I feel like I need one. I want to vent but I don't know where, so I hope this is appropriate.
I just have all these bottled up feelings that are driving me nuts. Long story short: I am afraid to stand up for what I want for MY wedding because I will be labled as a Bridezilla. But every time MIL wants to talk about wedding stuff and I try to say what I want, I get shot down and then told "You don't even know what you want".
Examples:
"I want Sunflowers."
"no you don't, they're too big."
"I want to have dance music."
"No you don't, you want it quiet and simple."
"I want to have pictures of animals for my tables instead of numbers."
"....oh.." *makes a face*
"We're doing cupcakes."
"Oh no! You need a cake!"
This is from the woman who told me she wouldn't say anything. But instead of talking to me, she sends barrage of texts to my FI who (is very sweet but is frustrated with it) reiterates pieces of the messages to me. When I try to do things how we originally discussed how to do them, then I am overriden. Originally we didn't want to have a bar at our wedding but MIL seemed to want to fight for having a bar. Then we said, "Ok, we'll do a cash bar." She didn't like that so "Ok, we'll do a tab bar ONLY IF YOU PAY FOR IT." Apparently, whenever she wants something she will say "we'll cover it" but I've seen $0.
So I am trying to be as polite as possible without hurting myself. I have just been keeping out of the way pretty much because I am afraid if I say anything then it will be an issue. I already mentioned this before (probably not in the best way) to my FI who told me that we probably needed councelling and I was trying to control everything and be a Bridezilla.
I just need to vent and I don't know where this goes. I just feel like this whole wedding thing is so emotionally draining to the point where I hate talking to people about it, especially his family.