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May 2013 Weddings
Writing our own vows
I know this is probably more appropriate to post on the "Vows" board, but I think there's more activity on this board...
I've wanted to write our own vows for as long as I can remember. I feel they are so much more personal and meaningful rather than "repeat after me..." (no offense to anyone that is choosing to do traditional!) However, my FI is having a hard time and thinks he wants to "wing it". I've pleaded with him to not do that because it would likely be a disaster. I've sent him a TON of ideas, things I used to write mine. Two questions:
1) Should I share what I have written with him so he gets a better idea of what I have? I'm not totally opposed to this and think it might be helpful for him to see what I wrote...I just don't know if it would like break tradition or be a bad idea for some reason?
2) Is it wrong of me to want this so badly, even though he doesn't really want it? He used to write me poems at the beginning of our relationship, so I know he can be good with words. It's bothering me that he's complaining about it so much
TIA!
I've wanted to write our own vows for as long as I can remember. I feel they are so much more personal and meaningful rather than "repeat after me..." (no offense to anyone that is choosing to do traditional!) However, my FI is having a hard time and thinks he wants to "wing it". I've pleaded with him to not do that because it would likely be a disaster. I've sent him a TON of ideas, things I used to write mine. Two questions:
1) Should I share what I have written with him so he gets a better idea of what I have? I'm not totally opposed to this and think it might be helpful for him to see what I wrote...I just don't know if it would like break tradition or be a bad idea for some reason?
2) Is it wrong of me to want this so badly, even though he doesn't really want it? He used to write me poems at the beginning of our relationship, so I know he can be good with words. It's bothering me that he's complaining about it so much
TIA!
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