle · March 2010

My RSVP date is a little more than a month before my date. I do not have a B list, I just know I will have to be calling my fiance's entire family for RSVPs. I wouldn't reprint the cards. I have never gotten irritated when people have asked for an RSVP earlier. It is just common courtesy to RSVP early anyway. Plus, since your wedding is on a holiday weekend, I think sending out the invites as soon as possible would be for the best if you want people to be able to make it.

shoegal715 · March 2010

My wedding is July 15, and my venue / food people need final numbers by June 1. It seems so early to me, so maybe I heard them wrong.

Just so you know, I received an invitation in February for a shower mid-April. The RSVP date was the end of February (6 weeks before the event), and I had to decline because I wasn't sure I could get all of my studying / essays done before the shower.

I wish I could have RSVPd even a few weeks later - it would have given me that much more time to see how much work I had finished, and decide whether or not I could attend. I really wanted to go, but the RSVP date was too early for me to commit to going.

banana468 · March 2010

Why on earth do your food people need numbers six weeks early?

shoegal715 · March 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_invites-paper_um-made-rsvp-date-waaaaaaay-earlyam?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:cd062f89-8272-496a-b0ab-225e1f87acecDiscussion:45bdacca-7e8c-4edd-8f67-fc6a551c3e39Post:e766dfa2-b3b7-4892-b754-dac84db48f69">Re: Um, I may have made my RSVP date way too early...am I in for it?</a>:
[QUOTE]Why on earth do your food people need numbers six weeks early?
Posted by banana468[/QUOTE]

<div>No idea, but June 1st is also written on the contract. I'm thinking it must be a typo, and they meant July 1</div>

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