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RSVP Question

I am getting ready to pick out invitations for my wedding, but I need some help with the RSVP cards.  We are not able to allow all of our invitees to bring a guest with them.  We have old friends that may have boyfriends or girlfriends, but we just can't afford to invite these people we have never met.  We have younger cousins that may also want to bring someone, but we can't do that either.  How do you go about indicating that the invite is only for you?  What should the rsvp card say?  For our guests that can bring a guest, can I get a different rsvp card?  Also, how do you make it known that small babies or children (more specicially, friends kids) are not invited?  Some may find this rude, but we feel that it's our decision to invite or not invite small children to the wedding. 

Re: RSVP Question

  • Here is a picture of what I made for my RSVP's. I filled out the number that I allocated for each family or person receiving the invitation.  


    The only difference between the two cards is the plurailty of "seat/s" in the first line.

    Hope this helps!
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_invites-paper_rsvp-question-29?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:cd062f89-8272-496a-b0ab-225e1f87acecDiscussion:bf408a75-87d9-47d5-b614-7fba550e8665Post:de9588ed-a262-4637-a2a1-8f9cd67bd4b0">RSVP Question</a>:
    [QUOTE]I am getting ready to pick out invitations for my wedding, but I need some help with the RSVP cards.  We are not able to allow all of our invitees to bring a guest with them.  We have <strong>old friends that may have boyfriends or girlfriends, but we just can't afford to invite these people we have never met.  </strong>We have younger cousins that may also want to bring someone, but we can't do that either.  How do you go about indicating that the invite is only for you?  What should the rsvp card say?  For our guests that can bring a guest, can I get a different rsvp card?  Also, how do you make it known that small babies or children (more specicially, friends kids) are not invited?  Some may find this rude, but we feel that it's our decision to invite or not invite small children to the wedding. 
    Posted by eepst42[/QUOTE]

    Why would you invite these "old friends" in the first place? Anyone who is in a relationship MUST MUST MUST be invited with their SO. "I can't afford it" or "I haven't met them" is NOT an option unless you want to be considered as very rude. You don't have to give a plus-one to those friends whom indentify as truly single. Having a boyfriend or girlfriend regardless of the length of the relationship is a social unit that must be invited together.

    It's OK to not invite children. You just make out the invitation to "Mr and Mrs Johnson" and don't include "and Family" or the childrens' names.
  • If you can't invite the SO's of "old friends"  just don't invite the old friend. Pretty simple and it cuts down on your guest list.   People will be more offended that their SO is not invited than not being invited at all.






    What differentiates an average host and a great host is anticipating unexpressed needs and wants of their guests.  Just because the want/need is not expressed, doesn't mean it wouldn't be appreciated. 
  • Ditto PPs.  It is absolutely, completely unacceptable to exclude someone's SO, even if you have never met the person.  If someone is truly single, they do not need to be given a +1.  However, is someone is in a relationship, that person must be invited, regaredless of how well (or if) you know them.  The only exception would be that those under 18 do not need to be invited with SOs.
  • Every person in a relationship needs to be invited with their significant other.  Excluding boyfriends and girlfriends is horribly rude, and is a big slap in the face to the "old friend."  You'd better salvage the relationship by just not inviting them.  

    Single guests do not need to be invited with a date.  Save your money by exluding dates for single guests.  You can also cut children, or just start cutting people you don't regularly socialize with.

    Everyone gets the same RSVP card, so that is irrelevant.  
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