How early is too early?

Re: How early is too early?

• AddieCake member

  

  April 2013

  That is crazy early.

  What did you think would happen if you walked up to a group of internet strangers and told them to get shoehorned by their lady doc?~StageManager14

  

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• AJuliaNJ member

  

  April 2013

  That's way too early. It's early enough where people would think it's rude and a gift grab. She doesn't get a whole almost-a-year to celebrate her wedding. Besides you are not supposed to use any of the gifts until after the wedding so she would have to hold onto them for 9 months.

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• Summer2011Bride member

  

  April 2013

  Way too early.
  
  I would just tell her, "I would love to throw you a shower but am not comfortable holding one almost a year prior to your wedding. I would rather throw the shower in ____________ (insert month you want to throw the shower)."
  
  If she insists on having it this July, then I would not be the one throwing her the shower. If she wants to accept your offer of a shower, then I think you also get some say in when it is held.

  
  
  
  
  

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• JoanE2012 member

  

  April 2013

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_pre-wedding-parties_how-early-is-too-early?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:32Discussion:812f0e5b-d7f3-4ba4-82e0-04e8f69288a5Post:ab443851-1ece-4da7-a2f1-c91267f4b2ac">How early is too early?</a>:
  [QUOTE]I am the MOH for my best friend's wedding next April (2014). She lives in SC but her family is in PA. We originally planned to have the bridal shower for December 2013, but now she wants to move it to July 4th weekend 2013 because of the winter weather. I think this is WAY too early to hold the bridal shower, especially since she did not even send out her save-the-dates yet. She is very stubborn, so I'm not sure how to express my opinion, as the bridal shower is my responsibility as MOH! I don't want her guests to think it is an inappropriate time to hold a shower, and I don't want to look bad as the hostess.
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  </div><div>Way too early.  If I got an invite for a shower that early, I'd think she moved her wedding date up.  Honestly, I would have it in January or February just because December tends to get crazy with the holidays.  I would even consider March (odds of better weather)  if the wedding was at the end of April.
  
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• sarahdactyI member

  

  April 2013

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_pre-wedding-parties_how-early-is-too-early?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:32Discussion:812f0e5b-d7f3-4ba4-82e0-04e8f69288a5Post:ab443851-1ece-4da7-a2f1-c91267f4b2ac">How early is too early?</a>:
  [QUOTE]I am the MOH for my best friend's wedding next April (2014). She lives in SC but her family is in PA. We originally planned to have the bridal shower for December 2013, but now she wants to move it to July 4th weekend 2013 because of the winter weather. I think this is WAY too early to hold the bridal shower, especially since she did not even send out her save-the-dates yet. She is very stubborn, so I'm not sure how to express my opinion, <strong>as the bridal shower is my responsibility as MOH!</strong> I don't want her guests to think it is an inappropriate time to hold a shower, and I don't want to look bad as the hostess.
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  <div>I think that's crazy early and... it's great that you've offered to host the shower, but it's not your *responsibility* per se. I didn't realize until I started poking around on the boards here, but actually all pre-wedding parties are gifts - no one is required to host them.</div><div>
  </div><div>Just something to bear in mind :) You're putting together a gift for the bride. She gets some input as far as what date works for her schedule, but... </div><div>
  </div><div>I'd feel really weird attending a shower for a wedding almost a year away.</div>

  
  

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• erinlin25 member

  

  April 2013

  PPs are correct--no showers until wedding invites have gone out (so 4-8 weeks before the wedding are common for Bridal showers. I've seen some cases where they are in the 12 week range but I think that is too early still IMO.  If the bride wanted a summer bridal shower she should have picked a summer wedding date. Unless you are planning something outdoors at the beach it really will not matter what the weather is like.  Bride either gets her bridal shower in Feb or March or she doesn't get one.  Its not up to her, its up to you as the host.

  
  
  
  

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• JessDowches

  

  April 2013

  Thank you all for your help! I agree that July is way too early and presumptuous to hold a bridal shower for a wedding in April. It could make it seem like she just wants the shower to have gifts. It makes sense to hold the shower closer to the wedding to make sure those invited to the shower are also invited to the wedding. I will remind her of this and remind her that she should not be involved in planning an event that is thrown in her honor. Thanks again!

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