No Dancing

TeresaH90 · April 2013

My fiance and I are not dancers at all even when we go to weddings we don't dance so we have decided to not have a dance after the dinner but I wanted to get some ideas on how to let people know that we are not having a dance. Any ideas or suggestions would be greatly appreciated!!1

Summer2011Bride · April 2013

You don't have to tell them anything. Just put something like "Dinner reception to follow." Many times, it will say "Dinner and dancing," so just leave off the second part.

I also ditto PP as well. You are in no way, shape or form obligated to have dancing and many people have lovely receptions without it. But if the only reason you aren't having it is because you and FI don't like it, just realize that many of your guests might. The reception is also for your guests. Having a band/DJ and dancing doesn't mean you will be forced to dance. You can have dancing and skip all of the spotlight dances in fact and just socialize with your guests while the dancing takes place.

Again, you are totally fine to not have dancing, just something to consider as well. Also, many times receptions without dancing wrap up much earlier than those with it, so just be aware of that.

OwningAHome1981 · April 2013

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_reception-ideas_no-dancing-2?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:5Discussion:41c6d5a9-79ea-45ee-9545-c418134a565dPost:9780ce7b-b22b-482c-8afc-dd32e6f5b0b2">No Dancing</a>:
[QUOTE]My fiance and I are not dancers at all even when we go to weddings we don't dance so we have decided to not have a dance after the dinner but I wanted to get some ideas on how to let people know that we are not having a dance. Any ideas or suggestions would be greatly appreciated!!1
Posted by TeresaH90[/QUOTE]

I'm confused on your wording... do you mean you aren't having DANCING at all or you ARE having dancing but you AREN'T having a FIRST DANCE with you and him?

If the latter is the case, you don't need to tell anyone anything. They will realise there's no first dance when you guys don't come up and do it.

If there's no dancing at all, then yes, you should let guests know that. Do keep in mind, as previous posters have said, your guests might like dancing even if you don't. The reception serves as a thank you to them- it might be nice to have the option of dancing even if you guys don't like it. No one will force you to dance if you don't want to.

I never understood the rationale of you not liking something so that means you shouldn't have it at your wedding. I hate fish- so does that mean I shouldn't offer that on the menu as one of the entree choices?

Summer2011Bride · April 2013

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_reception-ideas_no-dancing-2?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:5Discussion:41c6d5a9-79ea-45ee-9545-c418134a565dPost:0396851e-e1dd-4f0d-9ffe-6361952d65a7">Re: No Dancing</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to No Dancing : I'm confused on your wording... do you mean you aren't having DANCING at all or you ARE having dancing but you AREN'T having a FIRST DANCE with you and him? If the latter is the case, you don't need to tell anyone anything. They will realise there's no first dance when you guys don't come up and do it<strong>. If there's no dancing at all, then yes, you should let guests know that. </strong>Do keep in mind, as previous posters have said, your guests might like dancing even if you don't. The reception serves as a thank you to them- it might be nice to have the option of dancing even if you guys don't like it. No one will force you to dance if you don't want to. I never understood the rationale of you not liking something so that means you shouldn't have it at your wedding. I hate fish- so does that mean I shouldn't offer that on the menu as one of the entree choices?
Posted by OwningAHome1981[/QUOTE]

But why do guests have to know? No one should be going to a wedding for the sole purpose of dancing. That's not the main point of a wedding. This is akin to informing guests ahead of time if there is no alcohol (which you also don't have to do). Dancing is optional. If someone says they aren't coming to your wedding unless there is dancing, then they weren't going for the right reasons anyhow.

And just how would you go about informing people of this without sounding silly?
"By the way, no dancing will take place at the reception"? There is no good way to word this because you don't have to word it at all.

OP don't mention what is NOT happening on your invitations. Just mention what IS happening. So if you will be serving dinner and drinks, then you can say, "Join us after the ceremony for dinner and drinks at _____." People aren't stupid. They'll get the hint. And if they don't and they show up and THEN find out there's no dancing, guess what. The world keeps turning.

