to clairify we are talking about my father and step mother, they are now in the beginning stages of a very hostle divorce. If it makes a difference the betrayal was hers. She is not attending. I also think she is going to prevent younger siblings from being able to be in the wedding, or even being able to attend. We will be married in 4 weeks. We have received the RSVP's back from her friends ( not mutal or ones that were, who have sided with her), who are attending and unaware of their seperation. We have not heard anything from them to make us think they are not going to come. there are a substantial number that fall into this catagory and are taking up seating and catering and costing us(FI and I are footing the bill ) a lot if they don't show and a really uncomfortable akwardness if they do. Is there a polite way to talk to them about the situation? I would ask my parents to do the dirty work but that is simply not an option.
any advice is welcome..