Is there a way to do this?

candyqueen137 · April 2013

This sounds kinda weird and I cant think of how to write this without it sounding weird. Is there a way to invite people just to the reception? You always have those friends who want to show up just for the party part. Not for the wedding not for the food. Which i dont really have a problem with but i think it would be rude to send out an invite saying "hey come to the party part of my wedding" haha. It just sounds weird. Maybe I am just over thinking this whole thing.

musictchr25 · April 2013

You should never invite someone to the reception and not invite them to the wedding. Invite them to both. They can decide for themselves whether or not they want to attend the ceremony.

Inviting them to just the reception is kind of like saying "I don't want you there for the important parts of my life."

Summer2011Bride · April 2013

No, there's not a polite way to do this. Everyone invited to the reception needs to be invited to the whole shindig.

The ONLY exception is if your ceremony is TRULY intimate, meaning immediate family only (siblings, parents, possibly grandparents). Otherwise, it's rude to have a tiered reception.

itzMS · April 2013

These people are adults, right? If so, treat them as such.

Yeah, yeah, yeah, we all know people that think weddings are lame, but they need to be treated like any other adult guest.

They can decline, but it's not up to you to decide.

KatWAG · April 2013

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_invites-paper_is-there-a-way-to-do-this?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:cd062f89-8272-496a-b0ab-225e1f87acecDiscussion:97363578-5fb5-435c-97a9-e1bffeacd3a1Post:2643150e-112d-428b-baee-668c6d5ef596">Is there a way to do this?</a>:
[QUOTE]This sounds kinda weird and I cant think of how to write this without it sounding weird. Is there a way to invite people just to the reception? You always have those friends who want to show up just for the party part. Not for the wedding not for the food. Which i dont really have a problem with but i think it would be rude to send out an invite saying "hey come to the party part of my wedding" haha. It just sounds weird. Maybe I am just over thinking this whole thing.
Posted by candyqueen137[/QUOTE]

Doing this would be really rude. A wedding is one event. It is all or nothing. YOu are telling your party friends "hey, you are fun to drink with but I dont like you enough to host you like the rest of my friends"

Also have you thought about the logisitics of this? So lets say you go head with this not-so-great idea. You invite your party friedns to come at 9. What if dinner or running long and people are stilling eating at 9. Are you party friends just supposed to wait in the hallway?

LiLe422 · April 2013

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_invites-paper_is-there-a-way-to-do-this?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:cd062f89-8272-496a-b0ab-225e1f87acecDiscussion:97363578-5fb5-435c-97a9-e1bffeacd3a1Post:2643150e-112d-428b-baee-668c6d5ef596">Is there a way to do this?</a>:
[QUOTE]This sounds kinda weird and I cant think of how to write this without it sounding weird. Is there a way to invite people just to the reception? You always have those friends who want to show up just for the party part. Not for the wedding not for the food. Which i dont really have a problem with <strong>but i think it would be rude to send out an invite saying "hey come to the party part of my wedding" haha. It just sounds weird.</strong> Maybe I am just over thinking this whole thing.
Posted by candyqueen137[/QUOTE]

You are right, it is rude! But if you already know this, why are you considering doing it?

AddieCake · April 2013

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_invites-paper_is-there-a-way-to-do-this?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:cd062f89-8272-496a-b0ab-225e1f87acecDiscussion:97363578-5fb5-435c-97a9-e1bffeacd3a1Post:30266d6d-4d09-4a72-8b50-b2e69b89896a">Re: Is there a way to do this?</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Is there a way to do this? : You are right, it is rude! But if you already know this, why are you considering doing it?
Posted by LiLe422[/QUOTE]
This.

FizzySips · April 2013

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_invites-paper_is-there-a-way-to-do-this?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:cd062f89-8272-496a-b0ab-225e1f87acecDiscussion:97363578-5fb5-435c-97a9-e1bffeacd3a1Post:2643150e-112d-428b-baee-668c6d5ef596">Is there a way to do this?</a>:
[QUOTE]This sounds kinda weird and I cant think of how to write this without it sounding weird. Is there a way to invite people just to the reception? You always have those friends who want to show up just for the party part. Not for the wedding not for the food. Which i dont really have a problem with but i think it would be rude to send out an invite saying "hey come to the party part of my wedding" haha. It just sounds weird. <strong>Maybe I am just over thinking this whole thing.</strong>
Posted by candyqueen137[/QUOTE]

Or perhaps you're not thinking it through. While it sounds great now (in your head) to have people show up later when the "party" starts, they will (should) actually be insulted that they're not good enough to attend the entire wedding to witness your vows, eat a meal and then enjoy some music and dancing.

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