Matron and Maid of Honor?

Re: Matron and Maid of Honor?

• AddieCake member

  

  February 2013

  The MOH does not have any special duties for "that role." One does not climb the bridesmaid ladder by helping out. But to answer your question, if you want a Maid and Matron of Honor, that is perfectly fine, but I don't see why you think the "Maid" is the bigger "helper" than the "Matron."  All those words mean is one is married and the other is not. 

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• beardownbchs member

  

  February 2013

  Having both a maid and matron is fine but the MOH shouldn't be the person who helps you the most - it should be the person who is closest to you. MOH is not a reward given to the best participant, it's an honor to the one person who means the most to you. The person going to appointments shouldn't automatically be the MOH and her doing things for you is not "in vain" - it's because she's your friend and is apparently into these things and wants to help you. I didn't give a gold star to the friends who helped me move into our apartment or decided that they were better than my other friends - this really is no different. 

  
  

  I say leave it the way it is. Write your friend a nice thank-you letter and give it to her the day of your weding so she knows how much you appreciated her work. 

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• misssunshine17 member

  

  February 2013

  All the women who posted before are totally correct! Stick around here and you'll pick up some fabulous advice.

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• jleon12lsu member

  

  February 2013

  I have both for my wedding.  They are splitting the duties equally (by what their strengths are.....ex. organization vs. creativity).  As for who stands closest and who signs the marriage certificate, we are simply flipping a coin and one gets one duty and one gets the other.  that way it's totally random.  

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• slgirl21 member

  

  February 2013

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_matron-and-maid-of-honor?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:37Discussion:ae3c5092-64e0-4cef-8bad-1a86c1d1188cPost:9320bc62-1aff-40f6-a0ee-1bd615d14772">Matron and Maid of Honor?</a>:
  [QUOTE]I have my sister and my best friend as bridesmaids. Currently my sister is living about an hour away and unable to make every appointment I make, so my best friend has stepped into that role. I would love to have my sister as the maid of honor but I don't want my best friend to feel as if she has helped out in vain. Is having a maid and matron of honor something that is unheard of or is this a reasonable idea? Thanks! Kristen
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  having a matron and a maid of honor is not unheard of, I'm having that in my WP, and yes they only have to buy the dress and show up and they do not have to go with you everywhere you go unless they want too.

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• bumblebee787 member

  

  April 2013

  I actually have a made and matron of honor. I am super close to my sister and sister in law. My sister who is not married is my maid of honor and my sister in law who is married is my matron of honor. Life can sometimes get a little crazy so when one can't make it to wedding events or appointments with me the other attends. I don't expect either to attend all my appointments with me it just ha swarmed out that when one is not available the other is and offer to accompany me .

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