AddieCake · April 2013

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_reception-ideas_no-dancing-2?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:5Discussion:41c6d5a9-79ea-45ee-9545-c418134a565dPost:0396851e-e1dd-4f0d-9ffe-6361952d65a7">Re: No Dancing</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to No Dancing : If there's no dancing at all, then yes, you should let guests know that.
Posted by OwningAHome1981[/QUOTE]
Why? Why would anyone need a heads up about that?<div>
</div><div>OP, we don't like dancing, either. We don't care if others dance, but we knew from previous experience if we had dancing, other people WOULD pester us to dance , and we didn't want to be annoyed with people at our reception. This was the main reason we opted for a daytime ceremony and lunch reception. It lessened the expectation of dancing. If you are having an evening event, even though dancing is certainly not required, I would say to expect your party to end earlier than it would if there was dancing. </div><div>
</div><div>
</div>

jennyd412 · April 2013

Owning a Home, why would you offer something you "hate" as an entrée choice? I hate fish too and hate the smell of it. Its not an entrée choice at my wedding.

As far as no dancing, guests don't need a heads up, but I agree to be prepared for people to leave early.

OwningAHome1981 · April 2013

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_reception-ideas_no-dancing-2?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:5Discussion:41c6d5a9-79ea-45ee-9545-c418134a565dPost:a8306a48-5eda-47d6-9492-1984f0e1b6e1">Re: No Dancing</a>:
[QUOTE]<strong>Owning a Home, why would you offer something you "hate" as an entrée choice</strong>? I hate fish too and hate the smell of it. Its not an entrée choice at my wedding. As far as no dancing, guests don't need a heads up, but I agree to be prepared for people to leave early.
Posted by jennyd412[/QUOTE]

I would offer it b/c others may like it. If I don't like it, no one is forcing me to eat it.

OwningAHome1981 · April 2013

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_reception-ideas_no-dancing-2?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:5Discussion:41c6d5a9-79ea-45ee-9545-c418134a565dPost:20e4be44-fc8c-461f-9030-afc3ccc0d6aa">Re: No Dancing</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: No Dancing : <strong>Why? Why would anyone need a heads up about that?</strong> OP, we don't like dancing, either. We don't care if others dance, but we knew from previous experience if we had dancing, other people WOULD pester us to dance , and we didn't want to be annoyed with people at our reception. This was the main reason we opted for a daytime ceremony and lunch reception. It lessened the expectation of dancing. If you are having an evening event, even though dancing is certainly not required, I would say to expect your party to end earlier than it would if there was dancing.
Posted by AddieL73[/QUOTE]

I guess they wouldn't... but I would and I think lots of others would too, esp in my area where dancing is common at weddings. Most weddings in my area have dancing and I'd be let down big time if I went to a wedding expecting it and it wasn't happening. You don't have to directly say "no dancing" but I think it's prob a good idea to include on the invite "dinner and drink reception to follow" or something to that affect. Maybe this is wrong but I'd want to know.

I think OP should also prepare for people to leave early and be let down when they are exoecting dancing and it wont be happening. Some people would be fine with it, but some may not.

I dunno, maybe I'm wrong.

nr2510 · April 2013

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_reception-ideas_no-dancing-2?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:5Discussion:41c6d5a9-79ea-45ee-9545-c418134a565dPost:754e8f40-bfa9-4a6a-97bb-88e323c50137">Re: No Dancing</a>:
[QUOTE] So if you will be serving dinner and drinks, then you can say, "Join us after the ceremony for dinner and drinks at _____." People aren't stupid. They'll get the hint. And if they don't and they show up and <strong>THEN find out there's no dancing, guess what. The world keeps turning.</strong>
Posted by Summer2011Bride[/QUOTE]

This cracked me up!

And OP, my 2 cents are to use the words "dinner following the ceremony" or what Summer2011Bride said and you should be good to go :)

No Dancing

Re: No Dancing

Choose Another Board

Search Boards