WOULD A DESTINATION WEDDING BE A BETTER CHOICE?! SO ANNOYED!

Re: WOULD A DESTINATION WEDDING BE A BETTER CHOICE?! SO ANNOYED!

• RIFallBride member

  

  July 2012

  Ultimately you should have the wedding you want. Losing the money is up to you, ultimately the overall cost of a destination wedding may save you money if it is smaller and simpler. Will all those that are important to you make it to the destination? Anything else you would have to give up? Maybe make a list of pros and cons. Wedding planning can be overwhelming especially during this busy time of year. The biggest thing for me has been learning to follow my gut and focus on what the day is about not what others think the day should be.

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• heatherandjohn425

  

  July 2012 edited July 2012

  My fiance and I originally booked the Atlantic beach club....15,000 for a sat night in June, put down 2500.00.....I had said from the beginning I didn't want a huge hoopla wedding...he did. Long story short, I convinced him to have a more intimate wedding with 90 people instead of 200, and we chose to lose our deposit and have a smaller wedding at a different venue for 8000.00 less than our original plan just for venue! it killed him initially to lose the deposit, but in the end we decided that we still SAVED 8000.00 instead of spending it to keep our original place, we are having a much more romantic, intimate wedding with our close family and friends : don't know if it helps your decision, but I know I am so much happier with our place now...and good lord it is only 59 days away....eek!

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• RoyalOrient member

  

  July 2012

  I'm sorry to hear the planning isn't going so well. I am sure the girls on the board can recommend vendors who are budget friendly and wonderful to work with.

  
  

  As for destination weddings, they are generally inclusive which means they offer several package deals that include everything from the florists to the cake so you won't have to deal with too many vendors or worry about logistics. I don't know if it is necessarily less expensive because that depends on a number of factors like the destination (Mexico is a lot cheaper than Aruba), number of guests and what you want included in the wedding day package. It will be more costly for your guests because of the travel expenses and they will need to take time away from work. Ultimately though, it is your wedding so it doesn't matter what anyone else has to say. Do what makes both of you happy!

  
  

  
  

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• LOMLBOAT

  

  July 2012

  I agree with PP - this wedding is about your and your FI, how you want to share your day with who matters to you and what kind of environment you want to surround yourself with.  For me, it was being in a my family's church with all of my loved ones, dedicating my life to my husband in front of God.  Some people love to have a really intimate wedding on the beach, no frill/thrills, just a romantic setting for a quick ceremony.  Others like to elope and then come back and have this huge fun party.
  
  Whatever you do though, do not make rash decisions.  Sit down with your FI - what does he want?  Is he involved?  Will he take some of the pressure off of you and deal with the music, cake and tuxes?  A lot of planning is delgating the work to people you trust.  Having a good support system and having 1 day a week with your FI to just date and not talk about wedding planning is also helpful to de-stress.  Planning a wedding is tough, but it should be fun and in the end, you really are just planning a party around what the day is really about - marrying the man you love.

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• heatherandjohn425

  

  July 2012

  I totally agree with royal orient....maybe because it is my second wedding...older and wiser now well maybe just older lol it is easy to get caught up in thinking about what our wedding should be in the eyes of everyone else, and yes it is nice to please other people, so remember it IS about what you both want...and she is right, there are affordable places out there....my venue, with meal, open bar throughout dinner for 86 people is 4200. With 20 gratuity and taxes, and it is beautiful!! Just think about what makes you both happy deep down....and keep the faith!! It will work out :

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• KARLAR12

  

  July 2012

  That is the reason we went to Vegas last week and got married. I LOVED my everything about my wedding. I must say that it was just the 2 of us (we had a live web broadcasting, which means what you say and do can be rewinded...lol). I would not change a thing!!! It was way less stressful, we only did what we wanted. I went with the package the Chapel offered and my wedding coordinator took care of pretty much every detail, beside our hotel and air accomodations!!  Between air, hotel, wedding ( chapel, tips,dress,tux,pictures...etc) spending money on our trip. We probably paid about what a 9,000 wedding would cost. We did gamble, eat out and have our wedding, honey moon all in one! I would never want it any other way, and recommend it to anyone as the way to go. It is all about how you feel personally.

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• modireland

  

  July 2012

  IWhere was your smaller wedding held? We are looking at about 75-80 and have a budget of about $8-10k for the reception but would LOVE to come in less :)
  
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  [QUOTE]My fiance and I originally booked the Atlantic beach club....15,000 for a sat night in June, put down 2500.00.....I had said from the beginning I didn't want a huge hoopla wedding...he did. Long story short, I convinced him to have a more intimate wedding with 90 people instead of 200, and we chose to lose our deposit and have a smaller wedding at a different venue for 8000.00 less than our original plan just for venue! it killed him initially to lose the deposit, but in the end we decided that we still SAVED 8000.00 instead of spending it to keep our original place, we are having a much more romantic, intimate wedding with our close family and friends : don't know if it helps your decision, but I know I am so much happier with our place now...and good lord it is only 59 days away....eek!
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