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Vacation Proposal maybe????

mmarie287mmarie287 member
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OKAY! my boyfriend and I have been together for 4 and a half years now and living together for 4. His and my family have been talking about us getting married for a long time now and recently i found out (by my mother's big mouth) that he has purchased a ring!!! We are going on vacation in 6 days and everyone is telling me its going ot happen while we are away. I don't want to get my hopes up because he is very determined for it to be a surprise and I know that if he thinks its expected he wont do it. But I will be so0o0 dissapointed if it doesn't happen =( How do I calm my nerves!!??!!Cry
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  • bethsmilesbethsmiles member
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    You need to stop. You are going to ruin your vacation by setting yourself up for disappointment. Tell yourself and anyone who asks that it's not going to happen while you are on vacation. Say it over and over and over until you actually believe it.

    I know how tough it is to wait for a proposal for a long time. My BF and I have been together for 4 1/2 years as well but it's not worth ruining the amazing times we have together because I expect a proposal sometime soon.

    You need to realize that when it happens it will be amazing and you'll be so happy but that there are moments that are going to happen before that that can be amazing too unless you ruin all them because you're only focused on the one.


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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_vacation-proposal-maybe?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:71e42b18-6b47-4dc1-a58d-d5a6ef9abf59Post:afaccb6a-5b51-4018-b1d8-48a1da8fbf5a">Re: Vacation Proposal maybe????</a>:
    [QUOTE]You need to stop. You are going to ruin your vacation by setting yourself up for disappointment. Tell yourself and anyone who asks that it's not going to happen while you are on vacation. Say it over and over and over until you actually believe it. I know how tough it is to wait for a proposal for a long time. My BF and I have been together for 4 1/2 years as well but it's not worth ruining the amazing times we have together because I expect a proposal sometime soon. You need to realize that when it happens it will be amazing and you'll be so happy but that there are moments that are going to happen before that that can be amazing too unless you ruin all them because you're only focused on the one.
    Posted by bethsmiles[/QUOTE]<div>All of this. I've feel like I've ruined or not enjoyed events in the past because I was hoping for a proposal. It's not fun.  

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  • SwazzleSwazzle member
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    Ditto PP. 

    No matter when it happens or where you are at the time, you'll still be beyond excited when he asks. Tell your friends to shut it and enjoy your vacation with your BF. If he happens to propose while you're away, it's just an added bonus. 



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  • buddysmom80buddysmom80 member
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    DO NOT ruin your vacation by thinking "it's going to happen".  You worked hard to earn your vacation so enjoy it!  Enjoy relaxing and spending quality time with your SO.

    My friend, who thinks she is psychic is predicting that my BF is going to propose to me on vacation.  She is adamant.  You know what?  I don't care.  I'm not going to ruin my vacation thinking "oh is he going to do it?"  To be honest, I'd rather spend my time worrying about when my next drink is coming instead of worrying about if he's going to propose.

    Enjoy your time together.  Do not obsess about when it's going to happen.  If it helps, get a hobby or something to take your mind off of things.  If it wasn't for this group of women, I don't know if I could keep my head on straight sometimes.

    Have fun on your vacation!!!

    BTW where are you going?

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  • mmarie287mmarie287 member
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    Thanks guys i know!!! I keep tellign everyone to shut the heck up about it but i feel everyone else is more exited than i am! I am trying my hardest not to think about it and just think about all the kool stuff we are going to do. Here's to keeping my mind off of it!! =)Laughing
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  • peekaboo2011peekaboo2011 member
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    Where are you guys going for vacation?  What are you going to be doing?

    I recommend keeping busy to keep your mind off it.  Depending on where your going, that may mean snorkeling or touristy things, or even just getting a few really good books to immerse yourself in completely while you're on the beach.
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  • minskat30minskat30 member
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    Please keep it out of your mind.  When my husband took me to India for the first time to meet his family every single person I knew told me he would be proposing to me on the trip.  I hadn't thought about it at all up to that point and it bugged me that people were putting an expectation in my head and on my then BF (plus the first thing people looked at when I got back was my ring finger to see if he proposed...he didn't until 7 months later).

    Don't let this ruin your trip.

    Tell us more about yourself...these girls can help keep you sane.
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  • Belle2188Belle2188 member
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    Your mom's a real doll for telling you about the ring.  I would be furious at my mother.  Everyone here has given you great advice--listen to them and just enjoy your vacation!
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  • mmarie287mmarie287 member
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    Yes! we will be keeping busy we are going to the Dominican Republic and I am putting together A LOT of activities =) definetly not letting it ruin my trip but its bugging me so much that everyone else wont shut up about it! trying to stay sane !! thanks ladies and yes my mom will not stop telling me things she shouldnt not kool!!
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  • peekaboo2011peekaboo2011 member
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    "That's nice.  Have you tried the bean dip?"

    Make that your mantra.  They'll stop talking about it.
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  • tessajdhSMCtessajdhSMC member
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    I'm in the same boat. We are taking a 3 week trip to Romania (where his family is from) and my family and friends are "sure" he's going to pop the question while we're there. I really think he is too, but I'm trying not to think about it or set myself up. It's going to be an amazing trip either way. It doesn't help that he asked my ring size and what kind of diamond I like a couple of months ago!

    I am with everyone else, try not to think about it. I know I don't want to be spending the whole trip wondering when/where he might do it.
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  • mmarie287mmarie287 member
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    I know how you feel girl. Stay strong!! we leave in 2 days! Hope he does propose and its super special for you guys but try not to think about it. I am loosing that battle haha. Hve a great trip otherwise Sealed
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    Good luck to you too. Hope you have good news for us when you return.
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