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Eff Cancer

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So we found out tonight that FIL's brain tumor is cancerous-stage IV and very aggressive. We are waiting on the MRI next week to know more. Neurologist says most likely there is more in there but it may be inoperable because it's right next to his vision center.

Radiation and chemo will definitely happen. It's a cancer you don't ever get rid of I guess--you beat it down, it comes back, over and over again. Good news is he could fight this for 20-30 years possibly (he is 51).

H is devastated, understandably so. Just a month ago his dad was so normal, healthy, happy, just got back from Hawaii, planning a renovation on the house, etc. Then BAM. This month has been hell.

Prayers, thoughts, vibes--whatever it is you do, if we could have some, we would really appreciate it! This is going to be a rough battle, but we're going to fight it.


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  • JadziaDaxJadziaDax member
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    Your family is in my prayers. 
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  • ravenrayravenray member
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    Praying for your family. *hugs*
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  • formerlyCooperformerlyCooper
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    Your FIL and family are in my thoughts. As someone whose family was affected by cancer, I know what you're going through and hope your FIL can beat it!
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    Positive vibes your way, best of luck with his treatments!
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    Sorry, Summer. Thoughts, prayers and vibes for your family. 
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    I'm so sorry to hear this.  Is it a gbm?  That's what my father had.  So scary and so sad.  I will be holding your FIL in my thoughts and prayers.  If you want to talk, let me know.
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    Sending thoughts and prayers for your and your family.






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    So sorry to hear this... ((hugs))  My mom's been battling stage III for two years now.  She did the radiation/chemo route which stopped it from growing to the point where she's been living with it for about eight months with no treatment (for the tumor, she's still getting treatment for all the side effects of her treatment).  Make sure you ask lots and lots of questions, including things like "What sort of behavior can we expect after ___ treatment?" and "When should be bring him to the ER?"  We found with my mom they didn't always tell us worse case scenarios (they didn't want to scare us), but we weren't expecting them when they happened.  And there was a fine line between "This is your new normal" and "Call 9-11" which wasn't always explained very well.  Good luck!
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    I'm so sorry!  Sending many thoughts and prayers your way.
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_eff-cancer?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:14Discussion:a42edc96-bb45-43a8-9680-51d6dcdefacaPost:2613ff75-8d45-4ff7-af74-d5463244ea4c">Re: Eff Cancer</a>:
    [QUOTE]So sorry to hear this... ((hugs))  My mom's been battling stage III for two years now.  She did the radiation/chemo route which stopped it from growing to the point where she's been living with it for about eight months with no treatment (for the tumor, she's still getting treatment for all the side effects of her treatment).  Make sure you ask lots and lots of questions, including things like "What sort of behavior can we expect after ___ treatment?" and "When should be bring him to the ER?"  We found with my mom they didn't always tell us worse case scenarios (they didn't want to scare us), but we weren't expecting them when they happened.  And there was a fine line between "This is your new normal" and "Call 9-11" which wasn't always explained very well.  Good luck!
    Posted by BostonGIrl4732[/QUOTE]

    Thank you for all this. Those are very good questions to ask. Unfortunately we're receiving everything second hand (we live OOT so w are hearing it from in-laws who hear it from doctor), but I will let H know about some of the questions we want to be asking.

    As for the name of it, glioblastoma sounds right. I know blastoma was in the title and the doc said it's the worst brain cancer you can have.

    Thanks for all the love, ladies. It does mean a lot.


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