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MayberryAfterMidnight
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NER(?): Registering for pet supplies?
All along, my FI and I had not planned on registering. We've been living together for 3 years and don't feel the need to upgrade what we have, and we also move frequently because of our jobs - usually to tiny apartments - so we don't really have room to store various kitchen appliances or fine china, etc. that we're not going to use very often. I'm also not having a shower. We don't expect people to bring/give gifts, and if they asked about registering, we told our parents that they could spread the word that we are "saving for our honeymoon." I thought my parents were fine with that until a few weeks ago, when they told me that made them uncomortable, that it was rude to basically tell guests to give cash, and that some people just like to give a "real present." So I think we're going to do a small-ish registry at BB&B for people who want to go that route. Long story short, we're really struggling to come up with things to add...I saw that BB&B have those fountain water bowls for pets and our vet recently recommended we get one for our 2 cats. (They run about $40.) FI thought we might get side-eyed by people for asking for pet things. Any thoughts on the etiquette there? Forgetting pet supplies, will people think it's odd if our registry consists of a lot of disjointed, and mostly relatively inexpensive, items? (ie, a new shower curtain liner, a new bathmat, etc) FI thinks we should just go out and get these items ourselves now since we need them, but otherwise I'm at a loss for what to put on the registry...Sorry - this is way longer than it probably needs to be. Any advice would be appreciated!
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Re: NER(?): Registering for pet supplies?
I would roll my eyes hard at a registry with pet items. I find it hard to believe that there is nothing that you could upgrade. Sheets? Small applicances? Towels? Make a small registry of things like this and people will take the hint and give you cash.
You'll never be subject to a cash bar, gap, potluck wedding, or b-list if you marry a Muppet Overlord.
That said, it was like you said--a low-priced item just on there to be cute. It was a cat toy that was maybe $25? I had the bowl you speak of on it, but FI made me take it off because those things are a B*tch to clean, and he was like "remember the last time we had a cat fountain?" and I was like "ooooh yeah."
So, as a pet-owner, I think it's no worse than camping gear or something of the sort. It falls into "hobby" or "lifestyle" to me. Just don't go nutso.
[QUOTE]I'm not a fan.
Posted by AddieL73[/QUOTE]
me either. I'd also kinda side-eye the shower curtain liner too. Consumables, IMO, don't belong on a registry. Like PPs have said think about upgrading rather than new things. Have some non-stick pans that are scratched up and aren't so "non-stick" anymore? register for new, donate the old. Especially if your parents really think people will want to buy you -things-.
[QUOTE].. I think a series of items for your home (even if slightly disjointed) is totally fine - although do try and have items at a series of price points if possible - <strong>no one wants to be the person who has to give you tea towels, spatulas and a bath mat because there is no single item available in their price point</strong>...
Posted by jaenella[/QUOTE]
This is a really good point - and so is what Kate said about consumables (something I hadn't really thought of, but is probably what my FI was thinking when he made a face when I suggested it). Anyway - great advice all around!
<div class="Discussion_PostQuote">.. I think a series of items for your home (even if slightly disjointed) is totally fine - although do try and have items at a series of price points if possible - <strong>no one wants to be the person who has to give you tea towels, spatulas and a bath mat because there is no single item available in their price point</strong>...
Posted by jaenella</div>
This is a really good point - and so is what Kate said about consumables (something I hadn't really thought of, but is probably what my FI was thinking when he made a face when I suggested it). Anyway - great advice all around! In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_ner-registering-for-pet-supplies?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:261e2045-fe0d-4472-9109-793fd4081291Post:6edf54da-a216-4e3e-8448-515af85bf37d">Re: NER(?): Registering for pet supplies?</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: NER(?): Registering for pet supplies? : This is a really good point - and so is what Kate said about consumables (something I hadn't really thought of, but is probably what my FI was thinking when he made a face when I suggested it). Anyway - great advice all around!
Posted by MayberryAfterMidnight[/QUOTE]
Actually, I am totally that guy who loves giving a bunch of inexpensive (but coordinating) gifts. The last shower I went to, I made a huge basket of silly little kitchen utensils, kitchen linens, a pretty apron, and recipes. It was a well-received gift.
Actually, I am totally that guy who loves giving a bunch of inexpensive (but coordinating) gifts. The last shower I went to, I made a huge basket of silly little kitchen utensils, kitchen linens, a pretty apron, and recipes. It was a well-received gift.
Posted by xxstardust[/QUOTE]
And I disagree with the people who say that it's easy to find things to add to a registry! Fi and I tried very hard to find things to add to a registry, and could only find two items, so we gave up on the idea. We both have a problem replacing things like dishes or appliances unless they are broken, it seems wasteful.