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bridetobemnm07bridetobemnm07 member
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I am just wondering opinion on inviting people I work with. Let me first tell you that my place of employment is 400+. We have 2 people in the wedding that we work with and I'm torn on whether to invite others. There's only about 3 or 4 people I'd invite but then I'm worried about others thinking they should have been invited, etc. but there has to be a line drawn somewhere? Any advice? 
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  • AddieCakeAddieCake member
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    Unless it is a terribly small office, you don't need to invite people you don't socialize with. A few people invited out of 400 is not the same as inviting 4 people out of a 5-person office. 
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  • Jen4948Jen4948 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_invites-paper_guests-to-invite?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:cd062f89-8272-496a-b0ab-225e1f87acecDiscussion:1bfe104d-bc47-4e56-a041-e3e6dfa43b1ePost:8b315a4e-ced5-44c4-871d-9cbbdd8d69c1">Re: Guests to invite...</a>:
    [QUOTE]Unless it is a terribly small office, you don't need to invite people you don't socialize with. A few people invited out of 400 is not the same as inviting 4 people out of a 5-person office. 
    Posted by AddieL73[/QUOTE]

    I think even in a terribly small office, if someone works there whom you don't socialize with, you don't owe that person an invitation.  You do owe him/her the courtesy of not discussing your wedding in his/her presence.
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  • samdecoopsamdecoop
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    I was having the same problem....I work 2 different jobs. My main job I have is joined with another company in the same office and facility. There about 10 of us office workers and I'm only inviting 6 of them and no one from the shop even though I work closely with them as well. My restaurant job employees about 200 I decided to only invite one person from there...kind of because if I invite any one else there are going to be those people wondering why they weren't invited.

    Me and my fiancé both have large families. Before we started making a list we were thinking 150 people....made the list of 'have to invites' and close to 300 even though out of those we know about 80 of those people wouldn't be able to make it so about 220 maybes.

    I made a spreadsheet in excel with names, head count per invitation, priority of inviting, group (family, work or friends), etc....just to give me an idea of where our invites were going (we have to be budget conscious) but if your have  a set number you don't want to go over inviting then I would recommend doing a priority list...excel is super easy to use for this. This will help you realize who you should really worry about inviting...obviously your family and friends would be main priorities above co workers.

    One thing to ask yourself.....would they invite you to their wedding if they were having one? If that's a no then I wouldn't invite them.
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  • bridetobemnm07bridetobemnm07 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_invites-paper_guests-to-invite?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:cd062f89-8272-496a-b0ab-225e1f87acecDiscussion:1bfe104d-bc47-4e56-a041-e3e6dfa43b1ePost:edbb909d-06dd-432c-9365-0022c6612931">Re: Guests to invite...</a>:
    [QUOTE]I was having the same problem....I work 2 different jobs. My main job I have is joined with another company in the same office and facility. There about 10 of us office workers and I'm only inviting 6 of them and no one from the shop even though I work closely with them as well. My restaurant job employees about 200 I decided to only invite one person from there...kind of because if I invite any one else there are going to be those people wondering why they weren't invited. Me and my fiancé both have large families. Before we started making a list we were thinking 150 people....made the list of 'have to invites' and close to 300 even though out of those we know about 80 of those people wouldn't be able to make it so about 220 maybes. I made a spreadsheet in excel with names, head count per invitation, priority of inviting, group (family, work or friends), etc....just to give me an idea of where our invites were going (we have to be budget conscious) but if your have  a set number you don't want to go over inviting then I would recommend doing a priority list...excel is super easy to use for this. This will help you realize who you should really worry about inviting...obviously your family and friends would be main priorities above co workers. One thing to ask yourself.....would they invite you to their wedding if they were having one? If that's a no then I wouldn't invite them.
    Posted by samdecoop[/QUOTE]

    Yeah that's my problem. We have 400+ employees but my office has about 10 people as well and I really only want to invite 2 from "my hallway"  is that ok to do???? Do we have to invite our boss? I really really don't want to and we are trying to keep it as small as possible. I love excel & being organized:)
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  • samdecoopsamdecoop
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_invites-paper_guests-to-invite?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:cd062f89-8272-496a-b0ab-225e1f87acecDiscussion:1bfe104d-bc47-4e56-a041-e3e6dfa43b1ePost:10150843-b2e0-4030-9527-987011b57d2f">Re: Guests to invite...</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Guests to invite... : Yeah that's my problem. We have 400+ employees but my office has about 10 people as well and I really only want to invite 2 from "my hallway"  is that ok to do???? Do we have to invite our boss? I really really don't want to and we are trying to keep it as small as possible. I love excel & being organized:)
    Posted by bridetobemnm07[/QUOTE]

    If you're questioning whether you should invite them and you're trying to limit who you invite then I wouldn't invite them. I actually had an older lady at the restaurant I work tell me that she wanted to be invited...(I kind of changed the subject)...but still not going to invite her because I'm honestly not that close to her.

    My mom has been a big help, every time I ask if I should invite someone who crosses my mind she tells me that she wouldn't. I've realized if I have to ask someone else if I should invite someone then it's really not necessary for me to invite them.

    Unless your close with your boss you don't need to invite them. Just invite the two you originally wanted to and don't worry about the others. The only reason you should worry about this is if you decided to invite 9 of the 10 people...ha that might be iffy, but you're not in that boat so don't sweat it.

    Hope that helps!
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