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postponed wedding

luvthebride11luvthebride11 member
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So my wedding was supposed to be June 5 2010 and we had to postpone for multiple reasons and now we're ready to pick a date, but the problem is we can't find a date that works great for us, our church, the reception site, and our families. 

It seems like everytime we try to find a date, something could potentially come up on that day, i.e. soccer tournament, brothers graduation, etc.

Why is it so hard to find a date. I wanted Last saturday so bad and it actually meant something to us, now it's just whatever works.

Is this normal?
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Re: postponed wedding

  • FutureMrsFraserFutureMrsFraser
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    edited December 2011
    FI and I picked our date because that's the date we wanted. Maybe this is selfish, but if you consider everyone else's needs on your wedding date, you are never going to pick a date.

    Choose a date, and then plan from there. If your family wants to see you get married, they will make arrangements to attend.

    If there is a specific venue you would like to book, then decide around what time of the year you'd like to be married (Spring, Summer, etc), and see when they are available and choose from there.

    Whatever day you choose, no matter how random, will mean something to you both, because it will be your wedding date.

    Our anniversary is in December, while it would have been super cool to get married on our anniversary, we didn't want to get married in December... so FI and I will have three anniversaries after we get  married, Our First Date anniversary (in December), our engagement anniversary and our Wedding anniversary. I know it sounds silly, but we just like a reason to celebrate. :o)
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  • janice1980janice1980 member
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    edited December 2011
    I agree with PP.  If you try to coordinate you wedding around everybody's else schedule, you will never have a date (and be way to stressed out) 

    I am not sure how long you want to wait, but have you thought about waiting till June 5th, 2011?
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  • luvthebride11luvthebride11 member
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    edited December 2011
    thats a sunday and i dont want a sunday wedding...we were going to do June 4th but a very good friend of mine picked that date...
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  • alliegator8alliegator8 member
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    edited December 2011
    When FI and I got engaged, we had a lot of pressure when it came to picking a date.  We wanted a fall wedding b/c it was better timing for our jobs.  Well FI's dad's side of the family has about 8 season tickets Michigan football.  So we couldn't pick a date when Michigan was home.  Then FI's mom's side (who is Jewish) said that we had to plan around the Jewish holidays since there are a bunch in the fall.  Then you have playoff baseball (FI is a baseball writer) and my family's love of the NFL.

    It was so much work trying to find a date that worked around everything and was still available at our site.  Finally we said F' it and we picked a date that worked for us and our reception site.  So we settled on Sunday, Sept. 19th.  There is a Michigan home game on saturday and a jewish holiday that starts on friday.  And you know what, the families are all coming to the wedding.

    So pick your date, whatever works best for you.  If the wedding is important, they will come no matter what.
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  • CLTKateCLTKate
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    edited December 2011
    I can empathize.  We are getting married in Aruba...finally found a date we liked and decided we would invite just a few family members and friends.  It took me FOREVER to find the right date. I analyzed planetary transits and everything to come up with the perfect time. 

    We already have a few objections...his brother has to be somewhere 4 days after our date, 2 friends are planning 2nd pregnancies and may be pregnant on our date. Chad suggested we move the date to accommodate everyone else's schedules, but really is there any one date that is going to be perfect for everyone?  I say stick with your date and those who want to be a part of it will find a way.  :)
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  • shigaitesshigaites
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    edited December 2011
    Heard this quote from Bill Cosby yesterday:

    "I don't know the secret to success but I do know the secret to failure is trying to please everyone."

    Pick the date that works for you.  Those who can come will.
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  • ecuchikaecuchika member
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    edited December 2011
    Like pps said pick what important and go from there...for us I wanted a Spring or Summer wedding..May or June...outside venue..so I found my venue and we asked was was open--lucky for us it was very open and we settled on June 4th.  I have no ties to this day until it comes and it is my wedding date.

    Don't try to please everyone. People make exceptions for weddings. Those important will do their best to come.
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  • sunnysarahinNCsunnysarahinNC
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    edited December 2011
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    Hey girl I feel your pain! FI and I got engaged the summer before our senior year in college. We planned to wed that Fall (October 2009). When the economy tanked, we both ended up graduating without solid job offers. I did some temp jobs through the summer/fall, and FI decided to pursue his master’s degree for engineering. I finally landed a job 5 months ago (January 2010), but we still decided to get married next May 2011- FI will graduate two weeks before the big day!

    I agree with everyone else- decide what you two want to do. Your family and friends will be excited and support you, and definitely understand. We chose a date that worked well for us. Future mother in law gave me some grief for it, but FI and I were firm. Always remember it’s your big day!  J

    Oh yeah, to save you some math, FI will end up having an almost 3 YEAR ENGAGEMENT! J Hey, you’re only engaged once though!

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