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jessiwyn
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Do invitations need to be sent in the mail?
Do wedding invitations need to be sent in the mail, or can they be given to people in person? My fiance and I each have a number of co-workers that we would like to invite to our wedding, but we do not know their mailing addresses. Should we ask our co-workers for their addresses (or do you think that anyone might be hesitant to give out their addresses for privacy reasons), or should we give them the option for us to give their invitations in person?
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Re: Do invitations need to be sent in the mail?
[QUOTE]Do wedding invitations need to be sent in the mail, or can they be given to people in person? My fiance and I each have a number of co-workers that we would like to invite to our wedding, but we do not know their mailing addresses. Should we ask our co-workers for their addresses (or do you think that anyone might be hesitant to give out their addresses for privacy reasons), or should we give them the option for us to give their invitations in person?
Posted by jessiwyn[/QUOTE]
Gunna be really blunt.... if you think they might think giving out their addresses is too personal, you might want to reconsider inviting them to your wedding. I mean, they're going to meet your family, friends, and they might even find out your address, if the RSVP card is in there. But if you don't think they want to get as personal as you're about to get, then maybe you should consider leaving co-workers off the guest list altogether?
Either way, I wouldn't hand them out at work. Like pp said, it could make for potentially awkward moments with co-workers you didn't invite.
[QUOTE]In Response to Do invitations need to be sent in the mail? : Gunna be really blunt.... if you think they might think giving out their addresses is too personal, you might want to reconsider inviting them to your wedding. I mean, they're going to meet your family, friends, and they might even find out your address, if the RSVP card is in there. But if you don't think they want to get as personal as you're about to get, then maybe you should consider leaving co-workers off the guest list altogether? Either way, I wouldn't hand them out at work. Like pp said, it could make for potentially awkward moments with co-workers you didn't invite.
Posted by Simply Fated[/QUOTE]
Listen to this advice. Definitely don't hand them out at work, and don't feel like you "should" invite any of your co-workers if you really aren't close to them.
[QUOTE]Do you remember in school when kids would hand out birthday party invites (or just invites to parties in high school), and then that one kid wouldn't get invited? Yea. Unfortunately, adults can still act like kids in that respect. Get the addresses.
Posted by lplions[/QUOTE]
<div>THIS!</div><div>There's a reason elementary schools make you give every kid in class a valentine, and the saying is if you share you better have enough for everyone right?</div><div>
</div><div>Pull them aside, get addresses, and mail the invites.</div>
[QUOTE]Do you remember in school when kids would hand out birthday party invites (or just invites to parties in high school), and then that one kid wouldn't get invited? Yea. Unfortunately, adults can still act like kids in that respect. Get the addresses.
Posted by lplions[/QUOTE]
This is exactly what I was thinking. There was one girl in 2nd grade that I didn't get along with. I was the only girl she didn't give an invite to for her birthday. It was the only year my Mom let me leave one girl off my birthday party list. I didn't get along with her, but as a 2nd grader it hurt my feelings. I still remember the sting and still feel guilty about the "revenge".
[QUOTE]You might as well get their addresses now, so that if anyone gives you a gift, you can mail them a TY note too.
Posted by SKPM[/QUOTE]
This is a good point, but you should get addresses and use the mail to send your invitations. Don't distribute them at work, for two reasons:
1) in case not everyone at work is invited (this is more discreet)
2) it could be perceived as a distraction from work-related matters
I just sent out my invitations a week ago and they all recieved them.
Hope this helps!