Is having cake only to cut ok?

maryingamohr · April 2013

We have a modest, VERY modest budget. My parents are footing a lot of the bill and I do not want to strain them as much as they say they are happy to help. The wedding is in June and instead of bartenders we are going to have monogrammed water bottles for the hot warm month with the individual drink packs mostly because pop won't really go well with our food choice.

In Lieu of a traditional sit down lunch/dinner reception my Mom, Sister and myself are going to make a bunch of small scale desserts for a buffet. Considering the Dessert reception is it going to be ok that my fiancee and I only have a cake just for the cutting (we really aren't cake people to begin with).

jessicabessica · April 2013

No, I think you should provide some kind of cake for your guests if you do a cake cutting. It's fine to have a small cake to cut and then have sheet cakes to slice for your guests. It's also fine not to have a cake cutting at all, or to cut one of the desserts that will already be on the buffet.

What time is your wedding? Since you are not serving a meal, your wedding should not be over a meal time (I would go for 2 pm or 8 pm).

I cannot really figure out what you are doing with the drinks. If it'll be warm, I would have plenty of cold beverages for your guests, and I would also do coffee and tea--a lot of people like that with dessert, even when it's hot. If you are not serving alcohol, I think you can skip hiring a bartender.

Maggie0829 · April 2013

If you are going to cut into a cake then you should have enough of that cake (either in the back in sheet cake form or a traditional wedding cake) to share with your guests. Just because you and your FI aren't cake fans doesn't mean that your guests aren't.

What other type of desserts will you be having? Are any of them capable of being cut? My one friend had a wedding where they had a cookie cake (tiers of chocolate chip cookies) and she and her H just fed each other a cookie.

As for drinks, I would suggest offering soda as well. Not everyone may want just water or water with a drink mix attached. I would also offer iced tea too.

MrsGandthebeag · April 2013

Ditto pp on having a cake. If you're only doing desserts I think people are going to expect a cake. It's kind of like the "main event" of the reception in this case.

lyndausvi · April 2013

Pop doesn't go with dessert?

That's all I've got.

Viczaesar · April 2013

I don't understand your reception at all. What time does it start and end? If you're so short on money to host people why are you wasting it on monogrammed water bottles? What exactly is a drink pack? I think you need a lot more variety in terms of drinks.

AddieCake · April 2013

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[QUOTE]Pop doesn't go with dessert? That's all I've got.
Posted by lyndausvi[/QUOTE]

Yeah, I don't get this, either. Also, I'd be mad if you cut cake and I didn't get any.

hollyk224 · April 2013

I am a cake lover, and if I saw you and your hubby cutting the cake, I would be wondering where the heck it went and why I couldn't have a piece!

Jen4948 · April 2013

If you're going to cut a cake, then you need to serve one-not necessarily the one you cut, but one of the same or better quality. Otherwise, you're unreasonably raising the expectations of your guests. That said, you don't need to eat it. But if I were attending your reception and saw you cut a cake and none was served, I'd feel cheated and pissed.

Ro041 · April 2013

I went to a wedding once where the groom got up and said, "We are going to cut the cake (cue small cake being brought out), but we did you and your waistlines a favor by not having cake! There is cobbler in the back for everyone!"

Ummmmmm.....what??

I know I am a bit late to the party here, but I thought it was so rude to cut a cake and not have any for anyone! I don't ever eat cake, so for me to be put off by this says something. Imagine how everyone who was looking forward to cake felt??

I would have cake. Get some sheet cakes from your local grocery store. I hear they are very cheap.

KimandByron · April 2013

Ditto on having enough cake for all our guests

donjoe2448 · April 2013

I too, would have cake. Either in the form of a sheet cake or even cupcakes! I know cupcakes are popular lately and it is still in cake form Lol...... i have seen people have 2 tiers of cake and the rest cupcakes......

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