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Mixed gender wedding party

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My FI is a girl's guy and I'm a guy's girl. Consequently, besides our BFFs, our friends are of the opposite sex. I am thinking of asking my BFF, my sister, plus my three male friends that I'm super close with. Rog will ask his BFF, his other male really good friend, his sister, and his two female friends he's super close with. 
So, we have 5 each, me 2 girls and 3 boys, he 3 girls and 2 boys. Will this be weird or akward if each of us have mixed genders? How should they walk in?
I'm mainly asking because I really love my friends and he his and we don't want to swap my boys for his girls AT ALL...but both of our parents think this is weird.
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  • aladybug824aladybug824 member
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    My FI is a girl's guy and I'm a guy's girl. Consequently, besides our BFFs, our friends are of the opposite sex. I am thinking of asking my BFF, my sister, plus my three male friends that I'm super close with. Rog will ask his BFF, his other male really good friend, his sister, and his two female friends he's super close with. 
    So, we have 5 each, me 2 girls and 3 boys, he 3 girls and 2 boys. Will this be weird or akward if each of us have mixed genders? How should they walk in?
    I'm mainly asking because I really love my friends and he his and we don't want to swap my boys for his girls AT ALL...but both of our parents think this is weird.
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  • efmcc67efmcc67 member
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    It's not weird at all! You should absolutely have your nearest and dearest standing with you as you get married, and it doesn't matter if they're of mixed genders. 

    As for walking in, you have a number of options. I was at a wedding last year where the groom's attendants came in the side with the groom, and all of the bride's attendants walked down the aisle individually. You could also have them all walk down individually.
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  • AdeleDazeemAdeleDazeem member
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    Nope, not weird.  It's just a new idea to many parents and they balk a little.  But, really, when you get down to it, it's supposed to be people who love and support you and that doesn't mean that girls only have girl friends!

    I will add that sides do not have to be even.

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  • RaeneeraRaeneera member
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    Not strange at all!
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  • PeledreamsofrainPeledreamsofrain member
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    Not at all unusual in modern times.  It also shows that you value relationships more than ratios, which is something to be proud of.

    Just have your attendands walk down the aisle in single file, not arm in arm.  It allows for beauitful solo shots of them as well, and that way they don't have to awkwardly link arms with someone they don't know, like some creepy forced dating game.
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  • Simply FatedSimply Fated member
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    I love that mixed gender parties are becoming more common. If the bridal party is supposed to be your nearest and dearest, it shouldn't matter what their gender is. I wouldn't think it's weird, personally.
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    Another vote for mixed gender parties! My brother and best guy friend are on my side, my FI's really good girl friend is on his side. We wouldn't have it any other way.
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  • Kate61487Kate61487 member
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    ditto PP; I think it's great just how you've got it planned.  You can do the entrances/exits however you want.  Like yours we ended up with even numbers of guys and girls so my bridesman walked with H's groomswoman and they were all still 'coupled up' which I think is more about cutting procession time in half that trying to force everyone into pairs.  In a friend's wedding last year one groomsman and the groomswoman were a couple so they walked together; then the best man walked with a bridesmaid and the two MOHs (who were sisters) walked together.  The possibilities are endless.

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  • AddieCakeAddieCake member
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    We had a mixed gender WP. It's not weird at all seeing as how your WP should be your nearest and dearest.
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  • Knottie_22382590Knottie_22382590
    Thank you all so much for putting my mind at ease. That's what I was thinking, that it shouldn't matter. I might need to borrow that last poster to have the P and V convo with our crazy old fashioned parents, though. Lol
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  • melb2013melb2013 member
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    I have a man of honor and my FI has a best woman.  Go for it :)

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  • mvance3mvance3
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    Not at all weird.  FI has a girl on his side and I happened to have all girls, so there are going to be two ladies walking together.  IMHO it's important to be surrounded by the ones you love on your wedding day...so why sacrifice that so other people don't think it's weird ya know?  The only issue we ran into was clothing and such...the girl on FI's side is wearing a bridesmaid dress but instead of a bouquet, she's getting a coursage so she doesn't stand out too much on that side.  Happy planning!
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  • kipnuskipnus member
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    I had my two brothers and two sisters on my side, and H had his brother, one male friend, and two female friends. We had all of the guys in the same outfit and all of the girls in the same outfit. Everyone looked great and I was so happy to have my siblings by my side!
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