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Groomsman had to back out...what should we do?

wittykitty14wittykitty14 member
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Hi everyone,

So, my FI and and I are less than 4 months away from our wedding, and one of his GM's has just told us that he can't be in the wedding anymore.  He has a fantastic job opportunity down south, and he just can't pass it up.  We understand that, and we're really happy for him.  He would be leaving about a month before the wedding, and because it's so far, he won't be able to come back up so soon.

Now we have uneven sides which is fine.  My question is, how do the pairings work?  Here's what we have: BM and MOH are FI's brother and my friend.  Next pairing is his other brother and my friend.  Next pairing is my brother and his wife.  Next pair is our two friends that are married.  Then it's our lone bridesmaid, who would have been with FIs friend. Normally, I would have had the last groomsman accompany the last two bridesmaids, but seeing as that the other two are married, I feel like that would be weird.  Could we do that or is it wrong?  I thought about changing the order, and having her paired with FI's brother and my friend as a trio, but that would bump my family further down, and I'd rather not do that.

In terms of entering at the reception (which we'd like to have the WP do), I think we're covered.  We have 2 RB's, one is my nephew, who can enter with the flower girl, but the other RB is the young son of the lone bridesmaid.  Would it be ok if they entered together?  He's pretty young, so I feel like we could get away with it.  Thoughts?  I appreciate any feedback!
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  • Summer2011BrideSummer2011Bride member
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    Could everyone just walk in by themselves? That would eliminate any consideration about who has to walk with whom.

    For the ceremony, the GMs could process in early and be standing at the front already and the BMs could walk in alone. On the way out, if you don't want to pair anyone up, you could have the BMs file out first, alone, and then the GMs.

    This could also be done for the reception. However, I also think it's fine to have two BMs walk with one GM also.


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  • JoanE2012JoanE2012 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_groomsman-had-to-back-outwhat-should-we-do?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:d841622f-b0d3-40ea-9b70-8c650011f1d5Post:b04f0516-5fa6-4813-91c1-b01fddc602f2">Groomsman had to back out...what should we do?</a>:
    [QUOTE]Hi everyone, So, my FI and and I are less than 4 months away from our wedding, and one of his GM's has just told us that he can't be in the wedding anymore.  He has a fantastic job opportunity down south, and he just can't pass it up.  We understand that, and we're really happy for him.  He would be leaving about a month before the wedding, and because it's so far, he won't be able to come back up so soon. Now we have uneven sides which is fine.  My question is, how do the pairings work?  Here's what we have: BM and MOH are FI's brother and my friend.  Next pairing is his other brother and my friend.  Next pairing is my brother and his wife.  Next pair is our two friends that are married. <strong> Then it's our lone bridesmaid, who would have been with FIs friend. Normally, I would have had the last groomsman accompany the last two bridesmaids, but seeing as that the other two are married, I feel like that would be weird.  Could we do that or is it wrong?</strong>  I thought about changing the order, and having her paired with FI's brother and my friend as a trio, but that would bump my family further down, and I'd rather not do that. In terms of entering at the reception (which we'd like to have the WP do), I think we're covered.  We have 2 RB's, one is my nephew, who can enter with the flower girl, but the other RB is the young son of the lone bridesmaid.  Would it be ok if they entered together?  He's pretty young, so I feel like we could get away with it.  Thoughts?  I appreciate any feedback!
    Posted by wittykitty14[/QUOTE]<div>
    </div><div>I would pair her with the other couple.  So two girls with one guy.  Who cares if the two are already married.  They're walking together, not getting it on. 

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  • wittykitty14wittykitty14 member
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    Joan that last sentence made me chuckle.  I'm glad you don't see a problem with them walking together.  I guess I'll ask them and make sure they're ok with it!  

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  • JoanE2012JoanE2012 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_groomsman-had-to-back-outwhat-should-we-do?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:d841622f-b0d3-40ea-9b70-8c650011f1d5Post:25116843-5da5-4b82-9fed-ebd4348b8f9e">Re: Groomsman had to back out...what should we do?</a>:
    [QUOTE]Joan that last sentence made me chuckle.  I'm glad you don't see a problem with them walking together.  I guess I'll ask them and make sure they're ok with it!  
    Posted by wittykitty14[/QUOTE]<div>
    </div><div>hahaha, it made me chuckle writing it.  :D

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  • Simply FatedSimply Fated member
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    Don't overthink this lol! It's fine if those two ladies are married. As pp said, they're just walking next to each other. NBD. They can also go solo, if that helps.
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