Hi there!
I'm getting married next year, and I've been  looking high and low  trying to find a place that will allow self  catering or at the very  least an outside caterer!
I'm hoping to have  a small intimate  brunch/high tea reception, and I have no interest in  feeding 50 people  meatloaf and salmon at 11 am, but I'm struggling to  find a place that  will allow such a thing. No one in our families has a  big enough back  yard or house, so we're trying to look for a venue.  (Our families are  also interfaith so a church basement or lawn is out)
(I  have seen a  lot of people saying to try public parks, I have looked  and Chicago has  not only extreamly high price ranges for weddings, but  also has the same  limited catering options saying you may only choose  X, Y, and Z caterers)
Please help!! It's my dream to have a High Tea Wedding!! 
Love
-Natasha