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How not to tell someone about the wedding?

Melgor78Melgor78 member
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How do handle the when/ where's your wedding to someone that you don't want to know.  I got a message from an online friend to which I really don't want them to know anything about the wedding.  I don't want to be rude and ignore them.  We don't have any mutual friends so I know she won't hear it from anyone else.  I'm sure she can find the date though my registry.  What should I say?
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  • mybestfriendsfuturemrsmybestfriendsfuturemrs member
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    edited December 2011
    Have you told this person where you are registered at? How would she be able to know your wedding date by your registry?

    Maybe you could just say that you are tentatively thinking of getting married in such and such month but you haven't reserved a hall yet.  You and FI are wanting it to be an intimate wedding with family.
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  • boogerbearoriginalboogerbearoriginal member
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    edited December 2011
    Just be polite but vague -  say you're having a small ceremony in Xmonth. (Or even leave the month off) And then change the subject by asking about her. 
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  • FrancesvmFrancesvm
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    edited December 2011
    Oh, I have this predicament myself...I'm inviting the younger girl in a family but not her mother...so, I just tell the younger girl the info and if her mom asks, just to tell her vaguely what we are doing like the month or time of year of the wedding but I keep the details I share with even the younger girl at a minimum. 

    Just be vague...say you are deciding between a few places and are looking at next spring or summer. Many times people ask because they know its a big deal for you and want to be interested in you. 
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  • Julz629Julz629 member
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    edited December 2011
    I would just answer whatever she asks, mention that you're limited on your guest list, and change the subject.  Like if she asks when you're getting married, say, "We're getting married in December and due to budget/venue/size of family we are limited on our guest list.  So how have you been??"
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  • cmkunocmkuno
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    edited December 2011
    I agree on being vague.  Maybe even to the point of saying "we're planning a fall wedding in the Detroit area" or something like that.  Then change the subject.  If she pushes it, you may have to take it one step further and make it clear to her she's not invited.  But for now, i'd just be polite but vague.
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