I had my shower today and 2 of my Maids of Honor threw me a shower and sent out invites to my other 2 bridesmaids and one MOH (I have 3 MOH). They all RSVP'd and said they would be there. I haven't been able to see them a whole lot with school and life but I text them this morning saying I was so happy they could make it and I'd see them soon (we had already talked about them coming, so I knew first hand they said they'd show). I get no response from two of them, the other one, FI sister responds saying she'll be there. Awesome!
So one of my MOH and one bridesmaid don't show up, instead they went to play softball (they are both avid slow pitch ball players). I know they aren't required to go, but it kind of hurt my feelings. One of my friends called one of them (my MOH) to ask if she wanted to carpool and she responded, "oh...tell her my daughter has a game or something...and whatever, I went to her first shower" (I've been married before). The other bridesmaid just never answered me. Then they both put pictures on facebook of them playing softball saying what a great time they were having.
My MOH has been flaky the whole time. I had to literally drag her to get her dress and I had to pay for it because she didn't have money at the last minute. Well, I didn't have to pay for it, but I did because she is important to me and I wanted her by my side. The other bridesmaid I am throwing a shower for in 2 weeks (she gets married a month before me). I am not in her wedding, but was asked to host a shower (by her sister, the other one that blew me off), I said sure, I didn't mind and was glad to help. I know she's busy, but I think they could have at least called.
I know all they have to do is show up, buy a dress, and be sober....but I gotta admit I am really hurt that I got blown off to the point they couldn't even pick up a phone and say, "hey sorry we can't make it." and then kind of make a remark about me already being married once (seven years ago) really hurt my feelings. I know I'm a second time bride, but I didn't have a shower the first time, so I think she is confusing me with someone else, but it just kind of sucked. Of course my other bridesmaids want me to kick her out, which I am not going to do. But am I right to be upset or am I being too sensitive and over-emotional? My period is around the corner....PMS maybe?
June 1, 2013 - finally making it official!