There is more to this story, but I will not get too into it. My step-mother, and soon to be mom in law have gotten together to plan a jack and jill for us. Initially my mom-in-law wanted it to be a stag and doe, but step-mother (who has been in my life for 2 years!) said no.
I had a discussion with step-mom and my dad last night, as they are throwing it in our honour (which i completely get, so please don't condemn me for making requests as my mom-in-law was encouraging our participation) and requested that we be able to provide the music-list, the pictures for the slide show, and play some games that are age-appropriat to our friends.
My step-mom then made it very crystal clear that while this is being thrown in honour of us, it isn't about us and will not reflect us at all.
Am I crazy or is this standard for showers? I thought when you throw a shower for someone you do it to reflect the couples tastes and values, things that would make them happy...and not just a party for yourselves?
She even said she doesn't understand why we would have music as there will be no dancing. Yet, we are in a space that we have used before, and there is always dancing. I am completely crushed by her callousness.