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Less than 3 weeks to go.. still no dress
I ordered my perfect dress weeks before they told me I had to (late Feb or early March).. it is now less than 3 weeks before the wedding and I keep getting BS from the shop about how it is being shipped (this is the same story they told me over 4 weeks ago).
When do I give up and find something else to wear? I don't want to spend any money on a second dress.. but I also don't want to find out 3 days before the wedding that it will never be in.
I am just so burnt out with emotion over this. I really loved my dress and I saved so long to afford it. It fit my body perfectly. None of my recently married friends have a body type even similar to mine. (I already have self-confidence issues as it is.. I just wanted to wear a dress that fit me and I looked good in...I don't want my boobs falling out of my sisters dress or drown in another.)
I don't even know if I should keep waiting for my dress to come in - or if I should start looking into plan B.
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Re: Less than 3 weeks to go.. still no dress
Is this the original shipment, or was it sent out for alterations? Did you get your BM dresses from the same shop?
If the shipment is the original, and there is still a chance alterations would be necessary, you may have no choice but to go elsewhere. I am curious as to how diligent and earnestly the shop is pursuing this on your behalf. IF you also ordered the BM dresses there....and you think you can afford to play "chicken"....you might want to see how quickly the shop acts if you threaten to cancel all your orders with them.
I would ask to see all paperwork for your order...check dates and make sure they actually sent the order out when you originally bought the dress. I would also make the shop personnel call while you are there, so that if you need to interject on the call, you can do so. At least then you can get the truth from the manufacturer. Perhaps you could purchase their sample and have alterations done at their expense? Or, if the shop is a chain....see if another of their stores has a sample. Bottom line, however, is that you should NOT be out any money -- I would demand a full refund for failure to deliver as promised.
FWIW...I know my daughter would be beside herself if this were her scenario. I offer these sincere words to you as I would offer to her......and I apologize if I sound like a creeeper who stalked your bio..........
You are a beautiful girl with a gorgeous smile that no dress could ever rise above! I can't imagine you not looking gorgeous in anything you would wear. Your FI will have his breath taken away regardless of what you wear.
IF this were my daughter, I would suggest that she make a decision in "rip it off like a band-aid" fashion.....and move forward. Plan a day of hookey from work; make it a do-or-die shopping day....and enjoy the new experience. But, as hard as it may be.....if you decide to walk away from dress 1, really walk away! Make no comparisons....no regrets.....perhaps you will find something more to your liking now that everything else is in place.
Good luck to you.
[QUOTE]I would call incessantly trying to find out details, and I'd probably give it another week. If it's still a no-show, I'd pretty much demand a refund and take my business elsewhere.
Posted by JessAndTrav[/QUOTE]
That's what I would do. I also would stop by their place of business and ask the employees, very loudly, what is going on so other shoppers can hear.
If the manufacturer can't guarantee that the dress will arrive in time for alterations, ask the shop for an off-the-rack dress at a STEEP discount. Plus free alterations. One of my BM dresses was wrong when it came in, and it was too late to re-order -- they worked with the BM to take an off-the-rack dress and fix it (my girls just had to match color & designer, not style).
If the shop is unwilling to help you, I would contact the BBB and start shopping ASAP. And, get a seamstress lined up and ready, JIC. A good one. Who is speedy.
I think the bottom line is to go to the store - stop calling - and get to the bottom of it.
Dresses may be easier to take in than let out, but guest lists are not. -- kate51485
[QUOTE]Damn, I have no advice other that what PPs have said. What dress shop?
Posted by kellyjellybelly[/QUOTE]
Seriously. What dress shop?
Please don't freak out because the situation sucks but freaking out will waste time you don't have. At the end of the day you will be married to the love of your life whether you wear your perfect gown or some random white dress off the rack. It won't be the perfect thing you dreamed of but at the end of the day you are married and thats what matters.
Checj your local board for recommendations on a reliable seamstress. Explain the situation, and see if she can count you in as a last minute client. If your dress does arrive in time, I would absolutely NOT allow the bridal salon to hold on to it one more minute than needed.
Start looking at off the rack dresses, as well. Just to keep your options open.
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But I second the other PPs advice, especially the part about fighting hard. I know that you need to focus on your work, but I'd urge you to address this ASAP.
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