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a little vent

lizryweddinglizrywedding
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So my fmil and my mother both asked me what color I would prefer them to be in. I requested silver or gray. My mom was having a hard time finding something, so I finally told her to find some other ones she likes. She moved heaven and hell and found a silver dress she loves. Fmil on the other hand didn't try on a single gray or silver dress, actually purchased a ugly teal color dress and had it altered BEFORE I saw it. When i confronted her she said "i need to look as pretty as possible and gray doesn't do it for me" excuse me? Who the hell cares how pretty you look. I was just mad she didn't even try to find something. The color is a minor detail, that ultimately doesn't matter, i just am mad she didn't ask my opinion.

Also, i got my programs back and they say Aptil instead of April. So tomorrow i try to find a white out pen to alter that t into a r. I only have 10 days so i can't get any shipped here in time to replace. Even rushing.

Thanks for letting me vent!
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  • orangehillsorangehills
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    That sucks about the programs!! Sorry about that.

    As for your FMIL, she is an adult, and she is allowed to dress how she wants. You can't dictate that. I would drop it, let her wear what she wants to wear and what she feels good in. You can only tell the bridesmaids what to wear. And really, she doesn't need to ask your opinion, so I'd let that one go.
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  • BrittRN+BrittRN+
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    Hmm, I'm sorry you feel this way. I actually have no idea what FMIL is wearing and don't care. Like pp said, she's an adult and can choose what she wants to wear to a wedding. Sorry, just my opinion, but I don't see it as a big deal.

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  • lizryweddinglizrywedding
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    In Response to Re:a little vent:[QUOTE]That sucks about the programs!! Sorry about that. As for your FMIL, she is an adult, and she is allowed to dress how she wants. You can't dictate that. I would drop it, let her wear what she wants to wear and what she feels good in. You can only tell the bridesmaids what to wear. And really, she doesn't need to ask your opinion, so I'd let that one go. Posted by orangehills[/QUOTE]

    that's what FI said too. Im just irked at her attitude more than anything. I also wish she would have at least tried one of the colors on, since she asked me what color i wanted her to wear. I am probably just super over reacting/projecting my stress to the situation.
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  • allychaseallychase member
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    Ditto PP about your FMIL. She's a grown woman and its not really up to you what she wears to her sons wedding. You can control everything you do but once you start trying to control everyone else you cross over into bridezilla territory. I promise you what your FMIL is wearing will not affect your day whatsoever, so just take a step back, get your head together and get excited for the biggest day of your life and marrying your FI, THAT'S what matters.
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  • orangehillsorangehills
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    Oh I get it.. it's irritating when someone says one thing, and does another. But yah, this is minor- as long as she looks good and isn't in jeans or something (which is what I'm worrying my FFIL may do, but I can't say anything), it won't matter!! But I feel you on stress, it causes you to react much more harshly to things you wouldn't normally!
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  • adawn1981adawn1981
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    I agree with PP - you cannot tell your FMIL how to dress!  Not even for your wedding!  I would never do that, not only is it kind of tacky, but do you really want to start your relationship with her like that?  Bossing her around?  I am not trying to be so harsh, but this is one battle that you are WAY better off letting go!  Just enjoy your wedding, I bet you will not even notice what she is wearing until you see the pictures after the wedding!

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  • phoenix870509phoenix870509 member
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    I have to agree with the PPs with your FMIL. I requested my mom and FMIL try and stick to my colors. I have no clue what FMIL is wearing (when I talked to her Easter she said she had just ordered her dress! But she's been so busy with the favors, doll, and centerpieces I can't complain). My mom wanted to wear her saphires, so she is wearing a marine blue.

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  • sis180sis180 member
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    I understand your frustration...the fact that she asked for your preference and then totally ignored it. Why bother, right? Like pp said, try to brush it off and focus on checking another to-do off of that list! Everything will be fabulous...even the FMIL's ugly dress :-)
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  • jordanm27jordanm27
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    Mine asked me for colors she should look for too, and ended up going a completely different way with it too! I was totally okay with the color until I saw the dress! It's a floor length evening gown with sequins all over it. I'm getting married at 9:30 in the morning in a garden, she's almost going to be fancier than me! But I just grinned and said it was beautiful, but it wasn't easy!
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