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bridesmaid using my wedding as motivation??

peaceisthewaypeaceistheway
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my girls put off buying their dresses until the last minute (thankfully, theyre ALL ordered, and should be here in time for alterations before the wedding, thank goodness!).

the girls gave me grief because they all wanted to diet and lose weight before buying their dresses. maybe i though it was odd because i myself hadnt even caught the lose-the-weight-asap bug, and it is MY wedding after all (haha). but anyways.... theyre ordered, so good? HA. i found out from one of the girls that another girl (who happens to be the bustiest of the bunch) decided to order a size smaller as more motivation!

aye yay yay.... women. i give up. fingers crossed all of these dresses fit! im just glad i chose a corset dress for them.... that's all i've gotta say :).
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Re: bridesmaid using my wedding as motivation??

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    AutumnFairAutumnFair member
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    edited December 2011
    I will admit, I'm not a fan of people trying to use someone's wedding to lose weight. Not only does it put pressure on the person, but the Bride as well. I don't know how many success stories are out there but I personally have seen and been in 3 weddings where a BM order a dress too small because a BM wanted to lose weight and then actually gains weight and has to alter the dress. So I do feel for Brides when they have this problem the best thing to do is to let it go and focus that it is the BMs job to order her dress and pay for any alterations she may need if the dress does not fit.

     I always encourage people to exercise but it is always safe to order your size then if any weight is lost it can be taken in which doesn't take as much work. It sounds like you are taking this bump in the road well. Hope it all works out.
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    em01092em01092 member
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    edited December 2011
    Ah sorry to hear that. It's fine that your BMs want to get healthier and if they need your wedding as motivation, I think that is ok as long as they can fit in their dresses. It's better to order larger and have it taken in than the other way around. 
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    perkins81perkins81
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    edited December 2011
    I'm sure it can be annoying. Just remember that if it doesn't fit, they're the one's responsible for alterations. Dresses can always (almost always) be expanded a little to the next size up, so I wouldn't worry about it. When I was a BM for my sister's wedding, I chose the size that just barely fit me. I could zip it up, but I couldn't breathe! I used it as motivation to lose another 10 pounds and I was able to lose those 10 pounds with no problems. In fact, the dress fit perfectly and didn't need alterations at all, not even the hem! So don't sweat it. It will work out.
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    SSaltzman87SSaltzman87 member
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    edited December 2011
    My mom is using my wedding as motivation to lose weight, and I personally keep going back and forth on losing weight. Thankfully she doesn't have an outfit yet :-P At the end of the day, it's their responsibility to fit into the dresses they ordered and if they don't fit- then it sucks for them.
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    tseguintseguin member
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    edited December 2011
    Ya, as annoying as it is, try not to stress. I have never understood that, buying a size smaller.  Buy the proper size and get it fitted...ti's basically the same thing except your tag says 12 not 10...and whose going to see the tag in the end.  My mom is also using this to lose weight. She tried to buy a dress a size smaller and i talked her out of it and she bought the size that fit...so if she doesn't lose weight it fits perfect. :)
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    cupcakewarfarecupcakewarfare member
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    edited December 2011
    My mother bought her dress TWO sizes too small. Do I care? Nope. She can look like a fool in her way-too-tight dress or she can spend the money on another. It's not my problem to dress her. I'd say let the girls figure it out on their own. It only makes themselves look bad, not you.
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    LaurieKevLaurieKev
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    edited December 2011

    I feel the pain...my wedding is in October....and of course I also have the bridesmaid weight losing motivation nonsense as well.  When ordering the dress she was talking about ordering her dress a size smaller because she is losing weight.  I asked her please don't do that...the dress shop wanted to order the dress one size larger to your normal size and fit the dress to them.  Instead the numbnut ordered her dress...two sizes smaller...and asked the rest of the bridesmaids not to tell me.  All of them fearing that it would upset me and cause more anxieties (which is silly) they didn't tell me.  Instead I found out 2 months after the fact.  So your numbnut was smart enough to order only one size to small....Your lucky!!!  And just add...she's only lost 3 inches...I know it's not going to fit.  Sigh...what to do what to do?  Undecided

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